Anxiety and Fearing Emotions: Becoming More Emotionally Allowable | EP 316

The Anxious Truth - A Panic, Anxiety, and Mental Health Podcast

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Do you find yourself running from difficult emotions or trying desperately to control them? Many people with anxiety disorders develop a deep fear of their own emotions, believing they're too intense or unbearable to experience fully. In this episode of The Anxious Truth, Drew is joined by therapist Joanna Hardis to explore the concept of "emotional allowability" – learning to coexist with our emotions rather than fighting against them.

They discuss why trying to control emotions is ultimately futile, how the stories we tell ourselves about emotions cause more suffering than the emotions themselves, and practical steps for becoming more comfortable with the full range of emotional experiences. Whether you struggle with panic, anxiety, OCD, or simply find yourself fearing emotions, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on what it means to be human and how to free yourself from the exhausting cycle of emotional resistance.

No quick fixes or magic solutions here—just honest conversation about the reality of emotional experiences and how to move toward greater psychological flexibility. If you've ever wondered why your emotions feel so threatening or what might happen if you actually allowed yourself to feel them, this episode is for you.

Learn more about Joanna and her work at joannahardis.com

For full show notes on this episode:

https://theanxioustruth.com/316

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Chapters

1. The Challenge of Emotional Control (00:00:00)

2. Introducing Emotional Allowability (00:07:19)

3. Why We Can't Control Our Emotions (00:17:42)

4. Resistance Makes Emotions Worse (00:26:07)

5. Stories We Tell About Emotions (00:30:47)

6. Learning to Coexist With Feelings (00:37:08)