19. Creating a Marriage That Thrives While Raising Kids With Michelle Purta

Mind Your Mama

In this empowering episode of the Mind Your Mama Podcast, host Lauren Trout is joined by marriage coach and fellow mama Michelle Purta, who specializes in helping couples thrive after kids. Together, they unpack the emotional and logistical challenges that come with parenting and partnership—and how to create deeper connection, better communication, and more harmony at home. From resentment and roommate vibes to self-care, shared vision, and fighting “right,” this episode offers real talk, relatable stories, and life-changing tools for moms in the trenches.

What you’ll learn:

• Why marriage feels harder after kids—and how to turn things around
• The key differences between therapy and coaching
• How to stop repeating the same arguments
• How to set boundaries that honor you (without guilt)
• A new definition of self-care that actually works
• How to have hard conversations without nagging
• What to do when you feel like the emotional manager of your household
• The importance of building a shared vision for your marriage
• The role of gender conditioning in household dynamics
• How to model healthy love and communication for your kids

Questions answered in this episode:

• What’s the difference between marriage coaching and therapy?
• How can I reconnect with my spouse when we feel like roommates?
• Why do we keep having the same fight over and over?
• How do I ask my husband to help more without sounding like I’m nagging?
• What does true self-care look like for moms?
• How can we fight in a way that strengthens rather than harms our marriage?
• When should a couple consider separating—and how does coaching help?
• How can I get my partner to take emotional labor seriously?
• Why do women struggle to set boundaries and ask for help?
• What’s one small step couples can take today that creates lasting impact?

Connect with Michelle:

Instagram: @michellepurtacoaching

Connect with Lauren:

Instagram: @mind.yourmama