#TNWAQ3 - Lorna Fyffe. Do we judge, allow people to move forwards or just keep them stuck? #TNWAQ

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We say that we don’t judge.

We say that people deserve a second chance.

We say that we don’t stereotype. Would you have expected Lornas Story? Could you have called it by looking at her?

As nurses we were told don’t judge based on appearance, we have no idea what is going on inside with just a glance.

Lorna:

- shares her story of judgement as she reflects on her identity

- discusses the difficulties that services face and how that impacts her as an individual who uses the service.

- explains how her key worker would like to do more but due to funding, time, training etc there are limitations.

- did not discuss it in the podcast but afterwards did ask me to make a note of how she has never felt judged not once by her tissue viability team who help her with her wound on her leg.

My judgement of Lorna is based on the here and now of what I can see in front of me. I am not suggesting that we allow those who are using illegal drugs to teach children however I do believe that we need to work with the here and now and have open and honest conversations with clear boundaries and safeguards.

If not then as a society we need to say the quiet bit out loud – make a mistake equals zero forgiveness.

Guilty by association was something I reflected on after recording this podcast. During my walk I was very aware that I would listen to anyone regardless of appearance (designer wear to homeless individuals) and drug intake.

When people make judgements does that come from experience or ignorance or both?

Let us know your thoughts in the comments below. ⬇️

Timestamps

[00:24] Lorna Fyffe’s background information

[00:48] How Lorna and I met

[06:04] The discrimination in the NHS when you present yourself as a drug addict

[13:30] Person-centered care

[17:33] The reaction of the parent in school after realising that Lorna is an addict

[21:55] How Lorna got into drug addiction

[26:33] The effects of uncaring nurses on addicts

[28:23] Do we need to have conversations on addiction and medication?

[30:35] The definition of shame

[36:00] Judgements and stereotypes from social media

[45:23] Having the difficult conversations

[45:50] How judgements and stereotypes can be misinterpreted

[52:17] In what way would you treat a drug addict differently than a non-drug addict?

[01:02:07] Are labels helpful or unhelpful?

Notable quotes:

● “Not all nurses have the qualities to be good nurses. Some do not qualify to work in care because they make patience, especially addicts, devalue themselves.”

● “If we say we are not judgemental, we are liars. It is what we do with the judgment that matters.”

● “People cannot rely on their lived experiences because of pressure from social media. All the judgements and stereotypes help them make very quick decisions about who they are.”

● “Stereotypes give limited growth.”

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