If you’ve ever wished you had a therapist in your back pocket, Dial Emma is here. Each week, I’ll be answering your dilemmas with honesty, empathy, and a few therapeutic truth bombs to help you make sense of life’s stickiest moments. Got a tricky situation, emotional tangle, or just need a fresh perspective? I’d love to hear from you. Please do get in contact via my online webform here: forms.gle/gSE8Pa8HnqU2B2c59 For more trusted advice, please do give the show a follow on Instagram @dialem ...
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Toxic Parents: Rewriting the Script using the Drama Triangle
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18:40Welcome to the first episode of Dial Emma! Each week, I'll be answering your dilemmas with honesty, empathy, and a few therapeutic truth bombs to help you make sense of life’s stickiest moments. If you've ever wished you had a therapist in your back pocket, Dial Emma is here to help. This week, our listener dilemma involves ageing parents in a toxi…
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If you’ve ever wished you had a therapist in your back pocket, Dial Emma is here. Each week, I'll be answering your dilemmas with honesty, empathy, and a few therapeutic truth bombs to help you make sense of life’s stickiest moments. Got a tricky situation, emotional tangle, or just need a fresh perspective? I’d love to hear from you. Be sure to fo…
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S3, Ep 12 Dial Emma: Insecurity in Relationships - how can I build trust with my partner when our relationship started as an affair?
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11:09Welcome back to the last episode of Dial Emma for this season! You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it. This week, Emma hears from a listener who is navigating feelings of insecurity in her romantic relationship, which started as an affair with her bo…
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S3, Ep 11 Friendship Therapy: Asking for Help in Friendship - how family dynamics play into our friendships in adulthood
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38:22Welcome to this week's episode of Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. This week, Emma is joined by Katherine to talk about just how hard it can be sometimes to ask for help in friendships. Emma and Katherine talk about the specifics of how to get help that's actually helpful in the present, as…
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S3, Ep 10 Dial Emma: Friendship After Loss - the impact of grief on friendship
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9:07TW: loss, suicide Welcome back to this week's episode of Dial Emma. You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it. This week, we hear from a listener who tragically lost her husband when he took his own life, and is now navigating the loss of the friends th…
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S3, Ep 9 Friendship Therapy: Surface Dwellers and Depth Seekers - exploring emotional depth in male friendships
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40:37Welcome to this week's episode of Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. This week, Emma is joined by Elliot to talk about what it's like to be an, as he puts it, emotional male within male friendship groups. Elliot shares an experience that many of us might be able to relate to: being unceremoni…
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S3, Ep 8 Dial Emma: Platonic Crushes - how emotional self-sufficiency supports healthier connections
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7:42Welcome back to this week's episode of Dial Emma! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what we did there?!) You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it. This week, our Dial Emma voicenote comes from a listener who is navigating the f…
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S3, Ep 7 Friendship Therapy: Feeling like an Outsider - seeking self awareness, connection and intimacy in friendship
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38:21Welcome to this week's episode of Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. This week, Emma is joined by Sarah, who has been navigating feelings of loneliness and being an outsider in her friendship groups. In this conversation, Emma and Sarah explore what it means to fit in, what it's like when you…
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S3, Ep 6 Dial Emma: Fertility and Friendship - navigating grief and joy
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15:49TW: Miscarriage Welcome back to this week's episode of Dial Emma! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what we did there?!) You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it. This week, we hear from a listener who is dealing with complex e…
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S3, Ep 5 Friendship Therapy: Ambivalence in Friendship - what happens when your friend becomes your boss?
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43:51Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which psychotherapist and author Emma Reed Turrell talks to real people about real friendships and looks at these pivotal relationships through a therapeutic lens. This week, Emma meets Kelly, a smart, self-aware woman who's nearly 50, yet who finds herself stuck with some big feelings about a frie…
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S3, Ep 4 Dial Emma: Notes on Parenting - lending our nervous system to our children
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14:10Welcome back to this week's episode of Dial Emma! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what we did there?!) You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it. This week, we're bringing you something a little different. We hear from a long-…
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S3, Ep 2 Dial Emma: Grieving a Pet - what our animals can teach us about ourselves
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8:14Welcome back to Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what we did there?!) You share your dilemma, any dilemma, and Emma shares her reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to navigate it. This week, Emma hears from a listener who is navigating the loss of a beloved c…
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S3, Ep 1 Friendship Therapy: Reciprocity in Friendship - how fear can get in the way of vulnerability
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46:49Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. To kick off season three, Emma chats to Poppy, who is struggling with a friendship dilemma that many of us can relate to. We've all been on the receiving end of a friend who has ditched us temporarily for a new relationship; perhaps we've bee…
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S3, Ep 1 BONUS: Tolerance in Friendship with Michelle Elman
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41:48Hello, and welcome to season three of Friendship Therapy! This is the podcast in which author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell talks to real people about real friendships and looks at these pivotal relationships through a therapeutic lens. This week, a special bonus episode to kick off a new season: Emma chats to Michelle Elman, bestselling author, …
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S2, Ep 12 Dial Emma: Friendship Accountability - is it me, or is it them?
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13:49Welcome back to Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy, and the season 2 finale! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what I did there?!) You share your friendship concerns, and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. This week, our Dial Emma caller wants to talk about ac…
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S2, Ep 11 Friendship Therapy: Childhood Friendships - friendship from the perspective of a 10-year-old
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47:38Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. So many of our wonderful guests talk about childhood friendships and how those early experiences shape the friendships that we'll make as adults - so who better to help us talk about the way those friendships form than someone who's in the mi…
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S2, Ep 10 Dial Emma: Guilt in Friendship - how do I stop feeling guilty for moving away from my friends?
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10:58Welcome back to Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what I did there?!) You share your friendship concerns, and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. This week, we meet a listener who is grappling with feelings of guilt after mov…
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S2, Ep 9 Friendship Therapy: Friendship Boundaries - how rupture in friendship can help us break our own patterns
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51:14Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. This week, Emma is joined by Scott, a man who, now in his 40s, has experienced a sudden turnover in the friends he made in his 20s. A repeating pattern of rupture and loss has made him more defensive in the friendships he has left and wary of…
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S2, Ep 8 Dial Emma: Friendship Endings - how do I stop ghosting friends and create some friendship stability for myself?
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10:51Welcome back to Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what I did there?!) You share your friendship concerns, and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. This week, we hear from a listener who recognises that they have a tendency to …
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S2, Ep 7 Friendship Therapy: It's Complicated - friendships formed from grief and loss
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48:55This week, Emma is joined by Annie to talk about her friendship with Katie, one that was born out of tragic circumstances and one that others have struggled to accept. Katie had been engaged to Annie's brother and a cherished member of their family since she'd first arrived on the scene at 15, but some years later, they decided to take a break from…
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S2, Ep 6 Dial Emma: Communication in Friendship - how can we give ourselves permission to exist as our true selves in friendship?
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10:18Welcome back to Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what I did there?!) You share your friendship concerns, and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. This week, we hear from a listener who is struggling to navigate an imbalance i…
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S2, Ep 5 Friendship Therapy: Friendship Heartbreak - the games we play in friendship
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56:59Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens. This week, Emma is joined by Holly to talk about friendship heartbreak and how it feels to be dumped by a friend. When Holly’s two closest friends got engaged, she found herself waiting for an invitation to be a part of the bridal party that …
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S2, Ep 4 Dial Emma: Friendship Groups - how do I navigate rupture within a group dynamic?
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11:48Welcome back to Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy! This is where you get to dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what I did there?!) You share your friendship concerns, and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. This week, we hear from a listener who has experienced a rupture in a friendshi…
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S2, Ep 3 Friendship Therapy: Getting the 'ick' in Friendship - what happens when friendships let us down?
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55:37Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the podcast in which author and psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell talks to real people about real friendships and looks at these pivotal relationships through a therapy lens. This week, Emma is joined by Emily to explore why a long-term friendship with someone who was maid of honour at her wedding would b…
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S2, Ep 2 NEW Dial Emma: Endings - how can I make new friends post-university?
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9:20Welcome to the first episode of Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy! This is where you get to Dial Emma, with your dilemma (see what I did there?!) You share your friendship concerns, and I share my reflections as a therapist to give you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. This week, we hear from a listener who wants to make new friend…
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S2, Ep 1 NEW Friendship Therapy: Overthinking in Friendship - it's hard to feel, but harder not to
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46:02Welcome to season two of Friendship Therapy! This is the podcast in which author and psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell talks to real people about real friendships and looks at these pivotal relationships through a therapy lens. In our first episode of season two, Emma looks at overthinking in friendship with her guest, primary school teacher and mo…
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S1, Ep 12 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Modern Partnerships - making the unknowns, known
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24:03Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, and our last episode of season one! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guests, Victoria and Helen. Having met (and bonded over their shared love of musical theatre) at a time when many of their peers were meeting 'the one,' Victoria …
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S1, Ep 11 Friendship Therapy: Friends as Soulmates - friendships that don’t fit into a box
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47:36Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. In the final full episode of season one (don't worry, there's still Friday's bitesize episode to come!), Emma chats to Helen, 29, and Victoria, 32, about the value of friendships …
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S1, Ep 10 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Compound Loss - how fear, hope, love and sadness can co-exist
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18:34Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest, Rachel. On Monday's episode, Rachel bravely opened up about the loss of her father two years ago. It was a bereavement that, in her words, 'shone a light' on the friends who were willing to g…
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S1, Ep 9 Friendship Therapy: Grief and Friendship - hope, grief, loss and navigating change in friendship
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40:42Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma chats to 28-year-old Rachel about intertwining our identity with our friendships, the process of 'trimming' friends over time as we grow and age, and how the turbu…
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S1, Ep 8 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Child Ego State - the adapted child and the free rebellious child
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19:32Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest, Jemima. Jemima joined us to talk about her experience of being diagnosied with dyspraxia when she was just six years old, and the impact that neurodivergence has had on her life and friendshi…
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S1, Ep 7 Friendship Therapy: Neurodiversity in Friendship - a unique perspective on dyspraxia and how it can impact friendship
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39:39Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma chats to Jemima, who reached out to Emma to talk about the impact that neurodivergence has had on her friendships. Diagnosed at just six years old, dyspraxia has a…
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S1, Ep 6 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Friendship Reminiscences - are we filling in the wrong blanks?
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15:25Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest. This week, Emma met Charlotte, whose fear of losing a treasured childhood friend has her questioning how to keep the spark alive in long-term friendships. When Charlotte and her friend see ea…
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S1, Ep 5 Friendship Therapy: Rekindling Friendship - how updating our friendships can keep the spark alive
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39:24Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma chats to 32-year-old Charlotte about how to keep the spark alive in long-term friendships. In this episode, Charlotte opens up about her fear of a childhood friend…
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S1, Ep 4 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: The Nursing Triad - friends as co-parents
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21:49Welcome back to Friendship Therapy! This is the bitesize episode, where Emma discusses her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guest. This week, Emma met another Emma, a psychotherapist who found herself questioning her place in her childhood friendship group after becoming a mother at 19, going through a divorce in her thi…
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S1, Ep 3 Friendship Therapy: Lifting Lids - how therapy can change our friendship dynamics
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41:29Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, a brand new podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma speaks to fellow psychotherapist, also called Emma. Emma became a mother at 19 and subsequently went through a divorce in her thirties, eventually finding …
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S1, Ep 2 BITESIZE Friendship Therapy: Yin and Yang - balance, unconditional acceptance and safety in friendship
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11:51Welcome back to Friendship Therapy and our first bitesize episode, where Emma shares her therapeutic takeaways from her conversation with this week's guests, Janine and Julia. In this bitesize episode, Emma dives into the concept of yin and yang, a term that Janine and Julia use to describe themselves and their friendship. Emma explains how the con…
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S1, Ep 1 NEW Friendship Therapy: Yin and Yang - how complementary friendships can help us grow as individuals
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38:29Welcome to the first ever episode of Friendship Therapy, a brand new podcast where psychotherapist, author and podcaster Emma Reed Turrell looks at your friendship experiences through a therapy lens. This week, Emma speaks to best friends for 25 years, Janine and Julia. Describing their personalities as ‘yin and yang’, these two women were thrown t…
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S7, Ep 7 Best Friend Therapy: Goodbye - Join us for a look back over the last two years of BFT and what makes this community so special...
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39:24Well, here we are. Emma is firmly in denial and Elizabeth is busy looking for silver linings because this week's episode of Best Friend Therapy is our LAST ONE EVER. Probably. We have loved every minute of these last two years, as we've curated this collection of conversations to share with you, our wonderful listeners. Thank you so much for having…
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S7, Ep 6 Best Friend Therapy: Blind Spots - How does unconscious bias affect us? Why do we need perspective? What's your blind spot profile?
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44:37We begin this episode with the announcement that this... sniff... will be... sniff... our last season of Best Friend Therapy but DON'T PANIC because there are good reasons which we'll go into and plenty of exciting new projects in the pipeline! Which also means there's no time to lose and so this week we take a deep dive into the work Emma has been…
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S7, Ep 5 Best Friend Therapy: Drama Triangle - Do you end up having the same old arguments? Listen and learn how to handle conflict better.
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41:44Welcome back to Best Friend Therapy and this season’s opportunity for Emma to therapise our beloved guinea pig, Elizabeth Day, whilst offering some psycho-education for us all about the Transactional Analysis concept of the “Drama Triangle” - why and how we end up repeating conflict in relationships (be they personal or professional) and what we ca…
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S7, Ep 4 Best Friend Therapy: Introverts and Extroverts - What's the difference? How do these traits develop? Which way is best?
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43:37What is introversion and extroversion anyway? This week we’re drawing on the ideas of Carl Jung, and the Big Five personality traits, to help us understand why some people get their energy from being around other people, and others prefer to recharge their batteries on their own. Emma challenges the idea that it’s simply a matter of personality, an…
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S7, Ep 3 Best Friend Therapy: Comparison - Is it a bad thing? How can it help us? What does it tell us about ourselves?
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45:21This week on Best Friend Therapy, we tackle the thorny issue of comparison - how it gets in our way, what its true function is and how it can actually direct us to feel happier and more fulfilled. From Reese Witherspoon to Richard II, we cover themes of unconditional acceptance and safety, via the rise of social media and the Peasants Revolt (bear …
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S7 Ep 2 Best Friend Therapy: Emotional Detachment - When should we take a step back? What stops us? Can it make for healthier relationships?
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43:54Welcome to this week's episode of Best Friend Therapy - the one where we ask the tough questions... * What's the difference between emotional detachment and emotional unavailability? * Why can needs get confused with neediness? * How do sympathy and empathy serve different purposes? We explore how emotional detachment can actually help us to develo…
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S7, Ep 1 Best Friend Therapy: Childfree, Not By Choice - How does it feel? Can there be peace in the end? Why does the language matter?
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59:08🚨 BIG NEWS 🚨 Not only are we back for a brand new season, but Elizabeth and Emma will be hosting a LIVE SHOW for the very first time! Book your tickets and join us live at the Bloomsbury Theatre on Thursday 4th April. We can’t wait to see your gorgeous faces IRL! 🎟️ fane.co.uk/best-friend-therapy --- TW: Miscarriage Welcome back to our seventh seas…
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S6, Ep 8 Best Friend Therapy: Rejection - Why does it hurt so much? How can we overcome it? What is self-rejection?
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47:09TW: Discussion on miscarriage. Welcome to this week's episode of Best Friend Therapy - the fourth instalment of our miniseries on break-ups and the final episode of Season 6! As we have been exploring different break-ups, whether it be a romantic relationship, the ending of a friendship, family estrangement or career change, we realised there is on…
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S6, Ep 7 Best Friend Therapy: Work Break-Ups - How can you cope with unexpected endings? What can you do if your work's not working?
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40:42Welcome to this week's episode of Best Friend Therapy, and the penultimate instalment of our miniseries on break-ups. So far we have been focusing on personal relationships but today it’s time to take a look at professional break-ups - from being fired or made redundant, to feeling left behind or breaking up with a previous profession. We talk abou…
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S6, Ep 6 Best Friend Therapy: Break-ups with friends and family - Can you end a friendship? How do you change old family dynamics?
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40:46Welcome back to our break-ups miniseries, and this week we're looking at the thorny issue of how to end, change or evolve a relationship with friends and family. We talk about why remaining friends is not always as kind as we might think and why being authentic and accountable might actually be more generous. Emma talks about non-verbal boundaries …
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S6, Ep 5 Best Friend Therapy: The Break-Ups MINISERIES - Romantic Heartbreak, Why it Hurts and How to Heal
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43:43In a first for Best Friend Therapy, we bring you a four-part MINISERIES, all about break-ups. We'd be lying if we said it was intentional but we quickly realised there was far too much to say about romatic break-ups, let along friendship break-ups, family break-ups and work break-ups, to get through in a single episode. So this week's episode is de…
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S6, Ep 4 Best Friend Therapy: Burnout - Why do we burn out? What is emotional exhaustion? How can we prevent it?
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44:17This week, we’re talking about burnout and that particular kind of emotional exhaustion that can knock us off our feet and leave us feeling utterly depleted. Emma and Elizabeth both share their own personal stories of burnout and explore what they learned from their experiences. Emma talks about the work she does with organisations to prevent burno…
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