Embracing Growth: The Power of Developmental Relationships

CPTSD Medicine Podcast

What is the significance of partners in developmental relationships?

Radical responsibility is a transformative concept that encourages individuals to fully own their actions and choices, particularly in the context of healing and personal growth. This idea is especially pertinent for those recovering from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), where developmental relationships can be a cornerstone for mutual healing and understanding. Tanner's perspective on radical responsibility is deeply rooted in the belief that individuals must take ownership of their decisions made during less healed states, such as those related to children, careers, and relationships. With a background that emphasizes the power of reciprocal support, Tanner advocates for partners in a relationship to alternately support one another, ensuring a balanced dynamic that fosters growth and prevents emotional suppression. Through this approach, Tanner encourages a mature acceptance of past experiences, challenging individuals to work collaboratively towards a healthier future.

Key TakeAways

- Partners in a developmental relationship experience significant personal growth and change together

- Taking responsibility and acknowledging past trauma is crucial for navigating the recovery journey in relationships

- Reciprocity and radical responsibility are essential for maintaining balance and actively working towards recovery in partnerships

Actionable Insights

- Commit to personal growth and support each other

- Address past mistakes, shame, and blame for healing

- Practice reciprocity in providing support and taking responsibility

Quotes:

“One of the early milestones of CPTSD recovery is dropping the immature, childlike energy of ‘I don’t want to have to do this’.” — Tanner [06:14]

“Your partner is not a parent. However, they can provide a pseudo-parenting context for a short period of time while an unburdening is happening.” — Tanner [11:01]

“At different points of the journey, there are different types of radical responsibility.” — Tanner [14:34]