Stop Over-drinking and Start Living podcast is for the high achieving, goal-oriented, rebel woman to learn how to live a vibrant and fulfilling life without requiring alcohol to get through it. If you find yourself dipping into that 2nd, 3rd or 4th glass of wine to help cope with the daily life grind of work and home life, this podcast is for you. Make some positive changes with your relationship with alcohol, gain back control of how much, where, and when you drink. In each episode, Certifi ...
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Are you being the kind of judge you’d actually want? Or are you stacking the scale with every little “failure” and ignoring all your wins? This week, I’m showing you how to shift that inner justice system—so you can rebuild self-trust and actually see your progress. Tune in and take a moment to actually weigh the evidence—like a real judge would—we…
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Ep 328 How To Tell If Your Addicted Mind Has Taken Over
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25:24If you’ve ever felt like you made a decision around drinking that really doesn't align with goals that you've already made, you’re not alone. The addicted mind has an attachment to alcohol and you can easily recognize it if you start paying attention to certain ways of thinking. In this episode, I discuss several signs that you can easily recognize…
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Ep 327 Afraid of the Urge? Why That Fear Is Slowing You Down
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19:37In this episode, we explore a sneaky obstacle that can make changing your relationship with alcohol feel way harder than it needs to be: the fear of urges. It’s not just the desire to drink that holds you back—it’s the anxiety and resistance you feel about having that desire in the first place. I’ll break down what’s really going on when you’re afr…
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Ep 326 Now's Not the Time? Or Is It Exactly the Time?
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13:29A lot of people put off changing their relationship with alcohol because life feels too uncertain, but in reality, it’s one of the best times to do the work. In this podcast, I discuss common beliefs about changing a personal behavior when things feel difficult. If you are thinking: “This isn’t the right time to focus on my drinking.” I'd love for …
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Ep 325 Uncertainty 2.0: A Guided Practice to Find Calm When You Feel Overwhelmed
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27:50This podcast is a follow up to Ep 320 Navigating Uncertainty Without Losing Yourself. I recommend you listen to Ep. 320 first, but you don't have to. Ep. 320 helps you understand: Why uncertainty feels so uncomfortable (hint: your brain is just trying to protect you) The ways we think we’re controlling uncertainty—but are actually making it worse A…
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Ep 324 When To Make or Not Make Financial or Drinking Decisions with Certified Financial Planner Jamie Berger
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48:16This podcast is probably going down in the books as one of my all-time favorites. My amazing client Jamie, who runs her own financial planning firm, is here with me to discuss the emotions surrounding financial decisions and alcohol. We discuss difficult feelings one might experience with a dip in the market and with having urges for alcohol, and h…
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Ep 323 How Your Brain Tricks You Into Expecting the Worst
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25:48How often do you tell yourself a story about how awful something will be and then you get to the thing you were worried about and think, 'That wasn't such a big deal!' Our brains are wired to anticipate and focus on potential threats—this is a survival mechanism known as negativity bias. It evolved to help early humans stay alert to dangers, but in…
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EP 322 Podcast REWIND- SAYING NO, Why We Don’t, and How You Can
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15:49Enjoy this podcast REWIND: Tune in this week and hear the Top 3 reasons saying NO feels so impossible when you are trying to cut back on drinking. I cover these reasons: 1) Hurting other peoples feelings. 2) Fear of Missing Out. 3) Fear of Being Judged. And how you can move past these reasons and say NO easier. Don’t miss! Join me for Wine Free Wor…
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Ep 321 Feeling Hopeless? Why Changing Your Life Still Matters
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18:20Right now, it’s easy to feel like the world is crumbling. Everywhere you turn, there’s bad news, political chaos, and an overwhelming sense that nothing we do really matters. And when hopelessness creeps in, many of us instinctively check out—we numb with wine, we scroll endlessly, we disconnect. It’s a natural response when everything feels too bi…
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Ep 320 Navigating Uncertainty Without Losing Yourself
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18:41When we don’t know what’s coming next, it’s easy to spiral into worst-case scenarios, overthink every decision, or try to control things that aren’t actually in our control. And —this is when over-drinking (or other numbing habits) can sneak in. However, uncertainty itself isn’t the real problem. It’s how we react to it. In this episode, I’m sharin…
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Ep 319 When And When NOT To Use Willpower
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19:47Join me and learn more about Willpower! Often my clients think they lack enough willpower to not drink or that their willpower is broken. Willpower is a small piece of what it takes to over-come an over-drinking pattern. Tune in and learn: What willpower really is When to use willpower When not to use willpower And expanding on what it will take to…
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Ep 318 Why People Quickly Fall Off Their Goals And How To Get Back On Track
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23:33Why do people fall off their goals? It’s usually because they’ve set unrealistic expectations, don’t have a solid plan, hit a setback, or lose motivation when they don’t see quick results. Life distractions pop up, and sometimes the “why” behind the goal just isn’t strong enough to keep going. But the good news? You can always get back on track. Th…
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Ep 317 It's NOT The Want That's The Problem- REWIND
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26:14Enjoy this throwback episode and learn how it's NOT the want for alcohol that's the problem. 'In this week’s episode, I talk about the WANT for alcohol. Also, called urge, desire, ‘feel like it,’ drive to drink. So many of my clients are worried about the urge/want/desire, they think they can’t handle it. Tune into this episode where I dissect the …
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Ep 316 10 Most Common Fears About Cutting Back on Alcohol (And How to Overcome Them)
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31:01In this episode, I dive into the 10 biggest fears that hold people back from cutting back on alcohol—like the fear of failure, social judgment, and losing your sense of fun. These fears are common, but they don’t have to keep you stuck. You’ll learn how to reframe these obstacles, face your emotions, and take small steps toward creating the life yo…
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Ep 315 What To Do If Something Goes Wrong
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23:22We can all acknowledge that our very laid out plans usually don't work out exactly as we had planned. This episode dives into what to do when something goes wrong, either with your perfect plans or just something unexpected. I go into WHY we automatically react and why it's important to learn how to pause before we react to things, especially thing…
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Ep 314 Creating Goals That Actually Feel Good
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32:26Tune in to the podcast this week and learn my process around creating and executing goals. I have a process that will help you identify your #1 goal for the year, then I help you reframe the goal with a statement that feels good to you and then we create your blueprint for achieving the goal. Just the word goal can be repulsive to some people and t…
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Grab a notebook and pen because you are about to learn 6 tools that will make your Dry January Experience the most successful and fun as it can be! I teach you: How to be intentional vs unintentional How to Prepare for Success How to Handle Urges How to Play it Through Changing Your Mindset How to Evaluate Also, here me answer some common questions…
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Ep 312 Decisions Part 2 Learn, Adapt and Move On
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24:04Happy New Year! This episode is a further exploration of Decisions. If you haven't listened to Part 1, please do that first, https://www.angelamascenik.com/podcasts/stop-over-drinking-and-start-living/episodes/2148935056 This episode dives into AFTER we made a decision, how to evaluate that decision, especially if you didn't experience the outcome …
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Ep 311 Decisions Part 1, Stop Reacting, Start Choosing: Master Your Decisions
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25:05This episode is going to help you become aware of your automatic or unconscious decision making process. Once you see HOW you are making decisions you can decide with more intention on the outcome you want to have versus just your automatic quick or knee jerk decisions. This is a skill that you can use for any decision you are contemplating or to e…
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Ep 310 The Secret to Trusting Yourself Again
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22:50In this episode, we dive into why trusting yourself can feel so hard—and how to rebuild that trust step by step. You'll learn how to recognize the impact of broken self-trust, identify what’s been holding you back, and take actionable steps to reconnect with your trust. Whether it’s sticking to your goals, following through on commitments, or just …
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Ep 309 What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up
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12:58This episode is a must listen for everyone! It's normal to feel like giving up and throwing in the towel, it's a very human feeling. In this episode I discuss WHY we sometimes feel like giving up and how to recognize if you are in that place. Such as: Burnout and Overwhelm: When effort outweighs perceived results. Self-Doubt: Believing you're not c…
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This episode describes tunnel vision.. that place where our minds might go when we want to drink.. the back and forth, the thinking how it might not count, or it wouldn't matter. The place where your desire to drink is high and it's all that your mind is focusing on. I had a bit of tunnel vision during Thanksgiving when my husband was leading a Sco…
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This episodes discusses the importance of doing the things that WORK to keep you drinking less or alcohol free. A lot of times, we start to feel good and we let the practices that work slip away, and that is when things can get away from us. I share a story of a small decision that helped me stay ahead of holiday stress, getting over-hungry and a c…
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Ep 306 You Get to Say No - To more than just alcohol! REWIND
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19:55Podcast rewind, this episode gives you permission to not feel obligated to do all the things around the holidays that you normally do 'just because it's family' or otherwise. I discuss how you have free will and autonomy as an adult to decide if you do things or not. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. And yes, some people won't lik…
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Have you heard the phrase 'we can't do it alone?' Well, you are in for a special treat today because two of my amazing clients agreed to join me today on the podcast and discuss the value and importance of community. I just held a short retreat for a lovely group of women whom I have been working together with for the past 5 months. We have connect…
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Hi friends, in the wake of our latest political news I thought it might be good to remember what we can and can't control. And you can apply what I am teaching here to any unexpected event or un-desired outcome in your life. Tune in and listen to me explain: 1) Whatever you are feeling is OK 2) Decide how you want to show up for yourself today, reg…
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Ep 303 How To Do It When You Don't Feel Like Doing It
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20:40Feeling unmotivated, annoyed, tired and not like 'doing it?' Well, add this podcast episode to your queue and give it a listen. Learning how to over-ride the feeling of 'not wanting to' is critical for ANY change you want to make. Not feeling like it is as normal as it gets. But if you are constantly giving into that feeling and not doing the thing…
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Ep 302 How To Not Over-drink During Hard Times - REWIND
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58:38Episode 302, How To Not Over-drink During Hard Times - REWIND This episode got brought back out because I think we all need some tips right now, especially in this very contentious election season! No matter who you are voting for, give it a listen. It will help you understand that how you are feeling 1) isn't a 'problem' AND 2) That you don't NEED…
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This episode explores the idea that we need to 'let things go.' And the truth is it's hard to let things go, especially if you have been hurt or experienced painful things, like death, divorce, family estrangement and more. So, instead of letting go, we recommend you focus on healing and acceptance. This doesn't mean you allow bad things in your li…
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Ep 300 Reflections on 300 Episodes: Key Takeaways to Help You Change Your Relationship with Alcohol
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42:25We are celebrating 300 episodes of the Stop Over-drinking and Start Living Podcast! Coach Steph Tell happily joined me today and together we reflected on 300 episodes. Coach Steph joined my original small group coaching program right when I started this version of the podcast in January 2019. She’s been here for the full journey of this podcast, mu…
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Ep 299 Drinking In Response To Extreme Stress
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27:18Things are feeling stressful right now for a lot of people. Hurricanes, election cycles, problems at home with kids or family and this can leave us feeling overly stressed, worn out and worried. This episode helps you with some tips on how to deal with extreme stress and difficult situations, which don't include alcohol. Drinking in response to dee…
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Ep 298 From Conflict to Connection: Expanding Your Tolerance for Differences
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27:47When did we become a society that became scared of negative recourse when sharing personal beliefs, values, and decisions? I had this question burning in my mind because of how divisive we can be at times, especially now, in our current political climate. In this week's episode I dive into how to expand our emotional capacity for discomfort, especi…
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The episode I share the news that a lovely man that I met while I was just beginning my journey to change my relationship with alcohol, has passed away. He owned an organic wine farm in Sicily called Agriturismo Tarantola. https://www.gorgodeldrago.it/en/ His name is Filippo Testa and he touched my life in a profound and deeply spiritual way. I vis…
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You want to stop drinking or cut back but you often think: I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START! It feels overwhelming. Your partner still drinks, your friends all drink, your co-workers like to drink when you travel for work trips, heck your gym buddies often meet up for wine after a workout.You know it isn’t good for you.You have done some embarrassi…
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Get ready to laugh! This episode I discuss why humor is often a good strategy to help ease the pressure around changing your relationship with alcohol. Laughing releases natural feel good endorphins, takes the pressure off real time urges and battles about drinking or not, and it's fun! I encourage you to seek out funny things throughout your day. …
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Ep 294 Pen to Paper: How Journaling Can Help You Stop Over-Drinking
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30:33I am delighted to dedicate a full podcast episode on JOURNALING! I get asked all the time, 'Why do I need to journal?' 'Do I have to journal?' 'I hate journaling' 'I don't know how to journal.' And this episode goes into 3 areas: Why do I need to journal? How to Journal? What to do with the journaling after. The big takeaway is this: Journaling hel…
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Ep 293 How to Face and Overcome Your Biggest Fears
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23:35This podcast episode takes you through a few exercises in naming and overcoming your fears that might be stopping you from reaching your goals. Fear can help us or hold us back. When looking at making personal changes such as alcohol, fear is something that typically holds us back. It's important to really see your fears and then decide what you wa…
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Ep 292 The Beauty in the Process: Why Success is More Than the End Result
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23:33This episodes dives into the how to see the payoff and the beauty in the process to your goals instead of focusing on just end goal. I recently led a small group of women on a challenging 8-mile hike during my Seattle Retreat and it was foggy at the peak. But, I quickly realized that the hike wasn't about the great views at the end, it was more abo…
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Join me for a conversation I had with my very good friends, Josh and Dan. We have been friends for 25 years and have navigated as much as any friendship could. We discuss navigating the relationship when someone changes their relationship with alcohol. We also discuss the secrets to maintaining and growing our friendships, that include being authen…
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Ep 290 Why do I Need to Know How my Feelings Feel?
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26:42My amazing client asked me this question and I thought it was so great that I did a podcast on it. Your feelings drive your behavior, so if you are wanting to make behavior changes, learning how to feel your feelings and understanding your feelings on a deeper level is crucial. This episode dives into the WHY we want to know how your feelings actua…
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Ep 289 Grief, Sunrises and Changing Plans
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26:20This podcast episode is an update on the Sober Sunrise Project, grief surrounding the unexpected and sudden loss of my sister in-law, Teresa, and being flexible on changing plans. I share the importance of taking care of yourself no matter what unexpected or difficult thing happens in your life. I also share why learning to process your feelings is…
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Ep 288 Podcast Rewind: Up-leveling Your Discomfort + a Good Story
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36:34If you've successfully cut back on how much you are drinking, even if it's just one extra day less or instead of 3 drinks you've been having 2 more often, you had to go through some discomfort to do that right? You had to process urges, manage your mind, say no more often, and all that isn't a walk in the park, it's UNCOMFORTABLE. When you move tow…
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Ep 287 Drinking Social Pressure and Unsupportive Comments
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26:46This episode dives in the problem of people in our lives who might say unsupportive comments about you cutting back or quitting alcohol. I explain WHY they might do this and how to navigate it if the person who is the offender is important to you. I also discuss our culture and the social pressure we experience when we are actively trying to change…
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Happy July, I am super excited about my 30-days of sober sunrise project I am doing this month at Carolina Beach, NC. You can read about it here, https://www.angelamascenik.com/blog I'll be updating it everyday. I'm celebrating 6 years of alcohol free lifestyle this summer and I wanted to do something big. This episode explains the project and the …
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Ep 285 Looking Beyond Your Current Discomfort
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26:08This episode helps you look past your current discomfort with over-drinking. Often when we are considering a change or claiming a specific goal to drink less, we get stuck in what we currently 'feel' is true for us. We review past failures and discomforts and then think about that as we asses a given situation, like attending a party or going on va…
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Friends, I have news, my sweet Edie girl dog has passed. This episode is an exploration of how I'm processing her passing and concepts that I use to make the grief and loss more bearable. I also discuss that the pain from loss is not linear and we need to let go of timelines. The most painful thing we can do is judge ourselves that 'we should be ov…
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Ep 283 Coaching Session with Client Rhiannon
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53:54My amazing client Rhiannon, generously offered to come on the podcast in exchange for a coaching session! She posted in our Alive AF! private Facebook group about needing coaching around summertime and how to make her self a priority while her kids are home and they have a lot going on. You MUST listen to this podcast immediately if summer time has…
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Ep 282 How to Protect Yourself From Over-drinking in the Future
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21:50Ep 282, How to Protect Yourself From Over-drinking in the Future This episode I discuss the importance of doing what you can to protect yourself from over-drinking in the future. You might be someone who has made great progress in stopping the over-drinking. Now, you might be lacking on 'doing the work' that you did in the beginning to get where yo…
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Ep 281 Addiction and Mental Health with Dr. Noell Rowan
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48:33Please join me in welcoming Dr. Noell L. Rowan to the podcast. Noell Rowan, Ph.D., LCSW, LCAS, CCS, ACSW is a clinician with more than three decades of experience in the field of social work. She has practiced in hospital, community, and private practice settings in Georgia, Kentucky, Indiana, and provides clinical supervision for MSW students in N…
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Ep 280 Mental Health Awareness Month with Kim Jeffs
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51:08This is a special conversation I had with Kim Jeffs, Founder, Executive & Somatic Coach of Soma and Soul and Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counseling Supervisor. From Kim: ‘I'm licensed as a mental health counseling supervisor in the State of NC. Additionally, I'm a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, focused on high-stress physiology. O…
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