405: Letting Go to Create Space for the New

From Betrayal To Breakthrough

Episode Highlights:

• Welcome back to the podcast after a short hiatus! This first episode of the new year is packed with insights, inspiration, and actionable tips to help you heal, grow, and thrive.

• The focus of this episode: Letting go of what no longer serves you to create space for new possibilities in your life.

Key Takeaways:

1. A Fresh Start for the New Year:

• January often brings "New Year, New You" messages, but real transformation starts with releasing what holds you back.

• Instead of adding more to your plate, reflect on what you can let go of—old beliefs, habits, or even physical clutter.

2. Forgive Yourself:

• If betrayal has left you blaming yourself ("How did I not see this?"), it’s time to give yourself grace.

• Betrayal isn’t your fault; you didn’t know how to think like someone deceptive. Let go of the guilt and self-criticism.

3. Reframing "Lost Time":

• Feeling stuck in Stage 3 (out of the 5 Stages from betrayal to breakthrough)? Don’t beat yourself up for what you didn’t know before. Celebrate the fact that you now have a proven roadmap to healing.

4. Letting Go of the Old:

• Start small and tangible:

• Clean out expired products, mismatched socks, or items you’ve outgrown.

• Physical decluttering creates mental and emotional space for something new.

• Let go of outdated beliefs like “I’ll never heal” or “I can’t trust again.” Replace them with believable "bridges" that move you toward new, empowering beliefs.

5. Rebuilding Trust:

• After betrayal, trust in yourself and others may feel shattered.

• Begin by trusting small, safe things: a beloved pet, nature, or someone close to you.

• Borrow belief from others if needed—trust in their vision of your healing until you can trust in yourself.

6. Create New Habits:

• Start with small, manageable steps:

• Drink more water by keeping a glass nearby.

• Walk a few times a week if exercise feels overwhelming.

• Call or text a friend daily to strengthen relationships.

• Small wins build confidence and momentum, inspiring you to take on more over time.

7. Embracing Change:

• Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Whether it’s small, incremental changes or bold moves like starting fresh in a new environment, embracing discomfort leads to transformation.

• Example: The host shares personal changes, like decluttering her closet, committing to staying in touch with friends, and implementing new business initiatives.

8. The Power of Incremental Transformation:

• Change doesn’t happen all at once. Slowly letting go of old patterns and integrating new habits leads to a complete transformation over time.

• Celebrate every step forward—each small victory is proof of your resilience.

9. You Are Capable of Healing:

• You may feel weighed down by trauma, but the person you’re meant to become is already within you.

• The host envisions you as the best version of yourself (Stage 4 or 5)—free from the pain, thriving, and fully healed. Use this vision as inspiration to keep moving forward.

Final Thoughts:

• The journey from betrayal to breakthrough requires letting go of what no longer serves you—tangible items, outdated beliefs, or limiting habits—to create space for the new.

• Start small, build momentum, and trust in your ability to transform.

• Remember: Healing is possible, and you’re stronger than you know.

Resources & Connect with Dr. Debi

• The PBT Institute: Break free from the pain of betrayal and find safety, love, and trust again.

• For the betrayed – Reclaim: Heal from your betrayal and take your life back.

• For the betrayer – Rebuild: Heal yourself and help heal the heart you broke.

• Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz – Post-Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

• Want to become a Certified PBT Coach/Practitioner? Check out our FREE masterclass here.