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1 Shuai Wang’s Journey from China to Charleston 38:30
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Chef Shuai Wang was the runner-up on the 22nd season of Bravo’s Top Chef and is the force behind two standout restaurants in Charleston, South Carolina—Jackrabbit Filly and King BBQ—where he brings together the flavors of his childhood in Beijing and the spirit of the South in some pretty unforgettable ways. He grew up just a short walk from Tiananmen Square, in a tiny home with no electricity or running water, where his grandmother often cooked over charcoal. Later, in Queens, New York, his mom taught herself to cook—her first dishes were a little salty, but they were always made with love. And somewhere along the way, Shuai learned that cooking wasn’t just about food—it was about taking care of people. After years working in New York kitchens, he made his way to Charleston and started building something that feels entirely his own. Today, we’re talking about how all those experiences come together on the plate, the family stories behind his cooking, and what it’s been like to share that journey on national TV. For more info visit: southernliving.com/biscuitsandjam Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
Normalizing “The Icks” in Dating and Relationships with Kelsey Wonderlin
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Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like. In this episode, we dive deep into relationship anxiety, the realities of dating, and how to better differentiate what is our insecurity versus what is our truth. Kelsey Wonderlin: https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/ —— Jessica Da Silva: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like. In this episode, we dive deep into relationship anxiety, the realities of dating, and how to better differentiate what is our insecurity versus what is our truth. Kelsey Wonderlin: https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/ —— Jessica Da Silva: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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1 Growing Pains of Becoming Securely Attached 10:01
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This week on the podcast, we’re talking about the growing pains of becoming securely attached . It’s not just sunshine and inner peace—real healing requires honesty, self-responsibility, and often, some very uncomfortable shifts. Whether it’s walking away from misaligned connections, holding firmer boundaries, or realizing that peace is better than intensity… becoming secure means learning to trust yourself, even when it’s hard. If you’ve been wondering why this healing journey feels so tough sometimes—this episode is for you. You’re not broken, you’re growing 💛 *Learn about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.…

1 How Avoidant Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies 8:19
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We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism? In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet emotional needs. I share a personal story, common patterns I see in clients, and why adjusting expectations (on both sides) is key for healthy, interdependent relationships. Whether you’re dating someone avoidant or navigating your own avoidant patterns, this episode will help you better understand the “why” behind the behavior—and how to create more compassion and clarity in your relationships. *Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.…

1 How Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies 9:14
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What if some of your anxious attachment behaviors are actually rooted in…selfishness? Not because you don’t care—but because fear can make everything feel urgent and all about you . In this episode, I share my own hard truths, the rigid expectations I used to set, and how healing started when I finally saw the bigger picture. This one’s for anyone ready to trade “me-focused” survival patterns for truly secure connection. 💛 Learn about Attachment Coaching with me HERE.…

1 How Avoidance Sabotaged My Dating Life and What I Did About It With Lexi Stout (Client Stories) 28:42
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Today on the podcast, we’re joined by Lexi Stout —a former coaching client who opens up about her journey of recognizing how her avoidant attachment style was impacting her dating life, and what she’s been doing to break old patterns and move toward healthy relationships. We dive into: How her avoidant attachment kept her stuck in unfulfilling situationships Learning to open her heart and receive love Breaking the habit of hyper-independence and accepting support Confronting her avoidance and becoming more assertive in communication Navigating her first mature, secure relationship with confidence Tune in for a raw, relatable, and inspiring conversation about healing, self-awareness, and growth in love. *Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.…

1 What If Your Attachment Style Isn’t What You Thought? 9:49
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Ever taken an attachment quiz and thought, “Yup, I’m anxious”… only to find yourself totally avoidant once real intimacy kicks in? In this episode, I dive into why your feelings might say one thing, but your behaviors —especially under stress—reveal the real story. I’m sharing insights, patterns to look for, and a personal dating example that might sound all too familiar. Let’s untangle the truth together. Learn about attachment coaching with Jessica here. Instagram: @thejessicadasilva…
In this episode, we explore the hidden struggles behind avoidant attachment through a candid conversation with someone who’s lived it. We discuss: 🔹 Why he resisted change in past relationships — believing emotional distance was a strength 🔹 How self-protection became self-disconnection 🔹 The breakup that made him realize his avoidant patterns were the root cause 🔹 Why avoidants do love deeply — and how fear keeps it buried 🔹 Reconnecting to his emotional self and finding fulfilling love 🔹 Closure for anyone hurt by someone with avoidant attachment This one is for anyone who’s struggled to love — or be loved — with a guarded heart. Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.…
In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey. As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, and compassion. But that doesn’t mean the old patterns don’t still surface — especially when connection, chemistry, and unmet needs collide. I’ll walk you through how I navigated this dynamic from a secure place, the conversations I had, and ultimately, how I honored myself enough to walk away when alignment wasn’t there — even when it felt good in the moment. If you’ve ever struggled to balance attraction with long-term compatibility, or felt pulled between your heart and your values, this episode is for you. Takeaways include: The difference between chemistry and compatibility How to identify your unmet needs in real time Why even "kind and available" people might not be the right fit What it looks like to actually date from your secure self How to exit with integrity when your paths don’t align 🎧 Plus: Only 2 more days to join the My Secure Self Membership for just $1 your first month! Get access to group coaching, monthly workshops, and tools to help you build secure, aligned relationships HERE. Looking for 1:1 support, learn more about attachment coaching here.…

1 Letting Go of Unavailable Love: Meghan’s Journey to Security (Client Stories) 32:35
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Today on the podcast, we’re joined by the lovely Meghan Gatto. Meghan went through the My Secure Self group coaching program this past summer with the goal of deepening her understanding of anxious attachment — and learning practical tools to break unhealthy relationship patterns. In this episode, we dive into: Breaking the cycle of anxious attachment Attraction to avoidant partners—and how to stop that How your body signals when you’re in the wrong relationship Approaching dating from a secure lens Knowing your needs, raising your standards, and setting boundaries And we finish off with my signature Secure Self visualization to help you shift from anxious to secure attachment My Secure Self Membership - Join for $1 today 🎉 1:1 Attachment Coaching…

1 Healing Anxious Attachment and Learning to Be Okay Alone With Joe Reilly (Client Stories) 52:28
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Today, I’m excited to introduce Joe Reilly , an incredible human and former coaching client of mine, who has been actively working to break his anxious attachment patterns and step into his secure self . We dive into: The challenges of anxious attachment His pattern of dating avoidant partners and where that inclination comes from Healing through a recent breakup Learning to be okay with being alone How he’s been building a secure relationship with himself through this season so that he can be more intentional about his next partner, rather than make decisions from a place of scarcity or insecurity. If you’re looking for a heartfelt conversation about attachment, healing, and self-growth , this episode is for you. Contact Joe Reilly: www.joereilly.org Instagram: @joereillymusic Attachment Coaching with Jessica: 1-1 Attachment Coaching (8-weeks) My Secure Self E-Course…

1 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship to Money With Shamina Taylor 50:36
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If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know I love exploring how attachment styles impact all areas of life—not just relationships with people. Through my own healing work, I’ve noticed that as I became more secure and confident within myself, that same transformation began to reflect in my relationship with everything—including money! That’s why I invited Shamina Taylor, a former attorney turned Wealth Consciousness Mentor and author of the Amazon #1 Best Seller Unlocking The Quantum Woman , to share her expertise on: How attachment styles influence our relationship with money The importance of wealth consciousness Understanding masculine and feminine energy in making money How a scarcity mindset—whether with people or money—keeps us stuck in insecure attachment patterns Practical tips to shift your attachment to money and open yourself to more abundance Find Shamina: Daily CEO Money Making Moves www.shaminataylor.com Instagram: @shaminataylor Podcast: Unapologetically Rich Attachment Coaching with Jessica: 1-1 Attachment Coaching (8-weeks) My Secure Self E-Course…

1 Commitment vs. Compatibility: Are You in the Right Relationship? 14:29
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In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship. Learn about attachment coaching with me here.…

1 Saying "No" to Emotional Unavailability and "Yes" to Secure Love With Sabrina Zohar 48:18
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Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice. In this episode, we discuss: Sabrina’s journey from anxious to secure attachment. The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn’t just disappear. The power of nervous system regulation for those with anxious attachment. How to spot emotional unavailability in dating. Low-effort vs. high-effort behaviors in dating & relationships. Key qualities to look for in a secure partnership. Tune in for insightful and actionable advice on building healthier relationships! Contact Sabrina Zohar: www.sabrinazohar.com Instagram: @thesabrinazoharshow Podcast: The Sabrina Zohar Show TikTok: Sabrina.zohar Youtube: Sabrina Zohar Work With Jessica: 1:1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE My Secure Self E-Course (Self-Study) Instagram: @thejessicadasilva…

1 Embracing The Messy, Non-Linear Path of Grief With Melina Charis 45:56
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Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself. We cover: Grieving breakups, death, identity shifts, and more. How unprocessed grief manifests in daily life. The ways grief can resurface years later. Understanding that grief is an ongoing process. What it truly means to process grief. Different healing approaches and ways to move through grief. *Find Melina’s offerings at melinacharis.com and read her writing at [/14b27051b990809ab0a4e21d62ab80a3?pvs=25]melinacharis.substack.com. *Learn about attachment Coaching with Jessica HERE.…

1 1-Year Breakup Update: A Personal Reflection 23:43
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If you've been following my breakup journey, I wanted to share an update on my healing process now that it's been 1 year. My hope is that this gives you insight into the grief cycle, the messiness of healing, and reassurance that things do get better. Work With Me : Attachment Coaching - CLICK HERE Previous recorded break-up updates: - Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens) - Recovering From Heartbreak - (Through a Secure Lens) Almost 6 Month Update - To Stay or Breakup - Leaving My Relationship of 6 Years…

1 Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories) 47:58
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In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw arises, identifying what makes a partner feel safe for avoidants, and understanding when it’s worth staying with an avoidant partner or when it’s time to walk away. Whether you have an avoidant attachment style or are in a relationship with someone who does, this conversation offers valuable insights and practical takeaways. Learn about attachment coaching with Jessica here.…
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