Why You are Still Stuck in Shutdown (and what to do)

Stuck Not Broken

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2 years ago 17:36

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You're depressed. You're learning about and applying the Polyvagal Theory with little change to your shutdown state. In this episode, I will share a few things you are doing to keep yourself stuck (unintentionally) and also a couple things you can do about it.

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Resources:

🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

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🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

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Why You are Still Stuck in Shutdown (and what to do)

Stuck Not Broken

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published 2 years ago

MP3•Episode home

Learn about the Total Access Membership - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccess

Become a free site member for my Polyvagal resources and Learning Hubs - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

Learn about the Polyvagal Theory in this playlist - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Resources:

🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy

🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro

🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0

Crisis resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
Call 911 for emergency

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

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Breaking Free: How Small Changes Transformed Eva's Shutdown into Connection 43:42

8 days ago43:42

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Eva shares her powerful recovery from a Polyvagal shutdown state. She discusses her experiences, valuable insights, and practical tips that have helped her rebuild her sense of safety and connection. Focusing on the polyvagal theory, this episode highlights the importance of small, actionable steps and community support in the path to healing. Join us to discover how Eva went from feeling numb and disconnected to living a more vibrant and engaged life. 00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory and Defensive States 00:22 Eva's Journey: From Shutdown to Recovery 08:22 Understanding and Naming the Defensive State 09:26 Practical Steps and Tools for Building Safety 12:01 The Role of Community and Additional Supports 16:08 Tracking Progress and Maintaining Consistency 21:17 Self-Reflection and Body Awareness 22:31 Mindful Reactions and Social Connections 23:55 Rediscovering Joy in Everyday Activities 26:22 Professional Breakthroughs and Emotional Resilience 29:52 Daily Practices for Sustained Progress 30:51 Practical Advice for Getting Unstuck 38:23 Embracing Emotions with Compassion 41:33 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Easily Notice Neuroceptions: Polyvagal Theory for Daily Life tip 4 18:58

22 days ago18:58

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What is neuroception, and what do you do with it? This fourth installment in a five-part series focuses on comprehending and applying neuroception in daily life. Discover practical tips for recognizing the body's subconscious detection of safety, danger, or life-threatening situations before you're consciously aware. Discover the significance of proactive sensory inputs and cultivate nonjudgmental self-awareness. These insights are essential for progressing towards a calmer, more connected life. 00:00 Intro to episode 252 07:00 Neuroception Example: Sarah's First Team Meeting 11:18 How to Easily Start Noticing Neuroception 14:15 Using Your Senses to Identify Neuroception 15:44 Why Noticing Neuroception Helps 18:31 Outro to Stuck Not Broken episode 252 Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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254. From Sound to Safety: Understanding the Safe & Sound Protocol with Dr. Porges and Karen Onderko 1:06:18

29 days ago1:06:18

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💟 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy Justin Sunseri delves into the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) with Dr. Stephen Porges, the originator of the Polyvagal Theory, and Karen Onderko, co-author of the new book "Safe and Sound." Discover how SSP, a unique therapy using specifically filtered music, can help alleviate anxiety, depression, and sensory sensitivities by enhancing the nervous system's ability to experience safety. The discussion covers the science behind SSP, its clinical evidence, and its benefits for various conditions from autism to trauma. An insightful conversation that explores the potential of SSP as a neural exercise to aid in healing and resilience. Buy the book now - https://amzn.to/4cJ7f9I (Purchasing through this link will give me a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) 00:00 Intro to Stuck Not Broken 01:52 What is the Safe and Sound Protocol? 04:29 What is the evidence for SSP? 08:31 What is the music of SSP? 17:10 SSP and neuroplasticity 19:22 Neural exercises, building safety, and SSP 26:50 Trauma narratives and SSP 28:50 Safety can lead to defense 31:35 Who is SSP for? 33:07 Autism and SSP 39:39 SSP and co-regulation 41:38 Skepticism of SSP 47:07 Why not Safe and Sight or Safe and Smell? 52:18 Is SSP a cure-all? 57:44 Final thoughts and kindness 59:12 SSP on the community level 01:01:41 Department of Defense research grant 01:04:05 Outro to Stuck Not Broken Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Safe and Sound Book Review: Should You Buy It? 9:35

29 days ago9:35

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Justin Sunseri reviews 'Safe and Sound' by Steven Porges and Karen Onderko. The book delves into the Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP), offering 13 real-life case studies and insights from Porges, the creator of Polyvagal Theory. Justin breaks down who the book is for, its content, and his thoughts on its genuine attempt to provide hope and comprehensive information about SSP. If you're curious about SSP and familiar with Polyvagal Theory, this review will help you decide whether this book can be a valuable addition to your collection. Watch the interview with the authors on YouTube (or listen to the previous episode on your podcast player) - https://youtu.be/KAPPQwk5LYI 00:00 Safe and Sound Book Review: Should you Buy it? 00:29 About the Safe and Sound book 01:50 What is the point of the Safe and Sound book? 03:47 Who is the Safe and Sound book for? 05:28 Overall thoughts on the Safe and Sound book 08:24 Do I recommend buying the Safe and Sound book? 09:15 Outro to Stuck Not Broken episode 255 Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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How to Validate and Normalize Yourself: Polyvagal Theory for Everyday Life Tip 3 (251) 13:35

7 weeks ago13:35

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In this episode of 'Stuck Not Broken,' therapist and coach Justin Sunseri provides practical guidance on applying Polyvagal Theory to everyday life through validation and normalization techniques. Learn to bring compassion to your stuck defensive states through acknowledging and understanding your emotions and thoughts. Justin walks you through simple practices to help you live more calmly and connected. This episode includes skills practice and insights from the Unstucking Academy, making it an essential listen for anyone looking to improve their emotional resilience. Join us as we delve deeper into self-compassion and understanding through Polyvagal Theory. 00:00 Introduction to Polyvagal Theory Application 01:32 Understanding Validation 06:52 Validation Practice 09:30 Introduction to Normalization 15:49 Normalization Practice 21:06 Conclusion and Next Steps Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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250. Easily Increase Safety through Passive Cues: Polyvagal Theory for Everyday Life Tip 2 13:35

8 weeks ago13:35

13:35

Justin dives into the second tip of understanding your polyvagal state - increasing passive safety cues via your environment. Learn how to better understand and implement passive safety cues in your home to enhance your sense of safety and relaxation. Discover practical, easy steps to create a Passive Safety Environment, focusing on scent, lighting, and physical space. 00:00 Intro to episode 250 01:05 Safety and the Brainstem 07:49 Lighting in the Passive Safety Environment 09:37 Physical Space in the Passive Safety Environment 10:54 Take one step today. 12:31 Foundations Subscription Offer & outro Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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249. Easily Identify Your Autonomic State: Polyvagal Theory for Everyday Life (tip 1 of 5) 18:26

11 weeks ago18:26

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Understand and identify your polyvagal primary and mixed states. This episode covers connection, escape, aggression, collapse, play, motivation, stillness, intimacy, freeze, and appeasement and fawn states. Start identifying your states today. 00:00 Intro: Apply your Polyvagal Knowledge 02:27 Do you feel like connecting? 04:30 Do you feel like escaping or aggressing? 05:56 Do you feel like collapsing? 07:35 Do you feel ready to have with someone else? 08:41 Do you feel motivated? 10:24 Do you feel reflective and mindful? 11:51 Do you want to connect with someone else? 13:51 Do you feel out of control or overwhelmed? 15:28 Do you placate or appease others? 17:05 stuck not broken outro Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Stuck in Shutdown A Guide to Recognizing and Helping Loved Ones 24:23

15 weeks ago24:23

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Justin Sunseri explains the concept of dorsal vagal shutdown, a state of immobilization and resource conservation in the face of life threats. He outlines how this shutdown affects emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and connections with others, making it difficult for individuals to function normally. Justin provides insights on recognizing shutdown in loved ones, emphasizing the importance of compassion, validation, and meaningful connection. He offers practical steps for supporting someone in shutdown, including validating their experience, normalizing their response, and connecting with them without adding pressure. The episode concludes with a parenting example illustrating effective ways to help a loved one move out of shutdown. 00:00 Stuck in Shutdown: A Guide to Recognizing and Helping Loved Ones (SNB 248) 01:17 What is Dorsal Vagal Shutdown? 03:14 Shutdown and Isolation 04:54 Demeanor and Body Posture of Shutdown 07:47 Vocal Changes in Shutdown 09:08 Thinking and Shutdown 11:05 Emotions and Shutdown 12:06 Shutdown and Masking 13:07 Validating Your Loved One's Shutdown 14:23 Normalize Your Loved One's Shutdown 15:29 Let your Loved One be in Shutdown 16:37 Connect With Your Loved One in Shutdown 17:55 Example of Parents Helping Their Adult Child in Shutdown 22:29 Outro and Reflections for You 23:32 Learn More About Shutdown With this Playlist 🔸 Shutdown Experiences Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0wCusCOxhNUTWUAnJke_hpmNEEQ0atZZ Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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How Shutdown can Become Freeze & What to do About it 17:09

16 weeks ago17:09

17:09

Justin Sunseri discusses transitioning from a prolonged state of shutdown to experiencing freeze. He explains the differences between shutdown and freeze through the lens of polyvagal theory, and provides insights into the healing process. Justin discusses the importance of building a safety state and how to mindfully connect with different states of defense. He also introduces his new course 'Stillness to Sympathetic,' designed to help individuals harness emerging sympathetic activation for meaningful goals. Viewer questions and feedback are encouraged. 00:00 Introduction and Viewer Question 01:02 Understanding Shutdown and Freeze 03:11 The Process of Coming Out of Shutdown 10:42 Mindfulness of Safety State 12:15 Mindfulness of Defensive State 15:34 Got a question? SNB: Books 1 & 2 - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Anxiety: Do you need to know the cause? 17:09

17 weeks ago17:09

17:09

Justin Sunseri tackles a common belief among his clients—the necessity of identifying the root cause of anxiety, anger, or depression to address these feelings. Justin reads and responds to a community member's query about 'safety anchors' and their effectiveness when the source of anxiety is unknown. He explains that while knowing the trigger can be helpful, it is not essential for alleviating anxiety. By permitting emotions and listening to what the body needs, individuals can reduce the intensity of their feelings. Justin emphasizes reframing the idea of 'fixing' emotions to 'unsticking' them and validates the importance of feeling and acknowledging emotions in the present moment. The episode wraps up with an invitation to join the 'Stuck Not Broken: Total Access Membership' for further support and resources. 00:00 Introduction to Common Problems in Therapy 00:41 Responding to a Community Question 02:42 Understanding Anxiety Triggers 08:31 The Concept of Being Stuck, Not Broken 11:12 Reframing and Validating Emotions 15:23 Conclusion and Membership Invitation Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Optimize Productivity and Creativity with the Nervous System: Connect, Mobilize, Restore 35:33

20 weeks ago35:33

35:33

In this episode of Stuck Not Broken, therapist and coach Justin Sunseri explores how understanding and embracing the different states of your nervous system can dramatically enhance your productivity, creativity, and overall well-being. Justin delves into the Polyvagal Theory, explaining the primary and mixed states of safety, mobility, and shutdown, and offers practical tips for accessing and utilizing these states to achieve greater focus and efficiency in your daily life. Learn how to create a more mindful and balanced approach to work, creativity, and personal growth. 00:00 Introduction: Unlocking Your Productivity 00:17 Understanding the Nervous System 01:08 Polyvagal Theory and the Three States of the Nervous System 03:27 The Safety State: Connection and Creativity 05:23 Activating Your Safety State 10:45 Sympathetic Activation: Harnessing Mobility 20:30 Shutdown State: Embracing Rest and Recovery 28:24 Practical Tips for Daily Life 33:44 Conclusion and Resources 35:00 Disclaimer Resources: 🔸 SSIEC sheet free download - https://assets.circle.so/4kqd4hwqn8q2g5s1uiggtx8iqyt2 Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Wisdom & Encouragement to Help Your Shutdown: Real People Share 44:57

22 weeks ago44:57

44:57

This episode provides a platform for survey participants to offer encouragement, personal insights, and advice to those also experiencing shutdown. The shared experiences discuss common themes such as shame, isolation, the body's autonomic responses, and ways to work compassionately through shutdown states. The episode also highlights the importance of small steps, self-compassion, and human connection in the journey towards safety and self-regulation. 🔸 Shutdown Experiences Survey YouTube playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0wCusCOxhNUTWUAnJke_hpmNEEQ0atZZ 🔸 Shutdown Experiences Survey audio playlist - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/e8b8596b-813f-4c1c-9466-33db32b96e88 00:00 Intro to episode 244 01:02 the Shutdown Experiences Survey 02:32 Wisdom & Encouragement from Real People in Shutdown 39:24 the Goals of the Survey 41:59 Thanks for the kindness 43:18 Book 2 and upcoming cohort Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Crying and the Polyvagal Theory: Release, Panic, and Rage 14:16

23 weeks ago14:16

14:16

Therapist and Coach Justin Sunseri explores how crying fits into the Polyvagal Theory. He shares insights from a private community meetup about crying as a self-regulatory process, emphasizing that it's not a Polyvagal state but a behavior to help climb the Polyvagal ladder. Justin discusses the different flavors of freeze, such as rage and panic, and provides practical advice on practicing safety and mindful releases to manage defensive activation states like anxiety and anger. The episode encourages building a foundation of safety and understanding one's defensive activations to handle intense emotional states better. 00:00 Introduction 00:39 Understanding Crying in Polyvagal Terms 02:06 Exploring Freeze, Rage, and Panic 05:54 Practical Tips for Self-Regulation 07:55 Foundational Practices for Safety and Regulation 12:57 Conclusion and Polyvagal Ladder resource - Download the Polyvagal Ladder sheet - https://assets-v2.circle.so/sghph3fthvh5cmeudlpxlw85ofy8 Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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4 Mental Wellness Options: Self Care, Coping, Building Safety, and Getting Unstuck 16:43

26 weeks ago16:43

16:43

You're likely trying many things to feel mentally and emotionally better, but are they all effective? Learn to put your efforts into 4 different buckets to understand what is effective and what isn't. Resources: 🔸 Free resources and course in the Members Center - https://www.justinlmft.com/members 🔸 Join the Unstucking Academy - https://www.justinlmft.com/unstuckingacademy 🔸 Polyvagal Intro webpage - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalintro 🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books 🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0 Crisis resources: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency 00:00 Introduction to Trauma Recovery 00:39 Understanding Your Goals 01:19 Pathway 1: Establishing a Baseline 02:56 Pathway 2: Coping Mechanisms 05:55 Pathway 3: Practicing Safety 09:00 Pathway 4: Relieving Stuck Defensive States 12:44 Incorporating Micro Moments of Safety 15:34 Conclusion and Homework This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms. Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147). Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)…

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Beneath Your Emotions: the Polyvagal Theory & the Body's Experiences 9:35

27 weeks ago9:35