How I Became Emotionally Trigger-Proof: Shoshanna's Transformation Story

Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

If you’ve spent years on personal growth—

books, seminars, courses, even therapy—

and still find yourself struggling with the same patterns,

you’re not alone.

I know this because I was there too.

Landmark. NLP.

Polarity courses.

Masculine/Feminine communication workshops.

Byron Katie.

John Demartini.

You name it, I’d tried it.

I spent hundreds of thousands of dollars chasing transformation,

convinced that if I could just fix myself enough,

I’d finally feel worthy, confident, and free—

and have a healthy relationship with someone I wasn’t so avoidant with.

What I didn’t know:

None of these cognitive methods ever taught me

how to break free from the deeper, more invisible chains—

the ones I couldn’t think or talk my way out of.

The ones that were there long before I had the language to describe it.

They didn’t teach me how to process my anger,

disappointment, or frustration in real time —

without reacting and making things worse.

They didn’t teach me the difference

between my intuition and a trauma response.

They didn’t teach me how to respond

to the chaos in my relationships instead of getting sucked into it.

And they definitely didn’t teach me

how to break free from the grip of codependency,

trauma bonds and enmeshment.

It wasn’t until I stepped back and asked a critical question:

Why is all this personal development

still leaving me stuck in the same emotional loops?

The answer was shocking.

Because I was trying to learn these skills the wrong way.

I had a critical piece that was missing:

Embodiment practice.

It’s like trying to teach firefighters how to battle a blaze

by handing them a book or having them vent in a therapy session.

Sure, the theory might make sense—

but when the heat is on,

theory won’t put out the flames.

What firefighters need are fire drills.

They need to practice—over and over again—

until responding with poise to a fire becomes second nature.

The same is true for relationships,

emotional regulation, and healing attachment wounds

especially where codependency is concerned.

This is what so many of us have been missing:

the nuance,

the subtle distinctions,

the embodied practice.

You can’t just read about secure relationships

or watch a video on emotional regulation

and expect your nervous system to magically fall in line.

These are high level SKILLS—

and they must be practiced in real time,

much like a dance.

You can’t learn the Tango from a podcast.

You have to feel your way through it,

making adjustments,

stumbling,

and finding your rhythm until it becomes natural.

That’s the missing piece most personal development programs

and weekly talk therapy sessions don’t address.

ShoSho's story is a perfect example.

She had done it all—Landmark, coaching, seminars,

and still found herself feeling like she was crawling through a desert.

She described her nervous system

as being in a constant state of hypervigilance,

consumed by global anger and self-doubt.

Anything you try to learn under that context doesn’t quite land, does it.

“I didn’t realize how much of my life was being run by unprocessed emotions,”

she said. “This course was like a buffet of well-curated,

nutrient-dense items I didn’t know I needed but had been starving for.”

Through the work, ShoSho didn’t just learn new concepts.

She rewired her nervous system,

discovered how to process her emotions instead of shutting them down

or being consumed by them, integrated her shadows,

and met the parts of herself she was using courses and seminars

to try to destroy, and as a result she was able to

build the capacity to respond to life’s challenges without losing herself.

Her relationship with her aging mother completely shifted.

She stopped using personal growth as a covert form of self-hate

and started practicing compassion,

self regulation, and connection—

things no book or seminar could teach her.

This is the work of becoming Trigger-Proof.

When you take this step:

• You stop reacting from autopilot
  and start creating relationships built on connection and safety.

• You learn to hold space for your emotions—
  and those of your loved ones—without being consumed by them.

• And you finally experience the peace and freedom
  that comes with breaking free from the cycle of chaos and codependency.

Most importantly, you don’t just change your life—

you create a ripple effect.

You transform the way your loved ones experience you,

and you model what’s possible for those around you.

The greatest gift you can give your children,

your partner, and yourself isn’t perfection—it’s self-love.

It’s the courage to meet your darker parts with compassion,

to navigate your emotions with grace, and to rewrite the story of your worth.

This isn’t about fixing what’s broken;

it’s about remembering who you are beneath the conditioning,

the self-doubt, and the fear.

It’s about stepping into an identity that no longer reacts to life on autopilot

but instead responds with purpose, presence, and love.

It’s not easy. But it is possible.

Because healing isn’t a destination—it’s a practice.

It’s choosing, moment by moment, to show up for yourself,

to focus inward instead out outward,

and to trust that transformation isn’t just a dream—it’s a spiritual process.

If you’ve felt stuck, frustrated, or unworthy,

and thinking that you’ve “tried everything”,

I want you to know this: the path forward is real, and it’s waiting for you.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima

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P.S.

If you’re resonating with this message,

and you’ve been spinning your wheels,

trying everything you can think of to break free from old patterns,

it’s time to take a different approach.

I love talking to those who feel aligned with this depth of work.

I’m listening.

I offer an intuitive Blind Spot Call each week—

a 30-minute session designed to help:

• Identify the hidden patterns and triggers keeping you stuck.
• Learn why cognitive methods alone haven’t worked—and what will.
• Map out a clear path to becoming Trigger-Proof,
  so you can create the relationships and life you deserve.

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