A Date With Darkness podcast discusses the impact of narcissistic abuse and other relationship wounds on your well-being. This podcast provides tips for breaking free from relationships with narcissists and other unhealthy relationship patterns so that you can begin your healing journey, reclaim your independence and sanity, feel confident and know your worth, break toxic cycles, and create the healthy loving relationships that you deserve.
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Rediscovering Self After Trauma; Featuring Lyvonne Briggs
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49:19Welcome to the eighth and last episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. In this episode, Lyvonne Briggs and I dive into the complexities of trauma, healing, and liberation. From confronting family secrets to decolonizing spirituality and reclaiming sexuality, this conversation offers insights on breaking free from generational cycles and finding …
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The Hidden Costs of Codependency and How to Heal; Featuring Shaketa Robinson-Bruce, LPC
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28:38Welcome to the seventh episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. In this episode, Shakita Robinson Bruce, a licensed professional counselor, delves into the complexities of codependency and how childhood trauma, boundary injuries, and cultural expectations shape our relationships as adults. She shares insights on recognizing codependency, its impa…
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Attachment in Relationships; featuring Simone Sanders, MSW, RSW
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41:29Welcome to the sixth episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. In this heartfelt episode, Simone shares her journey into therapy, driven by the need for more representation. She expertly discusses emotional regulation, the roots of attachment starting with our caregivers, and the complexities of cutting people off. A calm and insightful conversati…
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Is Racism a Form of Narcissistic Abuse; Featuring Robyn Mourning
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45:12Welcome to the fifth episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. In this powerful episode, we unpack the everyday realities of racial microaggressions and macroaggressions. Join us as we explore the psychological toll, the complexities of code-switching, and the broader societal impacts. A must-listen conversation on empathy, awareness, and resilien…
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Breaking Free from Situationships; featuring Ibbie Aromolaran
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47:45Welcome to the fourth episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. Join Ibby (@sickofsituationship), a dating coach and therapist, as she unpacks attachment styles, "situationships," and how to break free from toxic relationship patterns. Discover how to develop secure connections and navigate the impact of social media on your love life. Watch the v…
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Unmasking Abuse Understanding Domestic Violence and Control; Featuring Krista Verrastro, MA, RDT/BCT
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36:54Welcome to the third episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. In this episode, we dive into the nuances of identifying abuse and understanding the dynamics of domestic violence. Learn about Johnson’s typology and the Power and Control Wheel, crucial tools for recognizing patterns of manipulation and control. Whether you're a survivor or supportin…
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Trauma and Attachment; featuring Dr. Diane Poole Heller
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57:24Welcome to the second episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. Join us for an enlightening episode featuring the wonderful Dr. Diane Poole Heller. With her warm and positive energy, Dr. Heller delves into trauma resolution and attachment theories, shedding light on how early family dynamics shape our attachment styles. Learn about the importance …
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Repeating cycles in relationships; Featuring Beverly Engel, LMFT
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1:11:21Beverly Engel, LMFT and I discuss her upcoming book "Put Your Past in the Past". We discuss why you repeat cycles and behaviors in your relationship, dissociation, triggers, themes around sexual abuse, and how to stop repeating patterns. To purchase Beverly Engel's book, visit here Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email ques…
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The Absent Father Effect On Daughters, featuring Susan Schwartz, PhD
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53:34Welcome to the first episode of the series “The Lost Episodes”. In this insightful episode, we explore the profound impact of absent fathers on daughters, touching on both conscious and unconscious effects. Susan Schwartz, PhD eloquently unpacks how absence manifests in various aspects of life. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkne…
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In this solocast, I discuss ways that narcissists act out during funerals and times of grief. From hiding wills, attempting to take power of attorney, to keeping you out of the loop when a loved one passes, you should expect the unexpected. It's also not out of character for narcissists to make a scene at the funeral. Watch the video podcast on You…
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Overlooked Signs of Dangerous Instability In a Narcissist
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21:55In this solocast, I discuss signs that indicate instability and dangerous instability in a narcissist that are often overlooked or minimized. From hoarding weapons, to having right winged religious beliefs. There are many signs that indicate a narcissist is mentally unraveling. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email question…
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Loneliness and Narcissism; Featuring Jonathan Mathias Lassiter, PhD, Part 2
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1:22:41In this episode, Dr. Lassiter and I continue to explore loneliness in Black men and why it is a growing epidemic. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narci…
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Loneliness and Narcissism; Featuring Jonathan Mathias Lassiter, PhD
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57:03In this episode, Dr. Lassiter and I explore loneliness in Black men and why it is a growing epidemic. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abus…
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Let's talk about how narcissists show up at weddings. From complete chaos to not showing up at all, here's some of what to expect at weddings with narcissists. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and t…
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In this episode, I explore what attracts narcissists. Despite common belief, narcissists are attracted to everyone - not just empaths. Empaths are often groomed to normalize and accommodate narcissistic people. Therefore, it's not surprising that they often find themselves surrounded by more toxic people. Sign up for the Recovering From Men on the …
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In this episode, I discuss some themes in working with Black male narcissists in the therapy. I discuss various themes including being dismissiveness towards me because I am a Black mental health professional, attempts to establish dominance in therapy, manipulation, and attempting to cross boundaries. Sign up for the Recovering From Men on the Dow…
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In this episode, I discuss other causes of personality disorders, or behavioral changes that are similar to personality disorder traits. These issues can cause volatile, manipulative, impulsive, and in some cases violent behavior. I explore personality changes caused by long-term alcohol and drug use, neurodegenerative illnesses such as Alzheimer's…
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Romance scams are rising through the use of online dating apps and social media. People are being targeted for money, sex, resources, and affiliations by people who they fall in love with but have no idea who they really are. The scammer lives multiple lives and often discards one victim after the other, leaving a trail of destruction. You often fi…
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In this episode, I discuss men who identify as heterosexual, living a secret homosexual life. This episode explores the implication of men hiding their sexual orientation and living a double life. Further, I review how these men show in relationships with women and men, and cause them psychological and physical harm. Sign up for the Recovering From…
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Narcissistic Homoerotica In Heterosexual Female Friendship
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26:17In honor of National Pride Month, I explore how toxic homoerotica shows up in heterosexual female friendships. Women who develop a romantic attraction towards their friend, become obsessed with their friend's life. They are jealous of their friend's romantic interest, and other friends. They want to keep their friend all to themselves, and will las…
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No Contact, Low Contact, and Grey Rock Methods with Narcissists
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20:16In this podcast, I discuss the difference between no-contact, low-contact, and grey rocking with a narcissist. I take a deep dive into when it's appropriate for you to go no-contact versus low-contact. I also discuss the parameters around grey rocking and why it shouldn't be used long-term unless absolutely necessary. None of these methods should b…
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Healing Sisterhood, Featuring Dr Joy Harden Bradford, PhD
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49:17On today's podcast, Dr. Joy Harden-Bradford, PhD., and I discuss what a true sisterhood is and how you can create a sisterhood for yourself if you have trouble making connections. Dr. Joy and I explore what it means to heal through sisterhood. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones admin@dr…
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Children Caught in the Crossfire of Conflict Between Their Parents
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27:50When narcissistic parents are fighting, their children are often caught in the middle and used as pawns. In this discussion, I explore what children experience when caught in the middle of their narcissistic parents and how the parents take their anger out on their children. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions o…
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Some Things I Learned in My Career Over The Years
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53:25A bonus episode where I discuss some of the things that I have learned in my career. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abuse at www.drnatali…
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In today's episode, I discuss men who center women. Men who center women devalue them and has a troubling relationship with his mother. He may put his partner in competition with his mother, however he doesn't have a good relationship with either woman. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jone…
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In this episode of A Date With Darkness Podcast, I discussed what a male-centered woman is and the impact that she can have on family, friends, and in the workplace. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships…
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In this episode I discuss some things that we can do to improve the quality of our relationships with ourselves and with other people. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter…
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Preserving Your Mental Health During the Holidays
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28:49Just a few reminders on things that you can do to protect your mental health if you deal with toxic family members or loved ones during the holidays. There are things that you can do to keep your peace, and keep the toxicity at a minimum. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones admin@drnatal…
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Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents, Featuring Dr. Sherrie Campbell, PhD
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55:13Dr Sherrie Campbell, PhD joins us to discuss her book "Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abused Parents". She and I discuss how the golden child and the scapegoat experience abuse in the family. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] To preorder Dr. Sherri Campbell's b…
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Self-Love After Narcissistic Abuse. The Tough Love Edition
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52:54In this episode of the podcast, I discuss ways that you can take control of your life to start loving yourself after experiencing narcissistic abuse or toxic relationships. This includes: 1) Stop allowing disrespect, and increase self-respect 2) You don't need to visually see yourself getting hurt to have evidence 3) Be prepared to enforce conseque…
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Destructive Intimacy Habits of Narcissists
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53:30There are certain destructive intimacy habits that occur with narcissists. These behaviors are manipulative, deceptive, and coercive. They are meant to groom their victims for the pleasure and degradation of a narcissist. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign …
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A Study on Narcissism in the Black Community, Featuring Dr Virgil Zeigler Hill, Ph D
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40:47In part 2 of the podcast with @ Dr. Virgil Zeilgler-Hill, PhD. we discuss a previous study done on rates of narcissism. He discussed possible higher rates of narcissism in the Black community, and also discussed the limitations of cultural norms on the assessment measure and the study. The implications of the study suggest the need for further stud…
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The Kind Narcissist and Sexual Manipulation
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30:01I discuss manipulation tactics that kind narcissists use to obtain sex. I also discuss how they treat you when you are being fetishized for your body. Lastly, we discuss challenges that the narcissist may have with sexuality and sexual deviancy. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones admin@…
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Q & A: How the Narcissist May React to No-Contact
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32:05In this episode, I respond to a listener question who is concerned about how a narcissist will respond to no-contact upon being released from prison. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free we…
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In this episode, I will explore traits/actions of a kind narcissist and how they create the ultimate cloud of confusion. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips abou…
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In this podcast, I explore unhealthy reasons that people have children. I explore having children as a means to appease your partner, save the relationship, sabotaging your partner's future, reproductive abuse, or using your children as a way to secure your financial future. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions o…
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In this episode, I discuss how to discern whether the narcissist in your life ever "cared" for you. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abuse …
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Why You Should Never Get Revenge Against the Narcissist
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22:19In this podcast, I discuss why you should never consider "getting revenge" against a narcissist, and what you should do instead. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] To learn more about Daphne McGee Esq., visit: https://linktr.ee/GoldenDaph Sign up for the free eb…
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How I Was Spiritually Groomed For an Abusive Marriage; Featuring Daphne McGee Esq.
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51:11Divorce coach Daphne McGee Esq. joins us to discuss abuse in her marriage and feeling pressured by the church to stay in an unhealthy dynamic. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] To learn more about Daphne McGee Esq., visit: https://linktr.ee/GoldenDaph Sign up f…
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Maladaptive Coping Patterns We Develop As a Result of Narcissistic Abuse
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28:42In this episode, I discuss toxic traits that victims of narcissistic abuse develop as a way to cope with and protect themselves from further abuse. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free week…
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In this episode, Dr. Jones discusses challenges we encounter while healing process. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for the free ebook on Red Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abuse at www.drnatalie…
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Boys to Men Series, Part 3: Addressing the Mother Wound in Men
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32:58Part 3 in the Boys to Men series: Dr. Jones explores the mother wound in men and how this wound impacts their relationships with themselves and others. Lastly, we discuss steps that men can take towards healing their mother wound. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones admin@drnataliejones.…
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Boys to Men Series, Part 2: The Father Wound in Men
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41:01Part 2 in the Boys to Men series: Join me as I explore the different ways that father wounds show up in men and how this affects men in their relationship. Lastly, I explore how men can heal from the father wound. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones [email protected] Sign up for t…
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Boys to Men Series Part 1: Men Who Experienced Sexual Trauma During Childhood
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46:35Part 1 in the Boys to Men series: In this new series, I will be discussing the impact of abuse on boys/men. I discuss my experience in interviewing men who were sexually assaulted as children. I discuss some common challenges that they face as sexual assault victims and how this manifests in their life and relationships including self-destruction, …
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Adult children of narcissistic parents face unique challenges. I explore the interpersonal and emotional challenges children of narcissistic parents face after dealing with years of abuse. Difficulty trusting yourself, developing multiple relationships with narcissists, problematic coping skills, and so much more are further explored in this episod…
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Coping with Overthinking and Parental Alienation; Featuring Jill Wise
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52:58Jill Wise, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, and otherwise known as The Enlightened Target joins us today to discuss overthinking, her experience of parental alienation, and how she overcame challenges with her child when they started to demonstrate toxic traits. To learn more about Jill Wise or connect with her, visit: https://linktr.ee/jill_wise…
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Married Men Misrepresenting Themselves as Single While Dating (Kiss of Death Series)
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40:36In this episode, I discuss married men who present themselves as single when attempting to date women. Manipulative behavior is on the rise in online dating. Men who create false identities online and prey on single women to use to use to fulfill their own needs is becoming more common. Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Podca…
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If I Can't Have You, No One Else Can (Kiss of Death Series)
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21:12Today’s episode kicks off the first in the Kiss of Death series. I discuss the seriousness of when a partner makes the statement “if I can’t have you, no one can.” Veiled threats are a serious matter and are indicative that you are in possible danger if you are on the receiving end of it. When a person views you as an object that they are not willi…
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When Family and Friends Support the Abuser Over You
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26:52Ending a relationship with a narcissist is never easy, however it becomes much more challenging when family and friends support the narcissist over you. You may wonder why the ones closest to you are so hurtful to you at a time when they should be more supportive. I list reasons why people in your life can choose the narcissist over you and what yo…
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Dynamics in Dysfunctional Families; Featuring Laura Connell
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52:05Laura K. Connell, Trauma-Informed Author & Coach, and I sit down to discuss her family trauma, which led to her passion for coaching around the dynamics of the dysfunctional family. She and I explore what roles family members play within the broken family. The broken family may be filled with challenging dynamics including abuse, codependency, addi…
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