Boundaries vs Rules: Why Language Matters in Relationships

The Openlove101 Show

In this insightful episode, hosts John and Jackie Melfi dive into the important distinction between boundaries and rules in relationships, especially within consensual non-monogamy. They share their personal experiences and wisdom from over 20 years in open relationships to help couples navigate these concepts effectively.

The Melfis explore how boundaries are personal, fluid, and evolve with trust, while rules often feel controlling and parental. Learn how establishing healthy boundaries has helped their relationship thrive and how you can apply these principles to your own relationships.

🔑 Key Insights:

• The difference between boundaries (personal, flexible) and rules (rigid, controlling)

• How boundaries can evolve over time as trust builds

• Finding solutions together rather than imposing restrictions

• Building a relationship based on trust rather than control

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 00:42 - Welcome and show overview 01:05 - Defining boundaries vs rules 03:14 - Personal boundaries in relationships 05:07 - Handling different boundaries between partners 08:39 - Example of how boundaries can evolve 10:11 - Working together on solutions 12:45 - How rules can create parental dynamics 14:49 - Living with boundaries vs being controlled by rules

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