858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla

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Let’s talk about adulting— actual adulting. Not just paying bills or keeping a houseplant alive, but the kind that involves emotional maturity, healthy boundaries, and conscious self-leadership. Because let’s be honest, most of us weren’t taught how to be fully functioning adults… and it shows. Joining us is Michelle Chalfant , licensed therapist turned holistic life coach, creator of The Adult Chair® model, and author of the new book The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life . With millions reached through her podcast, coaching programs, and retreats, she’s here to walk us through the five pillars of being a healthy, grounded adult. Here’s the truth: being an adult isn’t about checking boxes or pretending you’re fine. It’s about owning your truth. Feeling your feelings. Practicing compassion without letting yourself off the hook. It’s about setting firm boundaries—with no need for justification—and recognizing that your triggers are not flaws, they’re clues. None of us were handed a guidebook for how to grow up emotionally. We inherited patterns from people who were figuring it out as they went. But what Michelle shares today is empowering: it’s never too late to unlearn what no longer serves you and become the adult you were meant to be. Whether you’re starting this work or knee-deep in your personal development era, this episode will meet you where you are—and help you move forward with clarity, self-trust, and strength. Connect with Michelle: Website: https://theadultchair.com/ Book: https://theadultchair.com/book IG: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant/?hl=en FB: https://www.facebook.com/@TheMichelleChalfant/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/michellechalfant Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Boundaries vs. Ultimatums with Jan & Jillian Yuhas | 297 Gentleness: Cultivating Compassion for Yourself and Others with Courtney Carver | 282 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices…

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But beyond the newsrooms and international assignments, Tesa’s journey has been defined by bold choices—moving across the world for love, walking away from established career paths, and constantly reinventing herself. She understands what it means to take a leap into the unknown, to bet on yourself even when the path isn’t clear, and to thrive outside the traditional mould.

Now, she helps others do the same—own their voice, build influence with authenticity, and turn their expertise into impact—without the ‘cringe’ of self-promotion. As the host of Choices & Chances, she dives into the defining decisions that shape lives and careers, helping others embrace uncertainty, make bold moves, and step fully into their potential.

Whether on stage, moderating a panel, or mentoring thought leaders, Tesa brings a sharp mind, a global perspective, and a passion for real, unfiltered conversations that challenge, inspire, and drive action. Because in the end, life isn’t about playing it safe—it’s about making the choices that create the chances we truly want.

HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:30 - Vulnerability and Boundaries 00:01:56 - Self-Respect and Authenticity 00:02:59 - The Journey of Sharing Personal Stories 00:05:31 - Career as a Foreign Correspondent 00:06:02 - The Privilege of Journalism 00:09:03 - Navigating Stress and Health 00:10:10 - Learning to Listen to the Body 00:12:31 - Highlighting Career Experiences 00:16:18 - The Impact of Political Shows 00:20:16 - The Challenge of Live Broadcasting 00:23:20 - Transitioning to Entrepreneurship 00:26:07 - Recognizing the Right Time for Change 00:29:45 - Unwinding from High-Stress Environments 00:32:38 - Change as a Neutral Concept 00:35:42 - Agency and Choice 00:39:39 - Embracing Uncertainty 00:42:25 - Current Entrepreneurial Endeavours

Connect with Tesa Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tesa.arcilla/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choiceschances/ Website: www.choiceschances.coHere is a freebie on Tesa’s website: https://choiceschances.co/freebie

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858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla

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869 | The Reason You’re Not Writing Your Book Yet 16:11

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In this episode, I want to share the journey of writing a book. It's a dream for many, with 81% of people expressing a desire to write a book, yet fewer than 1% actually follow through and publish one. I want to challenge you to consider whether you want to be part of the 99% who never take that leap or join the less than 1% who do. Throughout the episode, I explore the common fears and beliefs that hold aspiring authors back. Many struggle with feelings of inadequacy, fearing that their stories aren't significant enough or that they might hurt others. I emphasize that these fears often stem from a subconscious desire for safety and protection from exposure. It's crucial to recognize that the intent behind these fears is to keep you safe, but they can also prevent you from sharing your truth and helping others. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Writing Your Book 00:01:00 - The Statistics of Aspiring Authors 00:02:00 - Overcoming Mental Barriers 00:03:00 - The Importance of Strategy vs. Mindset 00:04:00 - Fear and Doubt in Writing 00:05:00 - Identifying Hidden Fears 00:06:00 - Shifting Focus from Self to Reader 00:07:00 - Reframing Your Beliefs 00:08:00 - Creating a Safe Writing Environment 00:09:00 - Visualizing Success 00:10:00 - The Bigger Picture of Sharing Your Story 00:11:00 - Training Your Nervous System 00:12:00 - Engaging Your Audience Early 00:13:00 - Collaborative Book Opportunities Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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868 | Alignment and Peace May Feel Boring 17:25

4 days ago17:25

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In this episode, I am sharing the concept of alignment and how it can sometimes feel boring or uncomfortable, especially if you're used to living in chaos. We are conditioned to gravitate towards what feels familiar, even if it’s not what we truly want. Our subconscious minds often choose chaos over peace because it’s what we know. I emphasize that if you find yourself repeatedly returning to unhealthy relationships or stressful situations, it’s likely because they feel normal to you. Imagine what it would feel like to train and reprogram your subconscious mind to become familiar with peace instead of chaos. You can create a whole new baseline. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction and Gratitude for Listener Feedback 00:01:15 - Finding Your Unique Way 00:02:30 - Understanding Familiarity and Chaos 00:04:00 - The Importance of Rewiring Your Nervous System 00:05:50 - Recognizing Boredom as Alignment 00:07:30 - The Role of Consistency in Long-Term Success 00:09:00 - Celebrating Progress and Achievements 00:10:30 - Future Pacing and Visualizing Success 00:12:00 - Creating Achievable Outcomes 00:13:30 - Grounded Leadership Amidst Chaos 00:15:00 - Embracing Peace and Healing Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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867 | The Power of "Be, Do, Have" with Jim Fortin 1:08:36

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In this episode, Jim, host of the top-ranked Transform Your Life From The Inside Out podcast, is an internationally recognized expert in subconscious personal transformation who has coached global superstars for over 32 years, blending brain-based science, psychology, and ancient wisdom to help people evolve and live better lives. Jim’s podcast, Transform Your Life from the Inside Out, emphasizes that true transformation begins within. He explained the essence of the "Be, Do, Have" philosophy, which asserts that one must first embody the qualities they wish to achieve before taking action and ultimately receiving the results. HIGHLIGHTS 00:03:40 - The Concept of Be, Do, Have 00:05:00 - Identity and Mindset 00:08:10 - The Power of Imagination 00:10:30 - Fear and Habits 00:12:30 - Breaking Free from Identity 00:15:00 - Gratitude and Abundance 00:17:00 - Practicing Gratitude 00:19:30 - The Importance of Water and Energy 00:22:00 - Personal Journey and Transformation 00:25:00 - The Power of Choice 00:28:00 - Authenticity and Impact 00:30:00 - Patterns and Self-Talk 00:33:00 - Perspective on Death 00:36:00 - Living with Purpose 00:39:00 - Manifesting Backwards 00:44:00 - Empowerment and Creation Connect with Jim Website: https://www.jimfortin.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjimfortin/ Free Gift for you: https://www.jimfortin.com /marsha Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG. Click HERE Subscribe on YouTube. Click HERE…

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866 | The Most Freeing Lesson I’ve Ever Learned 16:38

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In this episode, I am sharing my take on the concept of "Let Them," inspired by Mel Robbins' teachings. I share my own journey and the lessons I've learned about control, choice, and the importance of allowing others to navigate their paths. I begin by reflecting on my experience attending a Mel Robbins event, where her powerful message resonated with me, despite my initial discomfort. I discuss how the idea of "Let Them" felt foreign to me as a parent who has faced the challenges of teen substance abuse. For me, the concept was not just about relinquishing control over trivial matters like prom; it was a matter of survival. I had to learn to let my children make their own choices, even when those choices were difficult for me to understand. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:23 - Inspiration from Mel Robbins 00:01:05 - The Concept of "Let Them" 00:02:31 - Survival Through Letting Go 00:03:37 - Lessons from Parenting Challenges 00:04:52 - The Illusion of Control 00:06:37 - The Power of Releasing Control 00:08:11 - Personal Responsibility and Choices 00:09:57 - Finding Safety Within 00:11:02 - Living at Cause 00:12:47 - Reclaiming Personal Power Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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865 | Reclaiming Your Power: The Metaphor of the Plug and the Wall 10:14

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In this episode, I share the power of metaphors and how they can help us understand our subconscious mind. I share a compelling metaphor involving two electrical outlets, one representing our past and the other our future. On the left side, we have the "old plug," connected to our daily thoughts, old patterns, and negative beliefs—essentially everything that has shaped who we are up to this point. This side is familiar and feels safe, but it often keeps us in a negative cycle. On the right side, we have the "new plug," which symbolizes our future potential, aspirations, and the identity we are striving to become. This outlet is connected to our visions and the possibilities that lie ahead. Every thought we have throughout the day is like a choice to plug into one of these outlets. The challenge is becoming aware of which plug we are connecting to and consciously choosing the one that aligns with our desired future. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Metaphors 00:00:12 - The Concept of Two Plugs 00:00:43 - Old Thoughts and Patterns 00:01:37 - The Future Plug 00:02:30 - Choosing Your Plug 00:03:45 - Reinforcing Neural Pathways 00:04:58 - Conscious Awareness and Unplugging 00:06:22 - Empowerment and Energy 00:07:25 - Changing Your Story 00:08:08 - Becoming Your Future Self Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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864 | WORDS YOU Speak and Think Matter with Krista Lee Curtis 55:56

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In this episode, I connect with CEO & FOUNDER of the DBL JEWELLERY EMPOWERMENT MOVEMENT, KRISTA LEE. Krista is the visionary founder of a luxury women’s empowerment jewelry brand dedicated to inspiring women to embrace their strength, self-worth, and purpose. Her journey began after overcoming personal struggles, including depression and body dysmorphia, finding healing through creativity and the power of words. She believes that everything we need is already within us—we just have to take the steps forward each day toward our dreams. Through her transformative jewelry, she empowers women to trust their inner guidance, embrace their calling, and show up for themselves confidently and purposefully. HIGHLIGHTS 00:05:30 - The Power of Colour and Self-Expression 00:10:00 - Hiding in Plain Sight 00:15:00 - Postpartum Struggles and Rock Bottom 00:20:00 - The Healing Power of Writing 00:25:00 - Creating Jewelry as a Form of Empowerment 00:30:00 - The Evolution of the Jewelry Business 00:35:00 - Colour Nation and Seasonal Collections 00:40:00 - Vision for the Future 00:45:00 - Navigating Fear of Success Connect with Krista Lee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbldesigns3/ Email: info@dbldesigns.ca Website: https://dbldesigns.ca/ We have a luxury jewellery brand, each Piece 🖤🖤🖤🖤 designed to uplift, inspire, and encourage women to be all that they are… You can shop any of these pieces directly on our website … https://dbldesigns.ca/ Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG. Click HERE Subscribe on YouTube. Click HERE…

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863 | You Don’t Chase the Vision — You Become It First 16:57

15 days ago16:57

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In this episode, I share the concept of becoming the version of ourselves that can hold our dreams before we chase them. Our nervous systems must feel safe and regulated to pursue our goals effectively. If we rush into chasing what we want without first anchoring into our identity, we risk operating from a place of lack rather than power. I share my journey of deciding to publish "Unreserved," highlighting the month I took to reflect on whether I was ready for such a significant commitment. This pause allowed me to assess my beliefs, emotional state, and the blocks that could hinder my ability to lead and sustain the energy of this project. If we chase our goals without addressing our internal barriers, we may experience burnout, self-sabotage, and the inability to sustain the results we are constructing and creating. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Welcome and Book Launch Reflections 00:01:15 - The Importance of Becoming Before Doing 00:02:50 - Understanding the Nervous System and Subconscious Mind 00:05:06 - Anchoring into Identity Before Pursuing Goals 00:06:31 - Addressing Limiting Beliefs and Inner Resistance 00:08:07 - Regulating Your Nervous System for Success 00:09:32 - Stacking Wins and Building Confidence 00:10:25 - Moving from Clarity, Not Chaos 00:11:18 - Preparing Your Nervous System for New Experiences 00:12:53 - Building a Solid Foundation for Sustainable Success 00:14:08 - The Importance of Rest and Reintegration Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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862 | Identity Work Isn’t a One-Time Breakthrough 14:13

18 days ago14:13

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In this episode, I share the journey of identity work and the ongoing process of breaking down limiting beliefs. After the exhilarating experience of the unreserved book launch party, which involved coordinating with 24 different authors and connecting with women from around the globe, I reflect on the personal growth from such expansive experiences. I emphasize that identity work is not a one-time breakthrough but rather a continuous process of chipping away at the concrete walls of limiting beliefs we have built over the years, if not decades. I share a powerful metaphor: just as you cannot smash through a thick concrete wall in one swing, you must chip away at it gradually. This analogy illustrates how we can shift our identities by consistently challenging and replacing our limiting beliefs. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Process of Identity Expansion 00:02:00 - Understanding Breakthroughs 00:03:00 - Chipping Away at Limiting Beliefs 00:04:00 - The Role of the Subconscious Mind 00:05:00 - Identifying Limiting Beliefs 00:06:00 - Rewiring Beliefs 00:07:00 - Finding Evidence of Change 00:08:00 - Anchoring New Beliefs 00:09:00 - Daily Commitment to Change 00:10:00 - The Decision to Change 00:11:00 - Final Thoughts and Support Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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861 | It's Never Too Late to Reparent Yourself with Johanna Gordon 40:39

19 days ago40:39

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In this episode, I connect with Health and Wellness Coach Johanna Gordon. In 2019, Johanna experienced the heartbreaking loss of her mother to cancer after years of struggling with alcoholism. This loss was the catalyst of Johanna's healing journey, prompting her to seek therapeutic avenues and ultimately leading her to reevaluate her life choices. She candidly shared her feelings of stagnation and the realization that she needed to make significant changes to live a more fulfilling life. This profound loss deeply affected her, inspiring a renewed commitment to prioritize her mental and emotional health. Johanna’s healing journey became transformative, strengthening her dedication to nurturing her physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Along the way, she explored various therapeutic modalities and discovered a passion for supporting others in their own health journeys. Her perspective on reparenting oneself and nurturing the inner child resonated deeply, highlighting the transformative power of self-love and acceptance. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:29 - Johanna's Background 00:01:51 - Understanding Biohacking 00:02:51 - Cellular Health Explained 00:03:51 - Personal Experiences with Biohacking 00:05:14 - Client Success Stories 00:05:26 - Practicing What You Preach 00:06:30 - The Importance of Parasympathetic State 00:09:02 - Tools for Managing Stress 00:10:36 - The Impact of High Cortisol Levels 00:11:30 - Emotional Awareness and Healing 00:13:39 - Coping with Loss and Trauma 00:15:08 - Building a New Life 00:24:08 - Lessons from Grief 00:26:07 - Healing Generational Trauma 00:27:44 - Navigating Grief 00:30:07 - Embracing Emotions 00:32:14 - Changing the Narrative 00:34:45 - Future Aspirations Connect with Johanna Email: johanna@foodmoodgratitude.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/food_mood_gratitude/ Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG. Click HERE Subscribe on YouTube. Click HERE…

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860 | How to Shift from Lack to Abundance 16:53

22 days ago16:53

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In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on the difference between reacting and responding and how this is connected to a lack or abundance mindset. As we navigate through life’s challenges, especially when we feel overwhelmed, it’s easy to slip into a reactive mode. Our reactions, which often stem from a place of lack and frustration, continues to reinforce the reality we are living in, and how, by reacting, we may inadvertently be fighting for our limitations. Whatever limitations we fight for, we get to keep. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:04 - Reacting vs. Responding 00:02:07 - The Impact of Reactions 00:03:42 - Navigating Life's Demands 00:04:24 - Reinforcing Limitations 00:05:17 - Interrupting the Reaction Pattern 00:06:31 - The Metaphor of a Parasite 00:07:57 - Catching the Reaction 00:09:14 - Building Capacity Through Awareness 00:10:01 - Choosing Safety Without Evidence 00:10:54 - Anchoring into Your Highest Self 00:12:01 - Feeling Wealthy Amidst Lack 00:13:13 - Shifting from Reactivity to Empowerment 00:14:07 - Starving the Reaction Patterns 00:14:40 - Reclaiming Personal Power Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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859 | You're Seeing What You're Programmed to Look For 15:40

25 days ago15:40

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In this episode, I share thoughts on perception and how our brains filter the overwhelming amount of information we encounter daily. I start by expressing my gratitude to listeners for their support and shares, emphasizing the importance of being open to new perspectives and solutions that may be hidden from our view. I introduce the idea that we are not seeing reality as it truly is; instead, we only perceive what we are programmed to look for. With our brains processing 11 million bits of information every second, our conscious minds can only handle about 40 to 50 bits at a time. This means that what we consciously perceive is merely a fraction—0.0004%—of the reality around us. I explain how our brains delete, distort, and generalize information based on our beliefs and focus, which can significantly limit our understanding of the wrld. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:12 - Perception of Reality 00:00:45 - Information Overload 00:01:59 - Conscious vs. Subconscious Processing 00:03:06 - The Role of Filters 00:04:31 - The Reticular Activating System (RAS) 00:06:38 - Examples of Perception 00:08:04 - Beliefs and Interpretation 00:09:10 - Shifting Your Mindset 00:10:47 - Finding Solutions 00:12:25 - Stacking Wins Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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858 | The Power of Seeing Change As Neutral with Tesa Arcilla 59:51

26 days ago59:51

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In this episode, I am connecting with Tesa Arcilla. Tesa has never taken the conventional route—personally or professionally. A journalist by training and driven by an insatiable curiosity, she has lived and worked across multiple continents, carving out a career that defies easy labels. From live broadcasts at NBC and CBC to moderating high-stakes political debates for Euronews and the European Commission, she has spent over 20 years asking the tough questions, navigating complex global issues, and making sense of the world’s turning points. But beyond the newsrooms and international assignments, Tesa’s journey has been defined by bold choices—moving across the world for love, walking away from established career paths, and constantly reinventing herself. She understands what it means to take a leap into the unknown, to bet on yourself even when the path isn’t clear, and to thrive outside the traditional mould. Now, she helps others do the same—own their voice, build influence with authenticity, and turn their expertise into impact—without the ‘cringe’ of self-promotion. As the host of Choices & Chances, she dives into the defining decisions that shape lives and careers, helping others embrace uncertainty, make bold moves, and step fully into their potential. Whether on stage, moderating a panel, or mentoring thought leaders, Tesa brings a sharp mind, a global perspective, and a passion for real, unfiltered conversations that challenge, inspire, and drive action. Because in the end, life isn’t about playing it safe—it’s about making the choices that create the chances we truly want. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:30 - Vulnerability and Boundaries 00:01:56 - Self-Respect and Authenticity 00:02:59 - The Journey of Sharing Personal Stories 00:05:31 - Career as a Foreign Correspondent 00:06:02 - The Privilege of Journalism 00:09:03 - Navigating Stress and Health 00:10:10 - Learning to Listen to the Body 00:12:31 - Highlighting Career Experiences 00:16:18 - The Impact of Political Shows 00:20:16 - The Challenge of Live Broadcasting 00:23:20 - Transitioning to Entrepreneurship 00:26:07 - Recognizing the Right Time for Change 00:29:45 - Unwinding from High-Stress Environments 00:32:38 - Change as a Neutral Concept 00:35:42 - Agency and Choice 00:39:39 - Embracing Uncertainty 00:42:25 - Current Entrepreneurial Endeavours Connect with Tesa Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tesa.arcilla/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/choiceschances/ Website: www.choiceschances.co Here is a freebie on Tesa’s website: https://choiceschances.co/freebie Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG. Click HERE Subscribe on YouTube. Click HERE…

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857 | Holding The Vision When You Can’t See It Yet 16:39

29 days ago16:39

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In this episode, I ask the question, "Can you hold a vision when you can't see it yet?" I challenge the notion that we must wait for tangible evidence, like a certain bank balance or a fully booked calendar, before we can embody the person capable of achieving our dreams. We must first become that person internally to sustain the success we desire. Drawing from my personal experience, I recount my journey from being a kinesiologist for 27 years to embracing my calling as a coach. In 2019, I felt an unshakeable intuition that I would transition into coaching, despite not having a clear plan or business. Through continuous challenges and roadblocks, I continued to write and trust that I was being guided toward something greater. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:05 - The Challenge of Holding a Vision 00:02:32 - Personal Story: Transitioning Careers 00:03:36 - Identity Shift During Uncertainty 00:05:09 - The Role of Identity in Achieving Goals 00:06:34 - Repetition and Reprogramming 00:07:48 - Building a Bridge to Your Vision 00:09:14 - Self-Leadership and Vision 00:10:39 - Visualizing Your Future Self 00:12:07 - Celebrating Growth and Progress 00:13:43 - Upcoming Events and Community 00:14:15 - Encouragement to Pursue Goals Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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856 | What You Ask For Won’t Show Up How You Expect 17:04

5 weeks ago17:04

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In this episode, I am sharing about the unexpected ways in which our desires manifest. I want to keep it real and share my insights on how asking the universe for something big often leads to challenges and discomfort rather than immediate fulfillment. I begin by discussing the concept of expansion and contraction, emphasizing that when we seek growth, whether it’s in our personal lives, careers, or finances, we often encounter obstacles that feel like setbacks. I share my own journey of asking for expansion this year, only to face a series of personal and professional challenges that left me feeling like I was experiencing the opposite of what I desired. In one example, I share how my husband’s injury during a crucial competition I illustrate how life can throw us curveballs just when we think we’re on the right path. I reflect on the emotional turmoil that comes with these experiences and how they serve as lessons to help us grow into the versions of ourselves that can truly hold our dreams. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Nature of Asking for Growth 00:02:00 - Lessons vs. Dreams: The Reality of Expansion 00:04:00 - Recognizing Contraction as Evidence of Growth 00:05:00 - Reframing Your Perspective on Challenges 00:06:00 - Handling Abundance and Contraction 00:07:00 - The Importance of Trusting the Process 00:08:00 - Identifying What You Asked For This Year 00:09:00 - The Role of Your Subconscious Mind 00:10:00 - Rewiring Your Beliefs Through Consistency 00:11:00 - Emotional Regulation Techniques 00:12:00 - Leadership in Difficult Times 00:13:00 - The Universe is Preparing You 00:14:00 - Embracing Challenges as Part of Growth Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE . Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE…

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855 | How Far Can Your Voice and Story Reach with Amanda Sellers 58:44

5 weeks ago58:44