Best Jessica Da Silva Lmft Podcasts (2025)

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Going Deep Too Soon vs. Secure Pacing in Dating 14:38

12d ago14:38

14:38

Diving deep too quickly in dating can feel exciting, but it often creates premature emotional bonds that blur your judgment of compatibility. In this episode, I explore why anxious and fearful avoidant attachers are especially prone to oversharing, rushing intimacy, and confusing emotional closeness with true alignment. You’ll learn practical ways …

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How I Molded Myself to Be a Magnet for Avoidant Partners 11:32

17d ago11:32

11:32

In this episode, I open up about how I subconsciously molded myself to attract avoidant partners and how that pattern was rooted in my earliest experiences of love. I share how I learned to appear “cool,” independent, and unattached in order to feel wanted, and why that left me feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in relationships. If you’ve ever f…

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Thriving at Work Struggling in Love With Carly Ann 44:03

1M ago44:03

44:03

Why is it that ambitious, successful women can thrive in their careers but feel lost in love? In this episode, Attachment Therapist and Coach Carly Ann joins me to explore the emotional disconnect that many high-achieving women experience in relationships. We dive into: How codependency is hardwired into our understanding of love The difference bet…

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Growing Pains of Becoming Securely Attached 10:01

1M ago10:01

10:01

This week on the podcast, we’re talking about the growing pains of becoming securely attached.⁣ It’s not just sunshine and inner peace—real healing requires honesty, self-responsibility, and often, some very uncomfortable shifts. Whether it’s walking away from misaligned connections, holding firmer boundaries, or realizing that peace is better than…

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How Avoidant Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies 8:19

2M ago8:19

8:19

We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism? In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet emotional needs. I share a personal story, common patterns I see in cli…

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How Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies 9:14

2M ago9:14

9:14

What if some of your anxious attachment behaviors are actually rooted in…selfishness? Not because you don’t care—but because fear can make everything feel urgent and all about you. In this episode, I share my own hard truths, the rigid expectations I used to set, and how healing started when I finally saw the bigger picture. This one’s for anyone r…

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How Avoidance Sabotaged My Dating Life and What I Did About It With Lexi Stout (Client Stories) 28:42

2M ago28:42

28:42

Today on the podcast, we’re joined by Lexi Stout—a former coaching client who opens up about her journey of recognizing how her avoidant attachment style was impacting her dating life, and what she’s been doing to break old patterns and move toward healthy relationships. We dive into: How her avoidant attachment kept her stuck in unfulfilling situa…

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What If Your Attachment Style Isn’t What You Thought? 9:49

2M ago9:49

9:49

Ever taken an attachment quiz and thought, “Yup, I’m anxious”… only to find yourself totally avoidant once real intimacy kicks in? In this episode, I dive into why your feelings might say one thing, but your behaviors—especially under stress—reveal the real story. I’m sharing insights, patterns to look for, and a personal dating example that might …

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The Unspoken Pain of Avoidant Attachment 43:49

4M ago43:49

43:49

In this episode, we explore the hidden struggles behind avoidant attachment through a candid conversation with someone who’s lived it. We discuss: 🔹 Why he resisted change in past relationships — believing emotional distance was a strength 🔹 How self-protection became self-disconnection 🔹 The breakup that made him realize his avoidant patterns were…

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What Dating Securely Has Taught Me 15:22

4M ago15:22

15:22

In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey. As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, an…

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Letting Go of Unavailable Love: Meghan’s Journey to Security (Client Stories) 32:35

4M ago32:35

32:35

Today on the podcast, we’re joined by the lovely Meghan Gatto. Meghan went through the My Secure Self group coaching program this past summer with the goal of deepening her understanding of anxious attachment — and learning practical tools to break unhealthy relationship patterns. In this episode, we dive into: Breaking the cycle of anxious attach…

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Healing Anxious Attachment and Learning to Be Okay Alone With Joe Reilly (Client Stories) 52:28

6M ago52:28

52:28

Today, I’m excited to introduce Joe Reilly, an incredible human and former coaching client of mine, who has been actively working to break his anxious attachment patterns and step into his secure self. We dive into: The challenges of anxious attachment His pattern of dating avoidant partners and where that inclination comes from Healing through a r…

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How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship to Money With Shamina Taylor 50:36

6M ago50:36

50:36

If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know I love exploring how attachment styles impact all areas of life—not just relationships with people. Through my own healing work, I’ve noticed that as I became more secure and confident within myself, that same transformation began to reflect in my relationship with everything—including m…

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Commitment vs. Compatibility: Are You in the Right Relationship? 14:29

6M ago14:29

14:29

In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship. Learn about attachment coaching with me here.…

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Saying "No" to Emotional Unavailability and "Yes" to Secure Love With Sabrina Zohar 48:18

6M ago48:18

48:18

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice. In this episode, we discuss: Sabrina’s journey from anxious to secure attachment. The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn’t just disappear. The …

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Embracing The Messy, Non-Linear Path of Grief With Melina Charis 45:56

7M ago45:56

45:56

Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself. We cover: Grieving break…

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1-Year Breakup Update: A Personal Reflection 23:43

7M ago23:43

23:43

If you've been following my breakup journey, I wanted to share an update on my healing process now that it's been 1 year. My hope is that this gives you insight into the grief cycle, the messiness of healing, and reassurance that things do get better. Work With Me : Attachment Coaching - ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ Previous recorded break-up updates: - Recovering…

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Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories) 47:58

8M ago47:58

47:58

In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw arises, identifying what makes a partner feel safe for avoidants, and …

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How Our Attachment Style Influences Our Relationship to Food and our Body With Vanessa Scaringi and Kathryn Garland 50:51

9M ago50:51

50:51

Today on the podcast, Vanessa Scaringi, PhD, CEDS-C, a licensed psychologist and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, and Kathryn Garland, LCSW-S, CEDS-C, a clinical social worker and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, discuss: How attachment styles influence our relationship with our body and eating habits How different a…

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From Heartbreak to Finding Love With Hannah Flynn (Client Stories) 43:38

9M ago43:38

43:38

In today's episode, the wonderful Hannah Flynn, a former client of mine, shares her journey of navigating her avoidant attachment style, overcoming deception and heartbreak, and ultimately finding healthy, secure love. We discuss: The challenges of communication with an avoidant attachment style. The importance of addressing conflict rather than av…

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Getting Attached to Things Outside of Our Relationships (Personal Share) 17:34

10M ago17:34

17:34

I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, i…

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Redefining Your Perspective on Needs With Chris Rackliffe 1:01:05

10M ago1:01:05

1:01:05

Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless client…

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Somatic Experiencing for Healing Attachment Wounds With Lisa May Francisco 53:55

10M ago53:55

53:55

Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual…

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Identifying Subtle Signs of Dismissiveness in Your Partner and It’s Impact on Your Well-Being 15:05

10M ago15:05

15:05

In this episode, I discuss identifying subtle forms of dismissiveness in a partner and its impact on our well-being from a personal and general perspective. It's easy to overlook milder forms of rejection, especially if we consider our loved ones "good people." But if we don't become aware of these troubling mild behaviors, they can perpetuate our …

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How to Connect to Your Authentic (Secure) Self With Rebecca Haddock (Client Stories) 1:00:04

11M ago1:00:04

1:00:04

Today on the podcast, we have a special guest: Rebecca Haddock. She is a badass businesswoman, scientist, inventor, and president of her company, Equitape. Rebecca is also a former client of mine who originally came to me seeking support in breaking her unhealthy attachment patterns, specifically tendencies associated with avoidant attachment. In t…

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How Our Attachment Styles Affect Our Break-Ups With Lucy Price 1:01:50

11M ago1:01:50

1:01:50

On this podcast the podcast we have Lucy Price. Lucy is a breakup and relationship coach who helps individuals heal from heartbreak, get over their exes, and create fulfilling lives. Lucy specializes in guiding clients through the emotional challenges of breakups, teaching self-love, and helping them rebuild confidence and clarity for the future. W…

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An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick 1:09:44

12M ago1:09:44

1:09:44

Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to ag…

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Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens) 31:59

12M ago31:59

31:59

I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach. In this episode I share: -How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up. -How I've been navigating the 5 stag…

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How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating 15:28

12M ago15:28

15:28

Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away. MY SECURE SELF GROUP COACHING PROGRAM (3 MONTHS) 1:1 ATTACHMENT COACHING (10 WEEKS) Contact Me: hello@jessicadasilvacoa…

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A Males Perspective on Having an Anxious Attachment Style With Jason Berry 1:11:24

1y ago1:11:24

1:11:24

Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with hav…

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The Attachment Styles and Taking Things Personally 24:22

1y ago24:22

24:22

If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors.In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes thin…

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How the Attachment Styles Experience Being Single 27:58

1y ago27:58

27:58

In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease.——1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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Recovering From Heartbreak (Through a Secure Lens) 19:56

1+ y ago19:56

19:56

In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach). Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :) _____ 1-1 Attachment Coaching With Me: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 13:26

1+ y ago13:26

13:26

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style 19:32

1+ y ago19:32

19:32

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication.———1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has an Anxious Attachment Style 33:21

1+ y ago33:21

33:21

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy.———Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples)…

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Four Steps to Connect to Your “Secure Self” 18:47

1+ y ago18:47

18:47

In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity.——Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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To Stay or Break-up? Leaving My Relationship of Six Years (Personal Share) 35:15

1+ y ago35:15

35:15

Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself.———1:1 Attachment Coachi…

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Overcoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn Bryant 43:37

1+ y ago43:37

43:37

Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about:-How jealousy can manifest in your relationships.-How to change your relationship to jealousy.-…

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Trauma Recovery for Attachment Styles With Rowan Garlow 51:01

1+ y ago51:01

51:01

Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma.We talk about:-What is trauma recovery work?-What attachment trauma looks like specifically.-How trauma manifests in our behaviors.-Why your “over…

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Why We Tolerate Difficult Relationships 22:50

1+ y ago22:50

22:50

In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations.——Find me here:1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram - @thejessicadasilva…

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Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley 57:58

1+ y ago57:58

57:58

Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style).-Strengths and challenges of each attachment style.-How knowin…

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Compromise Within Relationships with Imani Tutt 36:35

1+ y ago36:35

36:35

Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising.——-Find Imani here:https://imaniintouch.comInstagram: @imani.intouch——-Find Jessica here:www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram: @thejessicadasilva…

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Difference Between Relationship Anxiety and Relationship OCD with Dr. Holly Batchelder 41:56

1+ y ago41:56

41:56

In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life.You can find Dr. Holly here:instagram: holly.phdwebiste: www.hollyphd.compodcast: twi…

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Difference Between Needs and Expectations 11:52

1+ y ago11:52

11:52

In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-…

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How To Stop Attracting Toxic People 16:16

1+ y ago16:16

16:16

In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…

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How Alcoholic Parent(s) Influence the Development of Our Attachment Style 18:36

1+ y ago18:36

18:36

PODCASTIn this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2…

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How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic) 27:25

1+ y ago27:25

27:25

In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-m…

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How To Navigate Relationship Ambivalence (Aka, Confusion and Indecision) 16:41

2y ago16:41

16:41

Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.…

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Putting Myself First with Alicia (Client Stories) 47:42

2y ago47:42

47:42

Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant a…

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