Honoring Your Natural Rhythm Over Perfect Rules

Hot Mess Magic

Think you failed at self-care because you didn't follow the "rules" perfectly? Michelle reveals why honoring your natural rhythm is actually more revolutionary than forcing yourself into someone else's box.

Episode Summary

Michelle shares her honest experience with attempting an "hour of being" and why breaking it into four 15-minute intervals throughout her busy day was actually genius, not failure. She dives deep into why our nervous system fights stillness harder than chaos, the chemical addiction to cortisol and dopamine that keeps us perpetually busy, and how flexibility in our self-care practices is freedom, not failure.

Key Takeaways

• Your nervous system is chemically addicted to chaos - cortisol and dopamine hits create physical withdrawal symptoms when we try to be still

• Honor actual capacity over ideal capacity - working with your real limitations creates sustainable transformation

• Start with 5-10 minute intervals - build stillness like strength training, adding 5 minutes at a time

• "Thank you" is your new mantra - don't argue with mind chatter, just acknowledge it and redirect

• Sometimes you need external tools first - using astrology, human design, or even AI to understand yourself isn't cheating

Resources Mentioned

• Journaling exercise: reviewing every job since college

• The oxygen mask principle

• Astrology and human design for self-discovery

Connect with Michelle:

• Instagram: @michelleaburke
• Book: Hot Mess Magic

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Keywords: transformation, Gen X women, authentic living, personal growth, voice reclamation, identity shift, life rebuild, nervous system healing, self-care boundaries