When Grief Strikes Differently: Finding Your Path to Healing

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In this heartfelt episode of the Decoding Success Podcast, I'm opening up to you all about the multifaceted nature of grief and how it uniquely impacts all of us who’ve always felt like outsiders in their families. Drawing on my personal stories—particularly memories of the acceptance I received from my grandpa (who, btw, was a guest on this show!)—I'm going to illustrate the power of self-love and the importance of creating a meaningful legacy. From honoring the love of those we’ve lost to finding ways to pass on that same love to others, this conversation provides actionable insights and real-world guidance for anyone navigating the complexities of grief.

KEY POINTS / TAKEAWAYS

Grief Is a Journey Embrace the ups and downs; it’s never a straight line.
The ‘Black Sheep’ Perspective Feeling isolated can magnify the pain of loss.
Acceptance Matters Losing someone who truly accepts you can feel like losing that sense of belonging.
Self-Love Is Essential Healing involves cultivating the same love and acceptance for yourself.
Legacy Through Love Honor your loved ones by passing on the love they gave you.
Healing Through Community Identifying others who also need love can create bonds and support.
Emotional Growth Grief can be a catalyst for deeper self-awareness and stronger relationships.

NOTABLE TIMESTAMPS

[00:00] Navigating the Journey of Grief Introduction to the concept of grief as an ongoing process.
[03:05] The Impact of Acceptance and Loss How feeling truly accepted by someone can shape how we cope with losing them.
[05:58] Embracing Self-Love and Acceptance Practical steps to nurture a sense of belonging from within.
[08:52] Creating a Legacy Through Love Using the love we’ve received to forge connections and uplift others.

CALL TO ACTION / LINKS / RESOURCES

Connect with me!
- Website: https://mattlebris.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt_lebris/
- X: https://x.com/Matt_LeBris
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_lebris

348 episodes

When Grief Strikes Differently: Finding Your Path to Healing

Decoding Success with Matt LeBris

published about a year ago

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KEY POINTS / TAKEAWAYS

Grief Is a Journey Embrace the ups and downs; it’s never a straight line.
The ‘Black Sheep’ Perspective Feeling isolated can magnify the pain of loss.
Acceptance Matters Losing someone who truly accepts you can feel like losing that sense of belonging.
Self-Love Is Essential Healing involves cultivating the same love and acceptance for yourself.
Legacy Through Love Honor your loved ones by passing on the love they gave you.
Healing Through Community Identifying others who also need love can create bonds and support.
Emotional Growth Grief can be a catalyst for deeper self-awareness and stronger relationships.

NOTABLE TIMESTAMPS

[00:00] Navigating the Journey of Grief Introduction to the concept of grief as an ongoing process.
[03:05] The Impact of Acceptance and Loss How feeling truly accepted by someone can shape how we cope with losing them.
[05:58] Embracing Self-Love and Acceptance Practical steps to nurture a sense of belonging from within.
[08:52] Creating a Legacy Through Love Using the love we’ve received to forge connections and uplift others.

CALL TO ACTION / LINKS / RESOURCES

Connect with me!
- Website: https://mattlebris.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt_lebris/
- X: https://x.com/Matt_LeBris
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@matt_lebris

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349. Annalie Howling: A Shameless Life Is Possible — Here’s How 1:04:24

5 weeks ago1:04:24

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What if the reason you’re exhausted, disconnected, or stuck… isn’t failure — but shame? In this deeply vulnerable and transformational episode, performance coach and trauma expert Annalie Howling joins Matt to reveal how shame shapes our identity, fuels burnout, and keeps us from experiencing real connection — with others and ourselves. Annalie shares her raw story of overcoming childhood trauma, healing internalized beliefs like “I am bad,” and learning to live a truly shameless life — one filled with freedom, self-compassion, and unshakable inner peace. If you’ve ever felt like a black sheep, unworthy of love, or driven by pain instead of purpose… this episode is a mirror, a roadmap, and a permission slip to finally come home to yourself . 🔑 What You'll Learn: Why shame is a belief system, not a behavior The link between burnout and unresolved trauma How your inner critic guards your comfort zone Why self-compassion is the antidote to shame Signs that shame is still running the show in your life The difference between being seen and just performing 📚 Grab Annalie’s Book: 👉 Unapologetic: Unshackle Your Shame, Reclaim Your Power — out May 13th Find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetic-Unshackle-Shame-Reclaim-Power/ 🔗 Connect with Annalie: Instagram: @annaliehowling Website: annaliehowling.com 🎧 Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode spoke to your soul. Welcome back to Decoding Success — the podcast for the black sheep ready to come home.…

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348. Happiness Isn't a 10/10 Every Day — Here's What It Really Is 30:40

6 weeks ago30:40

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what really makes us happy. And spoiler alert: it’s not about chasing a perfect 10/10 every single day. In this episode, I’ve got the fellas in the studio with me, and we’re diving deep into the real meaning of happiness — and how you can create it for yourself starting right now. We’re unpacking the myths we’ve been sold about what happiness should look like, why “being present” isn’t just a buzzword, and how giving (even when you feel like you don’t have much) can unlock a level of joy you didn’t expect. In this conversation, I’m sharing: 👉 Why presence is the foundation of happiness 👉 The power of giving — no matter what you have to give 👉 How taking an honest audit of your life can show you what really matters 👉 Why chasing “ecstatic highs” leaves you feeling empty 👉 How to stop defining happiness by someone else’s standards 👉 A fresh perspective on love languages, fulfillment, and showing up for yourself and the people around you Whether you’re in a funk or just want to feel more fulfilled, I really think this episode is going to help you reconnect with what’s real. 🎧 Give it a listen — and let me know what you think happiness really is. 👉 If this conversation resonates with you, do me a favor: share it with someone who needs it. 👉 Want to watch the conversation or take it with you on the go? Check the links in the show notes for YouTube and podcast platforms. Until next time — be blessed. Peace.…

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347. You Don’t Need a “Sorry” to Heal 7:31

8 weeks ago7:31

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Have you ever confronted someone who hurt you — only to be met with denial, defensiveness, or gaslighting? In this powerful solo episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , Matt LeBris breaks down one of the most overlooked truths in modern healing: you don’t need anyone’s apology to validate your pain — and you definitely don’t need it to begin healing. If you’ve ever waited for an “I’m sorry” that never came… this episode is for you. Matt shares: The 3 things you actually do need to heal Why seeking external validation can keep you stuck How to reclaim your power after being hurt The importance of courage, commitment, and patience in your healing journey Why healing is an inside job — and how to take the first step Whether you’ve been hurt by family, a friend, or a partner, this episode will help you shift your focus inward, validate your own experience, and move forward — even if the people who hurt you never acknowledge what they did. If you’ve ever thought, “I just need them to admit it,” this one’s for you. Share this episode with someone who’s been hurt and is still waiting for closure. Let them know they already have everything they need to begin again.…

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346. Healing Doesn’t Erase Your Triggers (And That’s Okay) 5:45

8 weeks ago5:45

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In this solo episode of the Decoding Success Podcast , we’re diving deep into a truth that’s often left out of the conversation around healing: just because you’ve done the work doesn’t mean you’ll do life perfectly afterward. Whether your healing has come through therapy, meditation, ayahuasca in the jungle, or Mike Tyson’s favorite toad—this episode is your reminder that progress isn’t perfection. Triggers will still show up. You’ll still snap sometimes. Old wounds might sting again. But all of that is part of the process. This isn’t about being flawless. This is about being more aware, more grounded, and more human as you continue walking your path. 🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why healing doesn’t mean you’re “healed” forever The truth about triggers, setbacks, and emotional reactions How self-awareness brings progress — not perfection Why people in your life are mirrors, and what they’re reflecting back A powerful reframe that gives you grace while doing the work How your relationships (especially with parents) silently shape your path You were guided to this episode for a reason. Maybe to receive this message. Maybe to pass it along. Either way — don’t let it stop with you. Click that share button, drop this in a friend’s inbox, your family group chat, or bring it into a convo at the office. You never know who needs the reminder that they’re still worthy, still healing, and still human — even if they aren’t getting it perfect. Until next time, be blessed. Peace ✌️…

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345. Why Healing Feels So Heavy (And Why You’re the One Chosen to Do It) 5:08

9 weeks ago5:08

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In this episode of the Decoding Success Podcast , we're diving into a truth that doesn’t get talked about enough: healing isn’t just hard — it’s heavy. And not just because of the work it takes, but because you’ve been chosen to carry out an assignment that generations before you never got to. Whether you’re already deep in your self-discovery journey or you’re standing on the edge of it wondering if you’re strong enough to begin — this episode is your sign. The weight you’re carrying might not even be yours. It might belong to the people who came before you, and the ones who come after. I’m unpacking my personal story, the generational layers we inherit, and the reason this path feels so damn heavy — because you’re the one brave enough to break the cycle. 🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why healing feels heavier than anyone talks about How to know if you’ve been “called” to break generational cycles The difference between self-imposed pressure vs. ancestral assignment Why the work you’re doing now will change your future (and your family’s) What to do when your courage starts to fade A powerful reframe that makes the weight feel a little lighter If this episode hit home, share it with someone in your circle who’s also carrying a heavy load. Whether it's a friend, a sibling, or someone at the water cooler — this message wasn’t meant to stop with you. Hit that subscribe button so you don’t miss upcoming episodes as we continue to unpack what it means to rise above, heal deeply, and live fully. Until next time — be blessed. Peace. ✌️…

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344. How to Know If They’re Your Person 5:44

9 weeks ago5:44

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After years of deep inner work, self-discovery, and turning inward, I stumbled upon a perspective on love and soulmates that I wish I had heard sooner — and it’s changed how I view relationships completely. In this episode of the Decoding Success Podcast, I’m sharing a powerful truth that redefines what it means to find your person . We’re breaking down the misconception that your soulmate has to see the world exactly as you do. Instead, I’m offering something new: what if your soulmate is the one who sees red while you see blue, and together… you make purple? This episode is for the black sheep, the seekers, the lovers who’ve ever felt misunderstood in relationships. It’s for those of you looking for connection — not perfection — and wondering what true alignment really looks like. 🔑 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: What I recently discovered about soulmates that shifted everything Why shared values matter more than identical perspectives How your differences with someone can actually deepen connection The metaphor of red, blue, and purple — and why it’s so important How to reframe your view of compatibility and partnership What real love and acceptance look like in a conscious relationship Whether you're in a relationship, calling in love, or still healing, this short episode will open your heart and help you recognize your person when they arrive. 🎧 Tune in and find peace in the purple. Loved this episode? Make sure you’re subscribed so you never miss what’s next. If you're watching on YouTube, hit that subscribe button. If you’re listening on the go, head to the show notes for a direct link to watch the episode. And hey — if someone came to mind while you were listening, send this to them . You never know how one message can shift someone’s perspective. Until next time, Be blessed. Peace. — Matt…

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343. Your Pain Got You Here, But It Won’t Take You Further 8:07

10 weeks ago8:07

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If you've used your pain as fuel to achieve success, you’re not alone. Many of us—especially black sheep—have turned rejection, isolation, and past wounds into motivation. But what happens when that fuel runs out? In today’s solo episode, Matt shares a critical realization that could change the way you approach success: Pain-driven ambition has a limit. It can get you to a certain level, but after that, it stops working. So, what comes next? How do you transition from pain-fueled drive to something more sustainable and fulfilling? What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ Why pain is an effective motivator—but only for so long ✅ The hidden cost of using pain as your primary source of success ✅ How to identify when your fuel source is running dry ✅ What to replace pain with to continue growing in life and business ✅ The key question you need to ask yourself right now: What’s fueling you beyond pain? This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever felt like your success is tied to proving people wrong, escaping your past, or avoiding pain. Matt breaks down what he wishes he knew earlier and gives you a powerful call to action to redefine your motivation moving forward. 🎧 Listen Now and take your next step toward a healthier, more sustainable drive for success. 👉 Share this episode with someone you know who has leveraged their pain to push forward but might be struggling with what comes next. 🔗 Watch on YouTube or listen on-the-go – Check the show notes for the direct links! 🚀 Join the conversation: 📩 DM Matt on Instagram @MattLeBris with your biggest takeaway from this episode! Until next time, be blessed. Peace. ✌️…

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342. How Micro-Dosing Alone Time Can Transform Your Life 10:44

10 weeks ago10:44

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As a black sheep, you’ve probably felt the sting of isolation—whether it was self-imposed or something you experienced growing up. But what if the very thing you once resented could become your greatest asset? In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , I’m breaking down why healthy isolation is the key to healing, clarity, and transformation. If you’ve been avoiding alone time, distracting yourself with social media, or constantly surrounding yourself with people, it’s time to reintroduce solitude into your life—on your own terms. 🚀 In This Episode, I’m Breaking Down: ✅ Why black sheep often have a negative association with isolation ✅ How intentional alone time helps you grow and find clarity ✅ Why constantly staying social might be holding you back ✅ The difference between painful isolation vs. healthy solitude ✅ How to micro-dose isolation to make it a natural part of your life 🔑 Key Takeaway: Isolation isn’t a prison—it’s a path to healing, and healing isn’t lonely—it’s liberating. 💡 Your Challenge: Try micro-dosing isolation this week. Whether it’s 10 minutes of silence, a tech timeout, or a solo walk—give yourself the space to reconnect with YOU. 🎧 Hit play now and start shifting your perspective on isolation today! 📩 Know someone who needs to hear this? Send this episode their way & make sure you’re subscribed so you never miss an episode of Decoding Success !…

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341. Why You Can’t Save Everyone (And What to Do Instead) 11:23

11 weeks ago11:23

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340. The Truth About Healing No One Talks About 10:48

11 weeks ago10:48

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We hear about healing all the time—but there’s something no one talks about: healing doesn’t mean forgetting. For years, I thought the key to moving forward was erasing the pain of my past. I wanted to forget the rejection, the hurt, the moments that shaped me in ways I didn’t understand at the time. But here’s the truth: forgetting your pain is a disservice to your growth. In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , I’m diving deep into why your pain holds the key to your potential and how to transform your past struggles into fuel for your future success. 🚀 In This Episode, I’m Breaking Down: ✅ Why we unconsciously try to forget our pain (and why it doesn’t work) ✅ How numbing through habits like work, money, or distractions keeps you stuck ✅ The mindset shift that turns your past pain into personal power ✅ Why embracing your experiences leads to stronger relationships, boundaries, and self-worth ✅ A practical strategy to leverage your past pain for your future gain You can’t change what’s happened—but you can choose how it shapes your future. The second you stop trying to forget is the moment you unlock your true potential. 💡 If you’ve ever felt like you just want to “move on” from your past, this episode will shift your perspective and give you a new way to reclaim your story. 🔔 Hit play now and start transforming your pain into power today! 📩 Know someone who needs to hear this? Share this episode with them and subscribe so you never miss an episode of Decoding Success !…

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339. Success Isn’t Enough If You’re Chasing the Wrong Thing 13:50

12 weeks ago13:50

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You set a goal. You grind. You achieve. The applause rolls in. The texts, the recognition, the high of success—it’s everything you thought you wanted. And then… it fades. So what happens next? In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , I’m breaking down why chasing the spotlight leaves you feeling empty—and what actually leads to real, lasting fulfillment. Because the truth is, success isn’t enough if you’re chasing it for the wrong reasons. 🚀 In This Episode, I’m Breaking Down: ✅ Why achievements alone won’t make you feel whole ✅ How childhood validation patterns shape our drive for success ✅ The hard truth about why the applause always fades ✅ How to separate your worth from your accomplishments ✅ Two game-changing mindset shifts to create true fulfillment I’ve been there—chasing achievement after achievement, hoping for lasting validation. But the real shift happens when you stop depending on external recognition and start defining success on your own terms. 💡 If you’ve ever felt lost after reaching a goal, or wondered why success doesn’t feel as good as you thought it would, this episode is for you. 🔔 Hit play now and start redefining fulfillment today! 📩 Loved this episode? Share it with someone who needs to hear this message. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode of Decoding Success !…

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338. The One Thing You’re Hiding That’s Keeping You Isolated 12:01

12 weeks ago12:01

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What if I told you there’s one thing you might be hiding that’s keeping you from deeper relationships, real connections, and even personal growth? For years, I wore a mask—acting bulletproof, unfazed, like nothing could touch me. But in reality, I was just blocking myself from true connection and reinforcing my own isolation. In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , I’m sharing the hard truth: hiding your pain is holding you back. The version of you that acts like nothing’s wrong might feel like protection, but it’s really keeping you from the relationships and love you deserve. 🚀 In This Episode, I’m Breaking Down: ✅ Why we act “bulletproof” and the real cost of doing so ✅ How protecting yourself is keeping you disconnected ✅ The power of vulnerability and how it transforms relationships ✅ How to find safe spaces to start sharing your truth ✅ Actionable ways to break free from emotional isolation I get it—being vulnerable isn’t easy. But when we hide our wounds, we perpetuate isolation. And when we share our truth, we cultivate belonging. 💡 If you’ve been hiding your struggles, afraid to open up, or feel like no one truly sees you, this episode is for you. 🔔 Hit play now and start breaking free from emotional isolation today! 📩 If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode of Decoding Success !…

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337. Trusting Yourself When Others Gaslight You 12:29

13 weeks ago12:29

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Have you ever shared your experience with someone, only to be told, “That never happened” or “You’re remembering it wrong”? Whether it’s in relationships, family dynamics, or past trauma, having your reality denied what many now call gaslighting can leave you feeling confused, frustrated, and even questioning yourself. In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , we dive deep into the emotional toll of having your experience dismissed, why it happens, and how to reclaim your trust in yourself despite external doubt. 🚀 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: ✅ Why people deny reality (and how to recognize their intentions) ✅ The psychological impact of being told your experience isn’t real ✅ How to stop second-guessing yourself and trust your gut ✅ Why perception shapes reality—and how to stand firm in yours ✅ When to have hard conversations and when to walk away 💡 You don’t need validation from others to own your truth. If you’ve ever felt dismissed, manipulated, or gaslit, this episode will give you the tools to stand strong in your reality. 🔔 Hit play now and take back your power today! 📩 Loved this episode? Share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review!…

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336. Reclaiming Your Worth When You Feel Overlooked 11:17

13 weeks ago11:17

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Have you ever felt overlooked, unprioritized, or like an afterthought in the relationships that matter most? Whether it’s family, friends, or romantic partners, feeling like the low man (or woman) on the totem pole can be frustrating and emotionally exhausting. In this episode of The Decoding Success Podcast , we dive deep into the pain of feeling unimportant, how it impacts our actions and mindset, and, most importantly, how to reclaim your self-worth and prioritize yourself. 🚀 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: ✅ Why feeling unprioritized leads to self-sabotage and emotional drain ✅ How childhood neglect and craving attention shape our adult behavior ✅ The power of chosen family and surrounding yourself with the right people ✅ Why prioritizing yourself first teaches others how to treat you ✅ When and how to have the hard conversations about feeling undervalued 💡 Feeling unseen or undervalued? It’s time to change that. This episode will empower you to take back your energy, shift your mindset, and step into your worth. 🔔 Hit play now and start prioritizing yourself today! 📩 Loved this episode? Share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review!…

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335. Why You’ll Never Get the Approval You’re Chasing 11:12

14 weeks ago11:12