#65 How to Stop Being the Fixer in Relationships: Why You Confuse Love with Labor

Into The Work: Therapy For Empaths And Seekers

Do you feel like you're always the one carrying the emotional weight in your relationships, offering support, fixing problems, and being the “strong” one? You may be stuck in the Fixer role, a pattern that many empaths fall into without realizing it.

In this episode, we explore the Fixer Wound and why so many empaths confuse love with labor. We’ll talk about the emotional roots of this pattern, how it affects your romantic relationships and your parenting, and the hidden feelings you might be avoiding when you over-function for others.

You’ll learn:

• What the Fixer Wound really is
• The real emotional cost of fixing
• How does this pattern play out in parenting
• How does this dynamic impact your relationships
• Steps to stop over-functioning and start receiving love
• Prompts to help you begin healing the fixer wound

You’ll walk away with practical tools and deeper insight into how to unhook from this draining cycle and how to be loved for who you are, not just what you do.

💡 Mentioned in this Episode:

• The Modern Empath's Boundary Mastery: A course and live group coaching program to help empaths untangle from people-pleasing, over-functioning, and unhealthy relational patterns. Learn more HERE

📝 Journal Prompts from Today’s Episode:

• When do I feel most responsible for others?
• What emotion am I trying to avoid when I go into Fixer Mode?
• Where did I learn that love has to be earned?
• What would it feel like to be loved for being, not doing?

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