The Higher Desire Wife: Navigating Sexual Intimacy When You Want More

Still Becoming One

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Brad and Kate welcome J Parker, author of "The Higher Desire Wife," to discuss the often overlooked reality of wives who desire more sexual intimacy than their husbands and how couples can navigate this sensitive dynamic with understanding and compassion.
• Sexual desire fluctuates throughout marriage, with partners' drives shifting multiple times over the years
• Numerous factors affect male sexual desire, including stress, sleep, health issues, testosterone levels, relationship issues, and more
• When wives want more sex than husbands, it doesn't automatically mean he isn't attracted to her or is getting satisfaction elsewhere
• Approaching desire differences as an "us issue" rather than blaming one spouse creates safety for honest conversations
• Pornography and other sexual sin rewire the brain to view sex as consumption rather than intimate participation
• Creating intentional attraction by focusing on your spouse helps maintain desire in long-term relationships
• "Closing the gap" requires positive vision-casting rather than complaints about what isn't happening
• Sexual intimacy requires vulnerability and effort but brings a deeper connection than solo sexual experiences
Link to the book: The Higher Desire Wife

J's podcast: Sex Chat For Christian Wives

J's blog: Hot Holy Humorous

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Chapters

1. Introduction to Still Becoming One (00:00:00)

2. Meeting Julie Parker, Author of The Higher Desire Wife (00:01:31)

3. Fluctuating Sexual Desire in Marriage (00:04:42)

4. Factors Affecting Male Sexual Desire (00:08:46)

5. Approaching Desire Differences With Compassion (00:14:12)

6. Pornography's Impact on Sexual Desire (00:22:46)

7. Understanding Higher Desire in Wives (00:28:36)

8. Fostering Attraction and Intentional Intimacy (00:32:27)

9. Closing the Desire Gap and Final Thoughts (00:37:00)