When He Wants More: Finding Sexual Desire Middle Ground

Still Becoming One

Send us a text

We explore the dynamic when husbands experience higher sexual desire than their wives, examining how both partners often feel broken or inadequate when confronting these differences.
• Sexual desire disparity affects approximately 80% of marriages with the husband having a higher desire
• Both partners suffer—husbands feeling rejected and wives feeling inadequate or broken
• Harmful messaging from purity culture and society creates unrealistic expectations about marital sex
• Emotional connection often precedes sexual desire for many women, not just a "checklist" to complete
• Trauma history significantly impacts how people experience and express desire
• Desire levels naturally fluctuate throughout marriage due to life stages, stress, and other factors
• Meeting in the middle requires both partners to move toward each other with empathy
• Sexual intimacy serves multiple purposes beyond physical release—connection, care, comfort
We'd love to hear your thoughts about navigating desire differences and what meeting in the middle looks like in your relationship.
Support the show

Still Becoming One
Facebook
Instagram
Aldrich Ministries

Chapters

1. Welcome to Still Becoming One (00:00:00)

2. Last Week's Recap: Higher Desire Wives (00:04:56)

3. When He Has Higher Desire: The 80% Dynamic (00:14:22)

4. Understanding Female Desire and Connection (00:24:17)

5. Trauma's Impact on Sexual Desire (00:35:16)

6. Meeting in the Middle: Both Partners' Journey (00:42:14)

7. Harmful Messages from Purity Culture (00:48:00)