74. Why You Can’t Let Go: Listener Questions About Love & Attachment

Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Ever feel like your attraction to someone might be more pain than passion?
In this Q&A episode, I’m answering listener-submitted questions that get to the heart of what so many of us struggle with in relationships. We’re diving into the difference between anxious attachment and intuition (spoiler alert: your intuition doesn’t panic-text six times in a row), unpacking what activating and deactivating strategies really look like, and taking a hard look at trauma bonds. I also talk about what to do when you're still emotionally or physically attracted to someone you know is bad for you and why that doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you.

You might want to listen if:

• You’re constantly questioning if it’s your intuition or your anxiety talking
• You keep texting even when you promised yourself you’d stop
• You feel stuck in a relationship that feels both intense and unsafe
• You rationalize someone’s hurtful behavior and blame yourself
• You don’t understand why you still want someone who treats you poorly

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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from th...

Chapters

1. Welcome to Speak Honest Podcast (00:00:00)

2. Activating vs Deactivating Strategies (00:02:36)

3. Intuition or Anxious Attachment? (00:05:50)

4. Understanding Trauma Bonds (00:09:13)

5. Breaking Attraction to Unhealthy Partners (00:13:42)

6. Episode Wrap-Up and Invitation (00:16:32)