What Dating Securely Has Taught Me

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#Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Jessica Da Silva

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It’s the very first episode of The Big Pitch with Jimmy Carr and our first guest is Phil Wang! And Phil’s subgenre is…This Place is Evil. We’re talking psychological torture, we’re talking gory death scenes, we’re talking Lorraine Kelly?! The Big Pitch with Jimmy Carr is a brand new comedy podcast where each week a different celebrity guest pitches an idea for a film based on one of the SUPER niche sub-genres on Netflix. From ‘Steamy Crime Movies from the 1970s’ to ‘Australian Dysfunctional Family Comedies Starring A Strong Female Lead’, our celebrity guests will pitch their wacky plot, their dream cast, the marketing stunts, and everything in between. By the end of every episode, Jimmy Carr, Comedian by night / “Netflix Executive” by day, will decide whether the pitch is greenlit or condemned to development hell! Listen on all podcast platforms and watch on the Netflix Is A Joke YouTube Channel . The Big Pitch is a co-production by Netflix and BBC Studios Audio. Jimmy Carr is an award-winning stand-up comedian and writer, touring his brand-new show JIMMY CARR: LAUGHS FUNNY throughout the USA from May to November this year, as well as across the UK and Europe, before hitting Australia and New Zealand in early 2026. All info and tickets for the tour are available at JIMMYCARR.COM Production Coordinator: Becky Carewe-Jeffries Production Manager: Mabel Finnegan-Wright Editor: Stuart Reid Producer: Pete Strauss Executive Producer: Richard Morris Executive Producers for Netflix: Kathryn Huyghue, Erica Brady, and David Markowitz Set Design: Helen Coyston Studios: Tower Bridge Studios Make Up: Samantha Coughlan Cameras: Daniel Spencer Sound: Charlie Emery Branding: Tim Lane Photography: James Hole…

22 days ago 15:22

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In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey.

As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, and compassion. But that doesn’t mean the old patterns don’t still surface — especially when connection, chemistry, and unmet needs collide.

I’ll walk you through how I navigated this dynamic from a secure place, the conversations I had, and ultimately, how I honored myself enough to walk away when alignment wasn’t there — even when it felt good in the moment.

If you’ve ever struggled to balance attraction with long-term compatibility, or felt pulled between your heart and your values, this episode is for you.

Takeaways include:

The difference between chemistry and compatibility
How to identify your unmet needs in real time
Why even "kind and available" people might not be the right fit
What it looks like to actually date from your secure self
How to exit with integrity when your paths don’t align

🎧 Plus: Only 2 more days to join the My Secure Self Membership for just $1 your first month! Get access to group coaching, monthly workshops, and tools to help you build secure, aligned relationships HERE.

Looking for 1:1 support, learn more about attachment coaching here.

127 episodes

LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS

What Dating Securely Has Taught Me

LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS

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published 22 days ago

M4A•Episode home

In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey.

If you’ve ever struggled to balance attraction with long-term compatibility, or felt pulled between your heart and your values, this episode is for you.

Takeaways include:

The difference between chemistry and compatibility
How to identify your unmet needs in real time
Why even "kind and available" people might not be the right fit
What it looks like to actually date from your secure self
How to exit with integrity when your paths don’t align

Looking for 1:1 support, learn more about attachment coaching here.

127 episodes

#Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Jessica Da Silva

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The Unspoken Pain of Avoidant Attachment 43:49

16 days ago43:49

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In this episode, we explore the hidden struggles behind avoidant attachment through a candid conversation with someone who’s lived it. We discuss: 🔹 Why he resisted change in past relationships — believing emotional distance was a strength 🔹 How self-protection became self-disconnection 🔹 The breakup that made him realize his avoidant patterns were the root cause 🔹 Why avoidants do love deeply — and how fear keeps it buried 🔹 Reconnecting to his emotional self and finding fulfilling love 🔹 Closure for anyone hurt by someone with avoidant attachment This one is for anyone who’s struggled to love — or be loved — with a guarded heart. Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.…

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What Dating Securely Has Taught Me 15:22

22 days ago15:22

15:22

In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey. As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, and compassion. But that doesn’t mean the old patterns don’t still surface — especially when connection, chemistry, and unmet needs collide. I’ll walk you through how I navigated this dynamic from a secure place, the conversations I had, and ultimately, how I honored myself enough to walk away when alignment wasn’t there — even when it felt good in the moment. If you’ve ever struggled to balance attraction with long-term compatibility, or felt pulled between your heart and your values, this episode is for you. Takeaways include: The difference between chemistry and compatibility How to identify your unmet needs in real time Why even "kind and available" people might not be the right fit What it looks like to actually date from your secure self How to exit with integrity when your paths don’t align 🎧 Plus: Only 2 more days to join the My Secure Self Membership for just $1 your first month! Get access to group coaching, monthly workshops, and tools to help you build secure, aligned relationships HERE. Looking for 1:1 support, learn more about attachment coaching here.…

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Letting Go of Unavailable Love: Meghan’s Journey to Security (Client Stories) 32:35

28 days ago32:35

32:35

Today on the podcast, we’re joined by the lovely Meghan Gatto. Meghan went through the My Secure Self group coaching program this past summer with the goal of deepening her understanding of anxious attachment — and learning practical tools to break unhealthy relationship patterns. In this episode, we dive into: Breaking the cycle of anxious attachment Attraction to avoidant partners—and how to stop that How your body signals when you’re in the wrong relationship Approaching dating from a secure lens Knowing your needs, raising your standards, and setting boundaries And we finish off with my signature Secure Self visualization to help you shift from anxious to secure attachment My Secure Self Membership - Join for $1 today 🎉 1:1 Attachment Coaching…

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Healing Anxious Attachment and Learning to Be Okay Alone With Joe Reilly (Client Stories) 52:28

11 weeks ago52:28

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Today, I’m excited to introduce Joe Reilly , an incredible human and former coaching client of mine, who has been actively working to break his anxious attachment patterns and step into his secure self . We dive into: The challenges of anxious attachment His pattern of dating avoidant partners and where that inclination comes from Healing through a recent breakup Learning to be okay with being alone How he’s been building a secure relationship with himself through this season so that he can be more intentional about his next partner, rather than make decisions from a place of scarcity or insecurity. If you’re looking for a heartfelt conversation about attachment, healing, and self-growth , this episode is for you. Contact Joe Reilly: www.joereilly.org Instagram: @joereillymusic Attachment Coaching with Jessica: 1-1 Attachment Coaching (8-weeks) My Secure Self E-Course…

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How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship to Money With Shamina Taylor 50:36

12 weeks ago50:36

50:36

If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know I love exploring how attachment styles impact all areas of life—not just relationships with people. Through my own healing work, I’ve noticed that as I became more secure and confident within myself, that same transformation began to reflect in my relationship with everything—including money! That’s why I invited Shamina Taylor, a former attorney turned Wealth Consciousness Mentor and author of the Amazon #1 Best Seller Unlocking The Quantum Woman , to share her expertise on: How attachment styles influence our relationship with money The importance of wealth consciousness Understanding masculine and feminine energy in making money How a scarcity mindset—whether with people or money—keeps us stuck in insecure attachment patterns Practical tips to shift your attachment to money and open yourself to more abundance Find Shamina: Daily CEO Money Making Moves www.shaminataylor.com Instagram: @shaminataylor Podcast: Unapologetically Rich Attachment Coaching with Jessica: 1-1 Attachment Coaching (8-weeks) My Secure Self E-Course…

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Commitment vs. Compatibility: Are You in the Right Relationship? 14:29

13 weeks ago14:29

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In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship. Learn about attachment coaching with me here.…

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Saying "No" to Emotional Unavailability and "Yes" to Secure Love With Sabrina Zohar 48:18

15 weeks ago48:18

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Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice. In this episode, we discuss: Sabrina’s journey from anxious to secure attachment. The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn’t just disappear. The power of nervous system regulation for those with anxious attachment. How to spot emotional unavailability in dating. Low-effort vs. high-effort behaviors in dating & relationships. Key qualities to look for in a secure partnership. Tune in for insightful and actionable advice on building healthier relationships! Contact Sabrina Zohar: www.sabrinazohar.com Instagram: @thesabrinazoharshow Podcast: The Sabrina Zohar Show TikTok: Sabrina.zohar Youtube: Sabrina Zohar Work With Jessica: 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE My Secure Self E-Course (Self-Study) Instagram: @thejessicadasilva…

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Embracing The Messy, Non-Linear Path of Grief With Melina Charis 45:56

16 weeks ago45:56

45:56

Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself. We cover: Grieving breakups, death, identity shifts, and more. How unprocessed grief manifests in daily life. The ways grief can resurface years later. Understanding that grief is an ongoing process. What it truly means to process grief. Different healing approaches and ways to move through grief. *Find Melina’s offerings at melinacharis.com and read her writing at [/14b27051b990809ab0a4e21d62ab80a3?pvs=25]melinacharis.substack.com. *Learn about attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.…

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1-Year Breakup Update: A Personal Reflection 23:43

17 weeks ago23:43

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If you've been following my breakup journey, I wanted to share an update on my healing process now that it's been 1 year. My hope is that this gives you insight into the grief cycle, the messiness of healing, and reassurance that things do get better. Work With Me : Attachment Coaching - ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ Previous recorded break-up updates: - Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens) - Recovering From Heartbreak - (Through a Secure Lens) Almost 6 Month Update - To Stay or Breakup - Leaving My Relationship of 6 Years…

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Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories) 47:58

21 weeks ago47:58

47:58

In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw arises, identifying what makes a partner feel safe for avoidants, and understanding when it’s worth staying with an avoidant partner or when it’s time to walk away. Whether you have an avoidant attachment style or are in a relationship with someone who does, this conversation offers valuable insights and practical takeaways. Learn about attachment coaching with Jessica here.…

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How Our Attachment Style Influences Our Relationship to Food and our Body With Vanessa Scaringi and Kathryn Garland 50:51

24 weeks ago50:51

50:51

Today on the podcast, Vanessa Scaringi, PhD, CEDS-C, a licensed psychologist and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, and Kathryn Garland, LCSW-S, CEDS-C, a clinical social worker and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, discuss: How attachment styles influence our relationship with our body and eating habits How different attachment styles may experience eating disorders The impact of early relational experiences on eating behaviors Tools to heal and rebuild a positive relationship with your body And so much more! Vanessa and both co-own a group practice Calm Counseling in Austin Texas that specializes in the treatment of disordered eating and body image issues. Contact Vanessa and Kathryn: www.keepcalmtx.com Instagram: @calmcounselingatx Work with Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilvacoaching…

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From Heartbreak to Finding Love With Hannah Flynn (Client Stories) 43:38

26 weeks ago43:38

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In today's episode, the wonderful Hannah Flynn, a former client of mine, shares her journey of navigating her avoidant attachment style, overcoming deception and heartbreak, and ultimately finding healthy, secure love. We discuss: The challenges of communication with an avoidant attachment style. The importance of addressing conflict rather than avoiding it to maintain peace. The pain of being deceived in a trusted relationship. Learning your relationship needs and desires through trial and error. The journey to finding love again. Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.…

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Getting Attached to Things Outside of Our Relationships (Personal Share) 17:34

28 weeks ago17:34

17:34

I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, items, routines, goals, dreams, by highlighting similar attachment patterns that could be harming you rather than helping you. Most importantly, how to shift your approach! ATTACHMENT COACHING WITH ME: Book a free clarity call here. www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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Redefining Your Perspective on Needs With Chris Rackliffe 1:01:05

28 weeks ago1:01:05

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Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless clients across five continents to help them heal their anxious attachment style and grow more secure, sharing everything he’s learned on his own healing journey—from how to integrate trauma and regulate the nervous system, to how to effectively communicate and set boundaries. With a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Miami—and an honorary Ph.D. in the “School of Life”—Chris has made it his sole purpose to help others find peace, perspective, purpose, and power through their trauma. We discuss: -Why it's important to know your needs for relationship health and satisfaction. -How to identify and meet your needs. -How to measure if your needs are being met within your relationship. -Creating a balanced approach of give and take. -When to stay or leave your relationship. Contact and work with Chris: Check his my website and TikTok ! Get your copy of his first book, It's Good to See Me Again , on Amazon now. Contact and work with Jessica: 10 Week Attachment Coaching Instagram: @thejessicadasilva hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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Somatic Experiencing for Healing Attachment Wounds With Lisa May Francisco 53:55

30 weeks ago53:55

53:55

Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual coaching and transformative practices. We talk about: -The benefits of using somatic techniques to address our attachment challenges. -A guided EFT session for anxiety. -Retraining our nervous system for secure attachment. CONTACT LISA: Free 45-min EFT coaching session - https://calendly.com/sacredfemmealchemy/free-eft-session Sacred Femme Alchemy Podcast Instagram: @sacredfemmealchemy Work with Lisa CONTACT JESSICA: 1-1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 Instagram: @thejessicadasilva…

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Identifying Subtle Signs of Dismissiveness in Your Partner and It’s Impact on Your Well-Being 15:05

31 weeks ago15:05

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In this episode, I discuss identifying subtle forms of dismissiveness in a partner and its impact on our well-being from a personal and general perspective. It's easy to overlook milder forms of rejection, especially if we consider our loved ones "good people." But if we don't become aware of these troubling mild behaviors, they can perpetuate our feelings of disconnection and insecurity within our relationships, leaving us confused. 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2…

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How to Connect to Your Authentic (Secure) Self With Rebecca Haddock (Client Stories) 1:00:04

33 weeks ago1:00:04

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Today on the podcast, we have a special guest: Rebecca Haddock. She is a badass businesswoman, scientist, inventor, and president of her company, Equitape. Rebecca is also a former client of mine who originally came to me seeking support in breaking her unhealthy attachment patterns, specifically tendencies associated with avoidant attachment. In this episode, we talk about… -Typical relationship challenges for those of us with an avoidant attachment style. -How attachment science can help us understand our relationship patterns (specifically those toxic or unhealthy ones that we just tend to keep re-creating in our lives). -The importance of separating chemistry versus compatibility for long-term relationship satisfaction. -Conscious dating and how empowering that process can be when we have this attachment insight. -The importance of knowing your values and needs so that you make wiser relationship decisions. -And most importantly, connecting to your authentic (aka secure self) for true personal and relational fulfillment. Book a free Clarity Call with Jessica to learn about Attachment Coaching: https://calendly.com/attachmentcoaching/20minute…

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How Our Attachment Styles Affect Our Break-Ups With Lucy Price 1:01:50

35 weeks ago1:01:50

1:01:50

On this podcast the podcast we have Lucy Price. Lucy is a breakup and relationship coach who helps individuals heal from heartbreak, get over their exes, and create fulfilling lives. Lucy specializes in guiding clients through the emotional challenges of breakups, teaching self-love, and helping them rebuild confidence and clarity for the future. We talk about: -How our attachment styles are reflected in a breakup. -How to navigate a breakup depending on our attachment tendencies. -Going no contact and is that the best move? -Filling the void when we are feeling lonely. -When its time to start dating again or enter a new relationship. -Tools on how to get over your ex, heal from the heartbreak, and move forward in the most empowering way… And so much more—Including intimate details about our own break up journeys. Attachment Coaching With Jessica: My secure Self (3 month Group Coaching Program) One-on-one Attachment Coaching www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com @thejessicadasilva Contact Lucy Price: IG: @lucy.m.price TikTok: @lucy.m.price Website: www.shiftyourstory.net Podcast: Breakups and Breakthroughs…

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An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick 1:09:44

37 weeks ago1:09:44

1:09:44

Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to agree to come onto my podcast and share his personal experience with having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and his process over the years to becoming more secure. We talk about: -How our hypermasculine society reinforces the dismissive avoidant attachment style characteristics and behaviors. -The importance of normalizing male emotionality. -Common dismissive avoidant fears hindering them from commitment. -What makes a “safe partner” and motivates them to change. -Debunking the misconception that dismissive avoidants don't have feelings and don't want relationships. -Why avoidants are subconsciously attracted to anxious attachers (and vice versa). -How avoidant and anxious attachers can actually serve as catalysts for each others individual growth and healing. -How to best determine when to stay or leave your relationship with an avoidant attacher. -Strategies Patch has used to overcome his avoidant attachment style and earn secure attachment. Contact Patch: www.talktopatch.com Instagram: @talktopatch Attachment Coaching with Jessica: One-on-one Coaching (10 weeks) My Secure Self Group Coaching (12 weeks) Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens) 31:59

38 weeks ago31:59

31:59

I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach. In this episode I share: -How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up. -How I've been navigating the 5 stages of grief and it's natural highs and lows. -Entering the dating app world! -Opening myself up to new experiences (and people). -Navigating my fearful avoidant and anxious attachment tendencies as they surface while dating. Work with me: ⁠My Secure Self Group Coaching (3 month)⁠ ⁠1-1 Attachment Coaching (10 weeks)⁠…

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How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating 15:28

39 weeks ago15:28

15:28

Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away. MY SECURE SELF GROUP COACHING PROGRAM (3 MONTHS) 1:1 ATTACHMENT COACHING (10 WEEKS) Contact Me: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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A Males Perspective on Having an Anxious Attachment Style With Jason Berry 1:11:24

44 weeks ago1:11:24

1:11:24

Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with having an anxious attachment style. In this episode, he shares: -A male's perspective on having an anxious attachment style. -Dating as an anxious attacher. -The anxious attachments' natural inclination and attraction to people with an avoidant attachment style. -His experience with shifting from anxious to avoidant attachment after heartbreak. -How alcohol exacerbated his insecurities as an anxious attachment style. -How he better navigates his insecurities as someone who aims to be more secure. Find Jason here: linktr.ee/awakenoutofjason Instagram: @awakenoutofjason Attachment Coaching with Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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The Attachment Styles and Taking Things Personally 24:22

45 weeks ago24:22

24:22

If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors. In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes things personally, the implications, and how to stop. ——— My Secure Self Group Coaching Program: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-case-study…

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How the Attachment Styles Experience Being Single 27:58

49 weeks ago27:58

27:58

In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease. —— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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Recovering From Heartbreak (Through a Secure Lens) 19:56

1 year ago19:56

19:56

In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach). Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :) _____ 1-1 Attachment Coaching With Me: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 13:26

1 year ago13:26

13:26

Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style 19:32

1 year ago19:32

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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication. ——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has an Anxious Attachment Style 33:21

1 year ago33:21

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Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy. ——— Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples) - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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Four Steps to Connect to Your “Secure Self” 18:47

1 year ago18:47

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In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity. —— Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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To Stay or Break-up? Leaving My Relationship of Six Years (Personal Share) 35:15

1 year ago35:15

35:15

Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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Overcoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn Bryant 43:37

1 year ago43:37

43:37

Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about: -How jealousy can manifest in your relationships. -How to change your relationship to jealousy. -Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to your underlying attachment wounds. -Steps to navigate jealousy in a healthy, secure way. ——— Find Shanenn: Website- www.topself.com Instagram- @topselfcoach ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva…

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Trauma Recovery for Attachment Styles With Rowan Garlow 51:01

1 year ago51:01

51:01

Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma. We talk about: -What is trauma recovery work? -What attachment trauma looks like specifically. -How trauma manifests in our behaviors. -Why your “over-reactions” are gateways to your healing. -How to heal attachment trauma. ——— Find Rowan: Website- www.rowangarlow.com Instagram- @rowangarlow ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva…

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Why We Tolerate Difficult Relationships 22:50

1 year ago22:50

22:50

In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations. —— Find me here: 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram - @thejessicadasilva…

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Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley 57:58

1 year ago57:58

57:58

Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style). -Strengths and challenges of each attachment style. -How knowing the relationship styles help us in dating and relationships. -If incompatible attachment style dynamics can work out for the long haul. -Tips to make incompatible attachment styles within relationships work. (Ex, anxious and avoidant) -How to shift from insecure to secure attachment from a realistic standpoint. Find Anita: www.dranitakunhley.com Instagram: @the.empathetic.counselor ——— Find Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva…

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Compromise Within Relationships with Imani Tutt 36:35

1 year ago36:35

36:35

Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising. ——- Find Imani here: https://imaniintouch.com Instagram: @imani.intouch ——- Find Jessica here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva…

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Difference Between Relationship Anxiety and Relationship OCD with Dr. Holly Batchelder 41:56

1 year ago41:56

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In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life. You can find Dr. Holly here: instagram: holly.phd webiste: www.hollyphd.com podcast: twinmindsunwind ——— You can learn more about attachment coaching and e-courses here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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Difference Between Needs and Expectations 11:52

1 year ago11:52

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In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…

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How To Stop Attracting Toxic People 16:16

1 year ago16:16

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In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…

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How Alcoholic Parent(s) Influence the Development of Our Attachment Style 18:36

1 year ago18:36

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PODCAST In this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…

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How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic) 27:25

1 year ago27:25

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In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course…

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How To Navigate Relationship Ambivalence (Aka, Confusion and Indecision) 16:41

2 years ago16:41

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Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.…

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Putting Myself First with Alicia (Client Stories) 47:42

2 years ago47:42

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Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant areas of her life. ——————— $300 OFF Coupon Code: FLASHSALE https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ——————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: jessicadasilvacoaching.com…

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How to Measure Your Progress in Developing a Secure Attachment Style 10:36

2 years ago10:36

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Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately. ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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How Each Attachment Style Experiences 5 Stages of a Relationship 21:54

2 years ago21:54

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Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant). ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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Normalizing “The Icks” in Dating and Relationships with Kelsey Wonderlin 49:36

2 years ago49:36