She Demands a lot From Those Closest To Her with Guest Career Coach And Counselor Sophee Payne. Looking Back at S3E13

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Deborah, Sophee's mother, "is in her own world and she's happy there and I come in and out of that world and that's ok," continues Payne who's never felt that she's had to live near to her parents. Payne is comfortable saying, "I care for them deeply, I just feel that closeness to them is not a priority." A Florida native, now living in Vancouver, CA, Sophee is happily ensconced in her full time career, helping other's fulfill their dreams.

After six years, getting straight A's and doing all that she was 'supposed to do,' completing her bachelors degree and getting a Master's Degree in Industrial Design, she realized that she wasn't happy. My guest loved the design work but really missed the one one one interaction with people.

After watching her mother struggle in an attempt to start her own business and fail, Sophee felt so much 'self doubt' that she never thought she'd be capable of starting her own. Again, interesting dynamics between the two women often got in the way. Payne feels that her mom likes having people around so they can do things for her that she doesn't necessarily like to do. "She demands a lot from the people closest to her," admits Sophee. "I think of her as a sun, even from a distance I can feel this warmth, she gives direction, but at the same time, the closer you get the more uncomfortably warm you get and also the more you're kind of forced to evolve around her," reflects Payne.

Sophee is comfortable saying what works for her now regarding her relationship with her mom. It's about "showing my mom compassion, compassion with boundaries."

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"Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.

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“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”

Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.

Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.

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I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.

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