The Mental Offload podcast is the podcast for women who want to excel as leaders without sacrificing a fulfilling life. Whether you’re struggling with imposter syndrome and perfectionism at work, mom guilt, or the overwhlem of the mental load of parenthood, the Mental Offload podcast offers both evidence-based strategies and real-world strategies for high-achieving women. Combining business leadership, feminism, and coaching tools, we’ll have important conversations about passions, prioritie ...
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Go getters always manage to get it done. But for some of you, it’s often “just in the nick of time”. Are you jumping from one last-minute push to the next late-night sprint? Have you convinced yourself that this is simply the cost of being successful, high-achieving, and in demand? I know, I know. You want to focus on the result: you’re meeting dea…
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Nervous System Regulation (Part 2), with Jane Pilger
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22:45If you've ever found yourself trying to stay calm in a heated meeting—or keeping your cool with a tantruming child—you know: try harder is not the answer. In this week’s episode of The Mental Offload, I continue my powerful conversation with nervous system expert Jane Pilger. We dive deep into how you can regulate your nervous system—and help other…
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Nervous System Regulation (Part 1), with Jane Pilger
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38:03As working mothers and high achievers, we are trained to keep pushing through—no matter the cost. On top of that, you’ve probably been told at some point that the best way to be taken seriously as a woman in leadership is not to show any emotion. That can lead you to keep pushing down your emotions. But those pesky emotions often refuse to be silen…
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You start the week with a color-coded calendar, clear priorities, and the best intentions. But by Wednesday, things are already going off the rails. You’re already working through lunch, but you’re about 4 tasks behind where you intended to be. Loads of high-achievers get sucked in by the same culprit: Magical schedule thinking. Magical schedule th…
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Preparing for a Mid-Level Management Job Interview
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37:06When’s the last time you interviewed for a job? Maybe it’s been a few years. Or even a few promotions ago. If so, you need to know that the interview game evolves as your career evolves. At the mid-to-senior level, interviews are no longer about proving you’re a go-getter who can do anything. As you get more senior, interviews are about something d…
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Ever catch yourself spiraling with frustration after a tense meeting... and think, “Why didn’t I stop myself sooner?” Or maybe you’re trying to create an exercise habit, and find yourself skipping out most of the time. You’re not alone. And these “fails” don’t actually mean you’re failing. As women who are used to crushing big goals — especially th…
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Dealing with Difficult Colleagues: The Underminer
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15:34Ever had a colleague who keeps cutting you out of the loop? They conveniently “forget” to invite you to key meetings. They drop you from email chains. Or withhold information that you need to do your best work. Some of them do this so subtly, you may even start to doubt whether they do it on purpose. But regardless, it’s beyond frustrating. It’s im…
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We’re living through a historic backlash against women and minorities. You don’t have to live in the US to feel it. Global companies are rolling back DE&I initiatives. Executives are promoting a “work harder and be in the office” ethos. And there’s the subtle insinuation that working mothers should be grateful for any flexibility we’re given at wor…
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If you work in a hybrid environment, you know some things are easier: Less time spent commuting. Fewer interruptions. The ability to pop a load of laundry in. But hybrid work also presents its own difficulties, like: How do I get the right visibility for my work? How can I show strong executive presence over Zoom? How can I build relationships with…
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Cinderella syndrome is the ultimate corporate fairy tale. The belief that if you do your work perfectly, take on more responsibilities without complaint... ...one day, Prince Charming (aka a powerful leader in your company) will discover your talent and rescue you. With the glass slipper of a promotion in hand. Women have been fed a version of this…
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Have you ever looked at your life—your job, your routines, maybe even your entire identity—and thought, I want to hit the reset button? That feeling isn’t a crisis. It’s a calling. To reinvent yourself. But that word, reinvention, comes with some baggage. We’re taught that our careers (and lives!) should follow a linear path. Get the job, climb the…
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Have you ever been so good at what you do that you somehow ended up with all the work? At the office, everyone needs you to proofread the documents before they go to the client. At home, everyone asks you where to find things. Or how to book a dentist appointment. You’re the safety net, the problem solver, the one who ensures things don’t fall apar…
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Working parents are in crisis right now. And at the root of it? Systems that penalize working parents, by pretending that we still live in societies where one parent (usually the mother) is on call at home. Childcare in the US is a prime example of this. It costs as much as a second mortgage. The waitlists are ridiculous. And that’s assuming you do…
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Most people think time, money, or energy is their most valuable asset. But what if the real key to success and ease is something else? There’s something even more critical—and most of us are running dangerously low on it. That resource is bandwidth. Bandwidth is the combination of your time and mental capacity. It’s what allows you to make good dec…
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As the year starts, most people are thinking about new goals and activities to add to their calendars. I’m thinking about what to subtract. It sounds a little bit radical. But what if the real key to thriving isn’t adding more stuff to your plate, but subtracting? In this week’s episode of The Mental Offload Podcast, I discuss how subtraction creat…
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Does the thought of walking into a room full of strangers and “working the crowd” make you want to head for the exit? I’m with you. Networking often feels like it’s designed for extroverts: loud conversations, endless small talk, and nonstop people-ing. If you’re an introvert, the traditional advice can feel exhausting and even shame-inducing. You’…
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Have you ever been in the presence of someone with undeniable charisma? They have this magnetic energy that makes people stop and follow their lead. It might seem like a gift they were born with. But what if I told you charisma isn’t magic? Charisma is a skill. And like any skill, it can be developed. In this week’s episode of The Mental Offload Po…
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Are you earning what you’re capable of—and what you truly want to earn? For many women, the answer is no. We stay stuck in patterns of underearning for reasons that feel outside our control: “This is just what my job pays.” “I need flexibility, so I can’t ask for more.” “I’d have to work so much harder to make more—and I can’t.” But what if there’s…
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Let’s face it: the idea of “work-life balance” is full of myths and half-truths. You’ve probably heard that you just need the right job, better boundaries, or a reduced schedule to find harmony. But if you’ve tried these solutions and still feel stretched thinner than your worst hair tie, it’s not a surprise. These changes alone won’t magically cre…
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When you have a lot on your plate, it’s tempting to give up on goals. We wake up, look at our bulging to-do list, and think: my only goal is to survive the next week. Or month. Or year. But when survival becomes the goal, it can be a trap. And our values are the way out. The truth is, traditional goal-setting can dig you deeper into burnout. We pil…
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Whether you’re looking at the business press, or the motivation quotes on Pinterest, you’ll often get a one-dimensional look at what it takes to be successful. “Go for GROWTH!” It’s so ingrained in our culture’s approach to success, that you can feel like a failure if you’re not constantly trying to achieve the Next Big Thing, personally or profess…
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Imagine if you could sit down with your future self—the version of you who has achieved your wildest dreams, overcome your biggest challenges, and is living your best life. What would that conversation be like? How would it transform the decisions you make today? Last month, we focused on the important relationships you have at home and at work. Bu…
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Executive Presence. Most leaders know it’s a powerful ingredient for success. It’s that bit of leadership sorcery that allows some to command a room, influence key decisions, and inspire confidence. You might be able to get ahead without it, but I don’t recommend trying! But can you actually develop executive presence? I’ve heard leaders describe i…
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The holidays are supposed to be magical. But let's be honest – scrolling your picture-perfect instagram feed, you’re feeling overwhelmed and under-prepared. For working moms, the holidays often feel like a marathon of endless to-dos, "should-dos," and societal expectations. What if you could actually come through the holiday season feeling relaxed,…
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You’re in a meeting. Half listening, half emailing. Suddenly, you hear your name. “What are your thoughts on the proposal?” Cue panic. If you’ve been caught multitasking, you know the sting. And if we’re being honest, most of us do it. At work, at home, everywhere in between. Because it feels like the only way to keep up. But here’s the truth: mult…
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You know the drill: You're in the car after a long day of meetings, mentally cycling through your to-do list and meal plan…but secretly wishing you could teleport to an island resort where you could finally relax. Sound familiar? You're not alone. Nearly ⅔-rds of working parents say they’re feeling burned out. Even the U.S. Surgeon General declarin…
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I’ll be honest, I had to unplug from the news this week. For many of us - not just in the US but around the world - the US election results were a blow to the causes we believe in. But I had to turn off the tv when the analysts started to weigh in on “what happened.” The sting of watching a powerful woman be dissected to see where she had “fallen s…
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Time to Take Back Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil
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38:43Picture this: a woman with multiple Ivy degrees, running a reproductive rights think tank in NYC, crushing it on paper... yet finding herself curled up under her desk, feeling like a failure. This was Kara Loewentheil before she discovered the truth about why so many brilliant women feel like they're never quite "enough." In this week's must-listen…
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Menopause has long been a sort of taboo topic in the workplace. So it’s rare to see open discussion of the real-life impact menopause can have on our work, our leadership, and our sense of self. This is not just a conversation about hot flashes. Menopause and perimenopause—the years leading up to it—can disrupt sleep, focus, and mood, and even self…
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Here's a scene that plays out in offices everywhere: A talented woman sits down for her year-end career conversation. Her boss asks where she'd like to take her career next. Despite her quiet ambitions, she’s unsure how to respond. Eventually, she croaks out something like, “I’m open to a lot of different opportunities.” Which does zero to advance …
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We tend to think “getting rest” means simply getting more sleep, but what if there’s more to it? Most working moms know they should rest, but here’s the problem: we’re taught that rest only happens when everything else is done. The truth? That to-do list will never get down to the point where you feel entitled to rest. And putting off your need to …
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Executive Presence Lessons from Kamala Harris
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28:43Female leaders often walk a tightrope. You’re expected to be strong and decisive—but not so strong you’re seen as a bitch. You’re asked to be nice — but not too nice, or people might think you’re not tough enough to be a leader. Oh, and please wear some makeup so you look polished – but not so much that you seem overdone. It’s maddening, right? The…
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For many, October means the start of pumpkin spice season. But if you’re in the corporate world, it means something else: Year-end review season. Along with it comes something most of us have a complicated relationship with: feedback. We all love positive feedback. But the prospect of critical feedback?! Let’s keep it real: wouldn’t you be happier …
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Managing the Family Calendar and Setting “Off-Duty” Hours at Home (with Amelia Pleasant Kennedy)
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39:20Ever feel like managing your family’s calendar is a part-time job? You're not alone. Modern parenting = calendar chaos. Your commitments, kids’ pickups, drop-offs, activities, medical appointments, parties—everything competes for your time. It’s not just the physical running around. It’s the mental gymnastics of squeezing it all into the few precio…
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The worst time to be a working mom? It might be 3am, when you bolt awake with anxiety. What is it that’s got so many of us waking up in a panic in the middle of the night?? For too many of us, it’s the weight of the mental load. Those I-shouldn’t-forget-this tasks that your brain decides to alert you to in the middle of the night. And although the …
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Any way you slice it, Back-to-School is a sprint. The extra load?! It’s real. And working mothers typically feel it extra hard. And yet, there can be an unhelpful temptation the moment that back-to-school week is over…to immediately jump back into “real life”, without a moment to recover. This will leave you spent. And contributes to burnout. You m…
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After a summer break, we’re back with Season 3 of The Mental Offload Podcast! Mid-career is a challenging, and pivotal, point in almost every corporate career. It’s the point where most companies decide who has the potential to break through to the top. Some people will be tapped to ascend to the top levels of the organization, and others will stag…
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Summertime, and the livin’ is easy…said no working parent, ever. Your kids probably see it differently. Summer time is more relaxed, whether it’s days at camp, at the pool, or on the road. You might have seen it differently in the B.C. (before children) era, back when Summer Fridays meant luxuriously long weekends to kick back with friends. If we p…
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Reclaiming Your Freedom, Energy and Power (with Emma Seppälä)
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34:10In a busy world, where most of us are overstretched, it’s easy to end the day feeling drained, guilty, and anxious. You might hope that changing jobs, using your time better, or starting that exercise routine is the answer. But Dr. Emma Seppälä, director of the Women’s Leadership Program at Yale School of Management, wants us to address the deeper …
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Plenty of think pieces have taken on the tradwife trend. And a fair bit of ink has been spilled over that Harrison Butker commencement speech. And tradwives might be fairly compared to their vintage counterparts, the Stepford Wives. And yet, there’s something deeper…and maybe more sinister going on here. It’s an alarming notion that’s sucking in pl…
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Speaking with Confidence (with Claire Fry)
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39:29Ever struggled to get your message heard at work? Maybe it’s in your boss’s leadership team meeting, where your input is minimized and the boys’ club is busy talking over you. Maybe it’s when your voice shakes with nerves as you present the roadshow deck to challenging stakeholders. Or maybe it’s at your mid-year, where you get feedback that others…
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In many companies, June means one thing: mid-year season is here. Many leaders give mid year performance reviews short shrift. It’s easy to make this mistake. Mid-year doesn’t feel as important as year-end, and yet it still has a way of weighing down your to-do list: there’s plenty of paperwork, feedback requests, and the like to complete. But it i…
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Mistakes. The word itself makes a high-achiever cringe. Sure, we all know that logically, “mistakes happen to the best of us.” But when you’re the one making the mistake? It feels like the worst. And now, you’ve got two problems: the original mistake, and being knocked off your game. The original problem is now compounded. You might spend weeks or …
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Are you drowning in email? Before you’ve even gotten dressed in the morning, your mind is already on the 117 emails that are sitting in your inbox. Waiting on a response. Email is usually one of the first things you look at in the morning, and one of the last things you look at at night. It seems impossible to get (and stay) on top of it. Email and…
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Mother’s Day. It’s billed as the ultimate celebration of the work of mothers. And in a society that often gives so little acknowledgement, this one day takes on big importance: a recognition of how much you’ve given to others throughout the rest of the year. We want the day to be perfect. But so often, it’s a major letdown. A source of strife, even…
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Good Men and Garbage Men: Negotiating the Mental Load at Home
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32:13Women are more aware of the mental load of the household than at any time in the past. The dynamics of domestic labor and parenting have historically been biased. The expectation: women would and should do the work of running the home and raising children. Even for women who work outside the home, the mental load often ends up squarely on their sho…
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“Put on your own oxygen mask first,” they say. But that’s easier said than done, right?! How much time do you get each day completely for yourself? Add it up: time with no work concerns to attend to, no little humans to take care of. Purely to do as you want… That’s probably some quick math. For most women, the number is small. And women get less t…
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Inbox zero is such a seductive proposition. Inbox zero was popularized by productivity gurus as an efficient approach to email. The idea is that you want to maintain your inbox with zero - or as close to zero - messages as possible. For most people, this becomes a daily metric to track their own productivity. And, I’d argue it’s a vanity metric. It…
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Presentation anxiety. It’s incredibly common, even amongst leaders. There’s that oft-quoted statistic that suggests that most people’s biggest fear is public speaking. And what are presentations, if not public speaking? Even when the scale is small (like leading a team meeting), the stakes rarely feel small. As a leader, you might need to give doze…
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Decisions, decisions, decisions. We live in a world of plenty…and it’s overwhelming. There are so many options, and so much pressure to make the right choices. And the sheer number of decisions that we need to make in a given week is mind-boggling. Think about the time you spend in an average week researching, analyzing, and getting agreement on op…
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