Best Krista Van Derveer And Dr Will Van Derveer Podcasts (2025)

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124. Date Nights, Honest Sex & Deepening Intimacy with Shana James 50:51

17d ago50:51

50:51

In this episode of The Art of We, Krista is joined by longtime friend and renowned relationship coach Shana James for a candid, heartfelt conversation about cultivating deeper intimacy in partnership. From redefining what sex actually means to designing date nights that create more presence, pleasure, and connection — we talk about insights and too…

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123. Abundant Repair: Our Agreement That Turns Conflict Into Connection 20:53

1M ago20:53

20:53

When conflict arises in a relationship, do you retreat, explode, or sweep it under the rug? We unpack one of our foundational relationship agreements: to Repair Abundantly. We explore how the ability to fully and lovingly repair after conflict is the difference between surviving and thriving—and how the right kind of repair doesn’t just restore con…

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122. Always Find Possibility: Our Game-Changing Agreement for When Life Gets Hard 25:16

2M ago25:16

25:16

What if one agreement could shift how you move through perceived limitations, everyday stuckness, and painful patterns in your relationship? Krista and Will dive into their relationship agreement, “To Always Find Possibility.” Whether it's health issues, career crossroads, or relational tension, this simple yet powerful commitment has helped them s…

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121. Addressing Passive-Aggressive Comments (Replay) 27:30

2M ago27:30

27:30

About the Episode: Addressing passive-aggressive comments like a ninja is highly satisfying. It can stop the aggressor in their shoes and wake them up to the impact they’re having. Most passive-aggressive comments are simply unskilled communications of negative feelings. By directly and neutrally addressing passive aggressiveness, we can support ea…

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120. Turning Triggers Into Healing: Our Real-Life IFS Breakthrough at Richard Schwartz’s Retreat 27:48

2M ago27:48

27:48

What if the parts of us we feel most ashamed of—our tender, young, vulnerable selves—were actually the doorway to greater sovereignty and connection in our partnerships? In this deeply personal episode, we share a very real moment from our recent IFS (Internal Family Systems) retreat with Richard Schwartz, where an old, exiled part of me got trigge…

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119. IFS for Couples: Why Understanding Your “Parts” Changes Everything 23:28

2M ago23:28

23:28

Ever feel like your emotions take over during conflict? What if there was an easier way to navigate tough conversations? In this episode, we dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS)—a powerful approach to understanding the different "parts" of ourselves and how they show up in relationships. We share how this model has transformed our ability to wor…

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118. How Separateness Affects Desire & Discovering What Truly Keeps the Spark Alive 18:36

3M ago18:36

18:36

Does absence REALLY make the heart grow fonder? In this episode, we explore the role of separateness in fueling desire in long-term relationships and uncover the deeper factors that truly spark passion in a thriving partnership. Plus, we share a personal story about how the movie The Substance nearly led to a major rupture between us—but ultimately…

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117. Over-Merging & Hyper-Independence: The Path to Secure Love 26:24

3M ago26:24

26:24

In this episode, we dive into over-merging in relationships, exploring the difference between healthy interdependence and codependency. Hear how attachment styles shape connection, balancing differing needs for contact, and prioritizing different needs for contact. We share our personal experiences of the power of co-regulation and how couples can …

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116. The Art of Money with Bari Tessler (Pt 2): Money Dates, Money & Parenting, Different Earning Power 42:51

3M ago42:51

42:51

In part 2, Bari Tessler shares her framework for Couples Money Dates, how to navigate power imbalances when one partner earns more, financial polarization & hidden money dynamics, the mental & emotional loads of money in partnerships, how to teach kids about money (without passing down shame), somatic tools to shift your relationship with money. If…

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115. The Art of Money with Bari Tessler (Pt 1): Money Shame, Financial Polarization & Enneagram Types 38:46

3M ago38:46

38:46

In this episode, financial therapy pioneer Bari Tessler joins us to explore the deep connections between money, shame, and relationships. Hear how money stories and family lineage shape financial behaviors, why couples often polarize around money, and how the Enneagram can offer insight into financial dynamics. Bari emphasizes the power of financia…

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114. Power, Attachment & Secure Functioning with Ellen Boeder 40:56

4M ago40:56

40:56

Relationship therapist and couples coach Ellen Boeder joins us to explore the intersection of attachment, power dynamics, and secure functioning in partnerships. We discuss how power imbalances can emerge in relationships, the difference between secure and insecure functioning, and how couples can cultivate true mutuality. “The Art Of We” podcast w…

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113. How Specific Agreements Create Deep Personal Healing in Relationships 17:40

4M ago17:40

17:40

In this episode, we explore how small yet intentional agreements can help heal deep relational wounds and foster secure, connected partnerships. We share our personal experiences with one of our core relationship agreements and how it has transformed our injuries from the past. Through this lens, we invite listeners to reflect on your own insecurit…

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112. Practicing Mutuality: Relational Agreements for Healing Cultural Conditioning 21:46

4M ago21:46

21:46

In this episode, Krista and Will Van Derveer dive into the power of relational agreements and how they help couples navigate cultural conditioning, power dynamics, and historical wounds. They share their personal journey of creating a partnership built on mutuality and responsibility—key ingredients for a thriving, purpose-driven relationship. Tune…

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111. Navigating Sexual Approaches: Unspoken Gender Dynamics and Trauma Triggers 32:59

4M ago32:59

32:59

In this heartfelt episode, we explore the delicate dynamics of sexual approaches in relationships, diving into how cultural conditioning, gender roles, and personal trauma can create friction. We share our own challenges, uncovering misunderstandings and the steps we’re taking to heal and grow. If you’ve faced similar struggles or want to deepen yo…

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110. Special Announcement For Our Listeners! 12:44

5M ago12:44

12:44

In this episode, Krista and Dr. Will Van Derveer announce a new series focusing on creating equitable partnerships. They discuss taking a brief break until mid-January 2025 and announce updated "Top 10 Agreements" available on their website. The episode emphasizes their commitment to exploring power dynamics, fairness, and mutual success in relatio…

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109. Will: Random + Uncensored 27:10

6M ago27:10

27:10

In this unique and candid episode, Will is interviewed by Krista about the inner workings of relationship and his personal journey toward creating a thriving partnership. Through spontaneous questions and random sentence stems, Will shares vulnerably about navigating challenges – from bathroom counter disputes to deeper questions of maintaining con…

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108. When 'Thinking Positive' Keeps You Stuck in Bad Relationship Patterns 23:39

6M ago23:39

23:39

Are you an ambitious, growth-oriented person who finds yourself stuck in frustrating relationship patterns? In this episode of The Art of We podcast, we explore how positive thinking—usually an asset for high achievers—can actually become a relationship blind spot. Learn how to distinguish between healthy optimism and "false positivity" that keeps …

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107. Sacred Sexuality: More Wholeness, Healing & Connection With Amanda Testa 51:04

7M ago51:04

51:04

Join us as we dive deep into sacred sexuality with sex coach Amanda Testa, sharing our own journey of conscious intimacy alongside practical guidance for healing sexual trauma and embracing authentic pleasure. Whether single or partnered, discover how trauma-informed tantric practices can transform relationships and create more personal and interpe…

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106. Political Differences: How To Talk About It 23:47

7M ago23:47

23:47

In this heartfelt episode, we tackle a challenging topic facing relationships at this moment: how to keep our hearts open when political differences threaten to pull us apart. With the presidential election heightening tensions in many families in the US, we share our own journey of learning to have these difficult conversations, acknowledging the …

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105. Giving Hard Feedback (Real Time Example) 32:23

7M ago32:23

32:23

We dive deep into the art of giving feedback in relationships. We explore how to address habits or behaviors that may cause frustration while keeping love, respect, and collaboration at the forefront. Using a real-life example, we share a step-by-step approach for delivering feedback in a way that nurtures growth, creates alignment, and fosters a d…

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104. How To Start A Conversation About Negative Impact (Replay) 19:14

7M ago19:14

19:14

If you want thriving relationships, having the harder conversations is a MUST! In this episode, Krista gives examples on how to skillfully start a conversation when either you’ve been negatively impacted, or you think you may have left a negative impact. Cleaning these impacts up are critical to the health of any relationship, and of course most im…

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103. Making Decisions When You Want Different Things 26:53

8M ago26:53

26:53

Krista and Will dive into the delicate dance of making decisions together when you and your partner aren't on the same page. From the lighthearted story of their mug collection clash to the bigger conversations about significant decisions, they explore how they’ve navigated differences without sacrificing connection. Compromise is not the solution …

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102. Alcohol: Does It Help Or Hurt Your Partnership? 25:46

8M ago25:46

25:46

A candid discussion about alcohol's role in relationships, including an honest conversation about how casual drinking habits subtly impact our intimacy, connection, and overall relationship satisfaction. We offer practical strategies for creating conscious conversations around alcohol and making healthier choices as a couple. Whether you're curious…

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101. “The Dry Cleaners Incident” (& How We Made Up) 26:16

8M ago26:16

26:16

Krista and Will dive into a relatable moment that many of us have experienced—how a seemingly small disagreement can ignite big emotions. They unpack their own recent "dry cleaning incident" and share the raw and vulnerable details of what it triggered for each of them and how they repaired the rupture. You’ll learn how to navigate those frustratin…

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100. How We Handle Money As A Couple & Why 27:28

8M ago27:28

27:28

Managing money as a couple doesn’t have to be a battle! In fact, it can be one of the most empowering & “mutually equitable” ways to grow together. This episode has insights on how to tackle tricky money conversations, turn financial stress into financial success, create money agreements & build a partnership where both of you feel valued & support…

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99. Create A Healthy Relationship With Your Ex After Divorce: Dr. Jill Carnahan & Aaron Carnahan 52:34

9M ago52:34

52:34

How do I maintain a healthy relationship with my ex after divorce? How do I forgive my ex after a difficult divorce? Listen in to hear Dr. Jill Carnahan and Aaron Carnahan’s inspiring story of how they have created a harmonious and healthy relationship after a painful divorce. You’ll hear how to have a healthy relationship with an ex after divorce …

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98. Sex: How To Talk About It, Stages of Development & Getting Stuck In Routines 37:02

9M ago37:02

37:02

We cover a LOT in this one! Including: Creating a Safe Space for Sexual Conversations, Navigating Sensitive Sexual Conversations, Tips for Talking About Sex, Addressing Suppressed Desires and Fantasies, Getting Stuck in Sexual Routines, The Role of Sexuality in Relationships, Stages of Sexual Development, and more. Fostering an environment of trust…

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97. Q&A: Help! My Husband Keeps Bringing Up The Past (And Won't Let It Go) 25:57

9M ago25:57

25:57

Is there an issue from the past that keeps coming up? Or an ongoing conflict that can’t seem to get resolved? In this episode we explore effective approaches for couples seeking to resolve long standing issues and conflicts that resurface over time. We share our advice to a couple who is struggling with an incident that happened over 20 years ago, …

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96. Household Cleanliness Conflicts? This One’s For You! 24:11

9M ago24:11

24:11

Do one of you like your home clean and organized but the other could care less? Does the majority of household clean up fall on one of you, while the other is mostly contributing to the mess? If you and your partner have conflicts around differences in cleanliness standards at home, this episode is for you! We share our own struggles in this area a…

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95. How Committed Relationship Can Unlock Your Greatest Potential 29:17

9M ago29:17

29:17

Have you ever wondered how to create a partnership that’s a vehicle for your greatest potential? Or struggled to create a partnership that can grow beyond the sum parts of the traumas, challenges or wounds that you and your partner bring into the relationship? In this episode Krista and Will share how they are using their relationship to explicitly…

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94. How To Prioritize Your Sex Life (And Why You Must) 35:12

10M ago35:12

35:12

Is your sex life taking a back seat due to a busy schedule? Tune in to discover how and why to prioritize physical intimacy, with our personal tips and tricks to keep it at the top of your to-do list. We'll also share the psychological, physical, and emotional benefits of prioritizing your sex life, especially for mission-driven couples. Plus, hear…

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93. Our Game-Changing Connection Exercise (35 Min or Less!) 23:19

10M ago23:19

23:19

Do you crave a deeper connection with your partner but don’t know how in the face of super busy lives and schedules? Listen in to hear about a transformative daily connection exercise that has significantly deepened our connection in the face of crazy-busy lives. By prioritizing emotional intimacy and mindful listening, we’ve found this short but c…

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92. Same Argument Over & Over? Here’s What To Do 26:25

10M ago26:25

26:25

Do you and your partner have the same frustrating argument over and over? Or you can’t figure out why the same darn issue keeps coming up and you can’t seem to resolve it? We know all about that! Today we share how we woke up to the root cause of the ongoing argument that helped us resolve the issue, instead of just putting bandaids on it. Listen i…

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91. Great Relationship But No Chemistry? Try This 32:23

10M ago32:23

32:23

Do you have a great relationship but it’s lacking chemistry? In this episode we suggest five unique areas to explore if your partnership is lacking the sparkle it used to have. We also share our relationship agreement that’s the secret to keeping our relationship chemistry and intimacy in tip top shape! (00:00) - Introduction to navigating relation…

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90. Relationship Ultimatum: When & How To Give One 32:58

11M ago32:58

32:58

Giving ultimatums in relationships is a serious, but sometimes necessary, decision. In this episode we explore the circumstances under which an ultimatum might be the right move, how to thoughtfully prepare for delivering one, and the importance of being clear and committed when standing up for your needs. Dr. Will shares his personal experience of…

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89. Our Agreement To Not “Threaten” Our Relationship 26:18

11M ago26:18

26:18

Impulsively threatening the relationship when we get triggered, angry, or unable to work through repeating relationship conflicts is an ineffective way of attempting to get our partner to change. It creates insecurity, dysregulation and fear, rather than creating the feelings of safety and security that’s needed to work through difficult relationsh…

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88. Masculinity, Vulnerability & Attachment 27:22

11M ago27:22

27:22

How can you bring your vulnerability in a way that brings your partner closer to you? What is "masculine vulnerability"? In episode 88 of The Art of We podcast we dive into this topic, bringing smart relationship advice and best relationship practices for couples who want a successful partnership. We share our definition of masculine vulnerability …

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87. Addressing The Impact Of Tech Or Work Addiction 26:37

12M ago26:37

26:37

As mission-based people, it’s culturally acceptable to constantly be tethered to our phones, but what happens when being at the beck and call of our business gets in the way of authentic and deep connection? In this episode, we explore the impact that technology overuse has on our relationship and work on crafting a new agreement about using our ph…

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86. Krista’s Secret Dating Strategy (That Led To Meeting Will) 35:17

12M ago35:17

35:17

Krista Van Derveer shares her journey of being single and looking for a partnership before she met Will. You’ll hear her unique approach on finding love after loss, preparing for a new relationship, navigating the dating world, and her secret relationship practices that helped her weed out incompatible partners to find a partner (Will!) that had si…

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85. How Will “Called In” Our Relationship 31:24

12M ago31:24

31:24

Will shares his journey of waking up on his 40th birthday realizing he didn’t have the kind of relationship he really wanted, and what he uniquely did to eventually call-in his next partner (Krista!) and co-create the kind of partnership they have today. Whether you're single and searching or looking to elevate your current relationship, this episo…

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84. Standing For The Kind Of Love You Want 21:56

1y ago21:56

21:56

Within our web of vows that help us maintain what we believe is possible in our relationship, gambling everything for the love we want is at the center. In this episode, we unpack what that means for us and how we work to bring forth every aspect of ourselves, even in challenging or uncomfortable conversations. Unless we take a real stand for the k…

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83. Why You Shouldn’t Love Your Partner Exactly The Way They Are 24:03

1y ago24:03

24:03

Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss why loving a partner exactly the way they are may not be compatible with growth and support in a relationship. They argue that unconditional love can become a cop-out for not truly supporting one another to step into their greatest potential, and that growth as a couple requires the willingness to acknowledge…

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82. Questions From Oprah – Candid Q&A For Couples 29:15

1y ago29:15

29:15

Join us as we explore Oprah's '110 Relationship-Boosting Questions for Couples,' asking each other spontaneous questions that not only led to unexpected insights for us as a couple but also highlighted areas where we need to gain deeper clarity in our intimate partnership. We get into topics such as: Is there such a thing as a “harmless” lie? How o…

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81. Healing After Heartbreaks & Betrayals with Sara Avant Stover 52:35

1y ago52:35

52:35

Today we have a special guest to talk about navigating the turbulent waters of heartbreak & betrayals, & the power of grief as a portal for healing & transformation. Sara Avant Stover just came out with her third book “Handbook for the Heartbroken.” We talk about her very personal & vulnerable journey from devastation to rebirth. This conversation …

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80. When Couples Can’t Stop Arguing 32:04

1y ago32:04

32:04

Do you ever get stuck arguing a TON? Or “processing” issues all the time as a couple? If so, this episode is for you! Listen in for strategies to break the cycle of conflict, hear Krista and Will’s personal experiences, and learn practical tools and techniques to disrupt the arguing and to foster better communication and understanding. [0:00] - Con…

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79. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 2 22:20

1y ago22:20

22:20

In Part 2/2 of this series, we dive into the shadows cast by public figures accused of leading double lives, including the likes of "Dr. Death" Paulo Macchiarini and podcaster Andrew Huberman. This episode unpacks the intricate dance of deceit and the personal ramifications of their alleged duplicity. In this episode, we explore: Our immediate reac…

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78. Duplicitous Lives? Our Take on “Dr. Death” & Andrew Huberman - Pt 1 24:06

1y ago24:06

24:06

Inspired by people publicly accused of living duplicitous lives, such as "Dr. Death" Paulo Macchiarini, podcaster Andrew Huberman, & Bill Clinton, we dive into the complex dynamics of individuals who excel in their public personas but struggle with personal integrity in their private lives, specifically in intimate partnership. We share our persona…

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77. Sleep In Separate Bedrooms? 25:36

1y ago25:36

25:36

To sleep or not to sleep together? Celebrity couples like Cameron Diaz, and supposedly the Beckhams, are coming out about sleeping in separate bedrooms. On this episode of “The Art of We” we share our take on the benefits and drawbacks of both scenarios, and address the narrative that there’s something wrong in the relationship if couples are sleep…

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76. A "We" Definition That's A Relationship Game Changer 26:32

1y ago26:32

26:32

This definition of the “We” elevates partnership beyond the conventional. Listen in to hear a conversation between us, Krista and Dr. Will, that frames how we view our relationship such that we more quickly can make decisions, work as a team, and operate at higher levels of functioning. In episode 76 we revisit a fundamental concept of “The Art Of …

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75. Example Of Us Working Through Conflict (In Real Time) 27:37

1y ago27:37

27:37

In this episode, Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer work through a challenge in real-time, sharing a raw and unscripted exploration of navigating work-from-home challenges. Without the safety net of rehearsals or preparations, listeners are granted an intimate glimpse into the dynamics of how they work through conflict while standing for both individu…

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