Navigating Overwhelm: Emotions, Sensory Overload, and Relationships with ADHD

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In this episode of Authentically ADHD, we take a deep dive into the multifaceted experience of overwhelm for individuals with ADHD. Overwhelm can show up in many forms—emotionally, through sensory overload, and even within relationships.

First, we explore emotional overload where ADHD can intensify emotions like frustration, anxiety, and mood swings, making it difficult to manage strong reactions. We discuss practical tools to regulate emotions, such as cognitive reframing and mindfulness techniques.

Next, we move into sensory overload, which is often triggered by too much stimuli in environments like noisy offices or crowded spaces. You’ll learn sensory regulation strategies to create calming environments and reduce overwhelm, whether through small adjustments at home or using sensory tools like noise-cancelling headphones.

Finally, we tackle how ADHD-related overwhelm can affect relationships From communication breakdowns to setting boundaries, we provide actionable tips for explaining your needs to loved ones and navigating overwhelm in social interactions.

This episode is packed with practical advice to help you understand and manage overwhelm in your life—whether it’s emotional, sensory, or relational. Tune in to gain insight, learn strategies, and take steps towards living a more balanced life with ADHD.

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BONUS EPISODE Shame and Guilt in AuDHD: Understanding and Managing Emotions 35:55

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Shame and guilt are heavy emotions that many neurodivergent people know all too well. In AuDHD (adults with co-occurring autism and ADHD), these feelings often run deep. Unlike simple embarrassment, shame goes to the core of “who I am,” while guilt is about “what I did”. For example, an AuDHD person might feel guilty for forgetting a friend’s birthday, but feel shame about being the kind of person who forgets. As one ADHD expert explains, “Shame is about who we are. Guilt is about what we do”. In practice, someone might find themselves ruminating, “I did that wrong,” (guilt) or “I’m fundamentally flawed” (shame) Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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ADHD and Emotional Intelligence: Why Feelings Can Feel Like Fireworks in a Windstorm 26:56

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Welcome back to Authentically ADHD , where we turn emotional chaos into curious exploration. In this episode, Carmen dives deep into one of ADHD’s most misunderstood challenges: emotional intelligence. Spoiler alert — it’s not about being too sensitive, too reactive, or too much. It’s about how the ADHD brain processes emotional information on a totally different timeline. ✨ What we explore in this episode: * What emotional intelligence really is, and why it’s essential for adulting, relationships, and self-understanding * The neuroscience behind why ADHD brains struggle with emotional regulation, from delayed prefrontal cortex development to dopamine rollercoasters and amygdala overdrive * What emotional dysregulation feels like in real life (hello, spiral over a microwave not closing properly 🙃) * Hopeful, science-backed strategies for strengthening emotional intelligence using mindfulness, emotion labeling, coaching, and reframing sensitivity as data , not drama * Why your emotional intensity isn’t a flaw — it’s a powerful signal that something matters Carmen breaks it all down with compassion, humor, and the science to back it up. If your emotions have ever felt like a Fourth of July fireworks finale in a hurricane, this episode will leave you feeling seen , validated, and a little more equipped to ride the waves. 💡 Bottom line? Emotional intelligence is a skill , not a fixed trait—and ADHDers are more than capable of building it, one small moment of self-awareness at a time. 🔁 Tune in and learn how to turn emotional overwhelm into emotional wisdom — ADHD style. Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGk_fmZEMQ/E51DE-a7wonH6cG2tRpWew/view?utm_content=DAGk_fmZEMQ&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h583280c8ec Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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Dopamine Dilemma: Understanding the ADHD Reward System 32:56

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In this episode we talk about, this vicious cycle of avoidance, guilt, and stress is not your fault — it’s rooted in the neurobiology of ADHD. But understanding this gives us the power to break the cycle. We don’t have to rely on guilt or punishment to motivate ourselves. Instead, we can focus on what works for our unique brain wiring: creating environments that are stimulating, breaking tasks into small chunks, and using rewards to trigger dopamine. Let’s stop the self-blame and start embracing strategies that actually work for us. Stay tuned for more tips on how to hack your brain’s reward system! Follow me: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGkhRDDp_g/n_wEu8tOjZtTxJfnO_i6Zw/view?utm_content=DAGkhRDDp_g&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h285a2c67ef Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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Understanding ADHD and Executive Functions: The Neuroscience Explaining a Very Common Disorder 24:59

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In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen explores the neuroscience behind ADHD and executive functions—those critical mental processes essential for managing daily life tasks. Executive functions are described humorously as the "backstage crew" of the brain, responsible for working memory, planning, emotional regulation, inhibition, time management, and flexibility, largely governed by the prefrontal cortex. Carmen explains that in ADHD brains, this control center operates differently—not broken, just wired uniquely. Scientific research highlights reduced activity and delayed maturation in the ADHD brain’s prefrontal cortex, impacting motivation, memory, and time perception. She emphasizes this difference isn't laziness but a genuine neurological divergence. Common struggles for ADHDers include task initiation, emotional dysregulation, impulsivity, organization, and follow-through. Each challenge is backed by neuroscience, explaining phenomena like "neurological inertia" preventing task initiation and hyper-reactive emotional responses due to amygdala sensitivity. The episode provides seven ADHD-friendly coping strategies: * Break tasks into smaller pieces for manageable wins. * Use visual timers to combat time blindness. * Externalize your brain with organizational tools. * Create dopamine routines by pairing boring tasks with rewards. * Incorporate physical activity to boost dopamine and executive function. * Try body doubling to enhance accountability and focus. * Practice self-compassion to counteract shame and enhance motivation. Carmen concludes with a supportive message: ADHD isn’t a defect, but a different brain wiring deserving of understanding, compassion, and tailored strategies. Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGkcF-oJ0c/QlnFe1TUeai81KEgL_O7Lw/view?utm_content=DAGkcF-oJ0c&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h5d32038d67 Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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Why Am I Always at Odds With Myself? ADHD and the Tug-of-War Within 1:29:00

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In this deep-dive episode, Carmen explores the constant inner conflict many adults with ADHD experience—what psychology calls cognitive dissonance . It's that mental tug-of-war between what we intend to do and what we actually do, often amplified in ADHD brains due to emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, masking, and rejection sensitivity. Usin… Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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ADHD and Executive Functions: Neuroscience, Struggles, and Coping Skills Pt. 1 50:56

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In this 2 part journey, Carmen kicks things off by defining “executive functions” — those behind-the-scenes brain processes that help us plan, prioritize, switch tasks, regulate emotions, and hold information in mind. From there, she unpacks the neuroscience: how dopamine signaling in the prefrontal cortex gets knocked off balance in ADHD, why neural connectivity matters, and what current research tells us about “wiring” versus “firing” in our brains. Segment Breakdown: * EF 101 – A friendly, jargon-free intro to the key pillars (working memory, cognitive flexibility, inhibitory control) and why they feel like glitchy software on an ADHD brain. * Neuro-Deep Dive – Carmen shares the latest on dopamine pathways, brain network communication, and what fMRI and EEG studies reveal about ADHD brains in action. * Real-World Struggles – Listeners recognize themselves in stories about missed deadlines, email overwhelm, time blindness, and emotional hijacks. * Practical Coping Skills – Learn five science-backed strategies: habit stacking, external scaffolding (timers, checklists, accountability partners), mindfulness micro-breaks, chunking big tasks, and nutritional/hormonal hacks to support dopamine balance. * Growth Mindset Wrap-Up – A call to celebrate incremental wins, reframe “failures” as data points, and set up a next-step action plan. Carmen closes with encouragement to view executive-function work like training for a marathon—slow and steady builds lasting strength. Key Takeaways: * Executive functions are trainable skills, not immutable traits. * Small environmental tweaks (alarms, visual cues, “if-then” plans) can bridge the gap between intention and action. * Connecting science to strategy empowers us to rewire habits and reclaim confidence. Tune in, take notes, and get ready to turn your ADHD “weaknesses” into a toolkit of neuro-friendly strengths. Let’s reprogram our brains together! Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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When the Brain Shuts Down: Understanding ADHD Energy Collapses 7:30

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Ever felt like someone pulled your battery out mid-sentence? One minute you’re go-go-go , and the next—you’re a human puddle on the couch, brain offline, soul buffering. That, my friend, is an ADHD energy shutdown — a deeply misunderstood, very real experience where our nervous system essentially throws up the "Closed for Business" sign. 🎧 Segment 1: What Is an Energy Shutdown in ADHD? Welcome back to Authentically ADHD! I’m your host, Carmen, and today we’re digging into something that hits so close to home, it might as well be wearing your favorite hoodie and lying face down on your couch—yep, we’re talking about ADHD energy shutdowns. So what exactly is an energy shutdown? Well, it’s not just being “tired” like neurotypical tired. This is the full-system neuro-funk, where your brain and body essentially go: “We’re done here.” It’s like someone pulled your internal plug while you were mid-task. You might feel: * Mental fog (what’s your name again?) * Emotional numbness or sensory overwhelm * Physical heaviness, like trying to walk through molasses * Inertia so strong that even brushing your teeth feels like a boss battle This can look like: * Doom-scrolling with no end * Zoning out during conversations * Staring at the ceiling, unable to move * Full-blown dissociation or sensory withdrawal This isn’t laziness. It’s a neurological shutdown. And guess what? There’s solid science explaining why this happens. 🧠 Segment 2: The Neuroscience of Shutdowns Let’s pop the hood and check what’s happening in the ADHD brain during a shutdown, shall we? 🔬 1. Executive Overload The prefrontal cortex—the part responsible for planning, focus, regulation—works harder and less efficiently in ADHD brains. When overloaded, it can’t process tasks properly and eventually hits a point of collapse. Think of it as a CPU that overheats without a cooling fan. 🧪 2. Dopamine Deficiency Dopamine is like the brain’s fuel for motivation and sustained effort. ADHDers have lower dopamine activity in key regions like the striatum and prefrontal cortex. Without dopamine, your “go system” has no gas—and the engine stalls. 🌡️ 3. Autonomic Nervous System Flip We often live in “fight, flight, or fawn” mode thanks to chronic hyperarousal. Over time, this leads to nervous system fatigue and a drop into the parasympathetic “freeze” state—shutdown. 📉 4. Interoception Confusion Research shows many ADHDers struggle with interoception—that’s your ability to sense what’s happening inside your body. This means we don’t notice we’re exhausted or stressed until our body has already short-circuited. 🧠 5. Emotional Labor & Masking If you’re constantly masking symptoms, pretending you’re fine, or navigating neurotypical spaces, that drains cognitive and emotional resources. Boom—shutdown. 🚨 Segment 3: What Triggers an ADHD Shutdown? Alright, so what’s pulling the plug on our energy? 🧠 1. Decision Fatigue ADHD means more micro-decisions daily—what to eat, where to start, how to prioritize. Every tiny choice eats executive fuel. 🌪️ 2. Task Switching + Mental Clutter Jumping between tabs, emails, and conversations creates context switching overload. That’s exhausting for the neurotypical brain—now imagine ours. 📣 3. Sensory Overwhelm Noises, lights, textures, smells. ADHD often overlaps with sensory processing differences, and overstimulation can fast-track a full shutdown. 🙃 4. Rejection & Emotional Spirals One misunderstood text or a tone from your boss? BOOM. Emotional dysregulation + rejection sensitivity = “Why even try?” 🎭 5. Hyperfocus Hangovers Yes, we can hyperfocus. But it’s often unregulated, and once the dopamine high crashes—so do we. 🧰 Segment 4: Five Research-Backed Coping Strategies Let’s get practical—because while energy shutdowns are real, they’re not unbeatable. Here are five science - backed ways to cope, before, during, and after: 🔄 1. Practice “Pre-Loading” with Transitions Before moving to a new task, give yourself intentional pause: 5 minutes to close tabs, breathe, or stretch. It allows your brain to reset instead of crashing between tasks. 🧠 Backed by research on cognitive offloading and task switching fatigue (Monsell, 2003). 🍽️ 2. Fuel Your Body & Brain Eat protein + complex carbs every 3–4 hours. Low blood sugar mimics burnout and triggers shutdowns. 💡 ADHD brains burn more glucose (Haacke et al., 2015) especially when trying to regulate executive function. 🪫 3. Build “Low-Demand Recovery Time” Into Your Day Schedule blank time—not productivity time—just nothing. Think quiet walks, music, or a nap. This supports parasympathetic nervous system regulation and prevents sensory overload. 🌿 Polyvagal Theory (Porges, 2011) shows us how necessary “safety signals” are for nervous system recovery. 🧩 4. Name & Track Your Shutdown Patterns Use a journal or app to track when shutdowns happen. What were the sensory, social, and emotional conditions that day? Patterns = power . 📊 This taps into metacognitive awareness—essential for adaptive planning in ADHD. 🤝 5. Connect Instead of Criticize Shame fuels more shutdowns. So instead of going “Ugh, why can’t I just DO things?” try: “Something in me needed a break. What support am I missing?” 🧠 Self-compassion is linked to lower emotional dysregulation and burnout (Neff et al., 2007). 💬 Segment 5: Closing Thoughts – You’re Not Broken. You’re Burnt Out. Energy shutdowns don’t mean you’re lazy, broken, or incapable. They mean your brain has limits—and it’s screaming for rest, regulation, and recovery. Think of it like a circuit breaker. When too much demand is placed on the system, it doesn’t mean the house is broken—it means the system needs a reset. Your job isn’t to push harder. It’s to learn where the overloads happen—and create environments that support your nervous system. So here’s your permission slip: Rest is productive. Listening to your brain’s needs is a strength, not a weakness. You’re doing better than you think. And now? You have tools to ride the shutdown wave—not drown in it. Until next time, stay authentic and we will talk soon. In Summary What Is an Energy Shutdown in ADHD? An energy shutdown is not just being tired. It’s a full-system override that can happen when you’ve pushed through too many executive function demands, social stimuli, or sensory inputs. It often feels like: * Mental fog (you know there's a to-do list, but can't remember your own name) * Emotional numbness or overwhelm * Physical fatigue (as if your limbs are filled with wet sand) * Sudden inertia (even standing up feels monumental) It can look like zoning out, doom-scrolling, lying in bed unable to move, or straight-up dissociating—whatever your nervous system’s version of the “eject button” looks like. Why Does This Happen? Let’s go brain-deep for a second: * Executive Dysfunction Burnout Our brains are constantly battling to organize, plan, regulate emotions, remember, and switch tasks. That’s a lot of behind-the-scenes work. When we power through without enough rest or structure, the mental CPU overheats and shuts down. * Dopamine Drought ADHD brains have lower dopamine availability. Dopamine helps with motivation, focus, and reward. When you’re running on empty, your brain just… stops asking. * Autonomic Nervous System Overload ADHD brains often swing between hyperarousal (go-mode, urgency, RSD panic) and collapse (shutdown, freeze). Think of it like a faulty thermostat flipping between “furnace” and “fridge” with no in-between. * Masking Fatigue Especially common in AuDHD (ADHD + Autism), where you spend hours pretending to be “on,” reading social cues, hiding stims, or being the office sunshine—until you’re done . What Triggers It? * Decision fatigue * Multitasking beyond your limit * Social overload * Rejection or shame spiral * Sensory overwhelm * Skipping meals, rest, or hydration (hello, basic needs!) How to Cope or Recover 1. Pre-shutdown strategies: * Build in micro-breaks every hour * Chunk tasks into manageable steps * Use body cues (tight chest? zoning out?) as early warning signs 2. During a shutdown: * Don’t fight it. Gentle, low-stim environments help. * Sensory comfort items (weighted blankets, dim lighting) can regulate you faster. * Hydrate, breathe, and snack —seriously. Sometimes it’s just a blood sugar hostage situation. 3. Afterward: * Reflect without shame. You didn’t “fail.” You hit a neurological pause. * Adjust expectations. You may need a lower-demand day next time. * Tell trusted people what your shutdowns look like. Connection helps reduce the spiral of shame. Final Thought An energy shutdown isn’t you being lazy, dramatic, or antisocial—it’s your brain slamming the brakes to protect itself. And once we start treating shutdowns as neurological red flags instead of moral failures, we unlock the door to real compassion and smarter support systems. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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The Journey of Understanding Your ADHD: Embracing the New Reality 37:48

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Hi my friend and welcome or Welcome back to Authentically ADHD! I’m your host, Carmen, and today we’re diving deep into the journey of understanding ADHD, specifically from the perspective of those who’ve received a late diagnosis. The world of ADHD is vast, and when you’re diagnosed later in life, it can be like flipping a light switch in your brain – suddenly, everything makes sense, but there’s also a bittersweet grief over the years that could have been different. We’ll explore this journey, the grieving process for what could have been, and practical strategies to help you navigate your new reality. Let’s dive in." Follow me: Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGjw6AMWFs/-49-Wn3L06Dt02eETOeSGg/view?utm_content=DAGjw6AMWFs&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h4518f71ff2 Thanks for reading! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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ADHD, Self-Trust, and Breaking Free from External Validation 25:48

26 days ago25:48

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In this episode of Authentically ADHD , host Carmen explores the complex relationship between ADHD, self-confidence, and the constant need for external validation. For many adults with ADHD, self-worth has often been shaped by a lifetime of criticism, and this episode dives deep into how that reliance on others' approval can undermine self-trust. Carmen outlines why ADHDers tend to seek external validation and offers practical strategies for reclaiming control over self-evaluation. In the first segment, Carmen explains the concept of an external locus of evaluation and how ADHD can lead to an overwhelming reliance on others for reassurance. She shares relatable examples of how this pattern develops from childhood and its impact on adulthood. The episode then introduces the psychological mechanism of the complementary moral defense, which emerges as a response to repeated criticism and can lead to overworking, people-pleasing, and chronic self-criticism. Moving into the third segment, Carmen discusses why it's especially important for ADHDers to cultivate an internal locus of evaluation. Relying on internal validation not only promotes self-trust but also breaks the cycle of people-pleasing and constant doubt. The episode closes with seven actionable strategies to help ADHDers develop self-trust, including identifying core values, tracking small wins, practicing self-validation, and building self-compassion. Carmen encourages listeners to start small and shift from seeking external praise to trusting their own judgment. She leaves listeners with a hopeful reminder that their ADHD brains are wired for creativity and resilience, and self-trust is key to unlocking their potential. If today’s episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might benefit and consider leaving a rating & review to help Authentically ADHD grow. Show notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGjTbREIYI/sFGNEj879Ye4x_zWl-W76Q/view?utm_content=DAGjTbREIYI&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h8496660196 Join FOCUSED: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Follow me on all platforms: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Thanks for reading! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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7 Types of Rest You Didn’t Know Your ADHD Brain Desperately Needs 34:44

5 weeks ago34:44

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In this enlightening episode of Authentically ADHD , host Sunny Sparks takes us on a whimsical journey into the science and art of rest—especially tailored for those of us with ADHD. The episode kicks off with a warm welcome and a reminder that true self-care isn’t one-size-fits-all. Sunny introduces the “ADHD & Rest Tango,” explaining how the unique wiring of ADHD brains—characterized by altered dopamine dynamics, delayed sleep phase syndrome, and sensory overload—can make winding down a nightly challenge. The conversation then dives into the research behind why sleep can be so elusive, from our racing thoughts and creative bursts at midnight to environmental factors like blue light from screens. This sets the stage for exploring the “Seven Kingdoms of Rest”: physical, mental, emotional, sensory, creative, social, and spiritual. Each kingdom is described as a vital aspect of our well-being that needs its own form of rest to help balance our lives. Sunny offers a creative self-diagnostic tip by encouraging listeners to imagine their energy levels as a vibrant, multi-colored pie chart. By mapping daily activities to these seven types of rest, we learn how to identify which areas may be undernourished—transforming our self-care routine into an artful process of balance. To wrap up, the episode presents a practical 7-tip self-care segment, sharing real-life examples for each type of rest—from setting up a power nap schedule for physical rest to dedicating time for mindful sunrise moments for spiritual rest. Sunny concludes with an uplifting call-to-action to experiment with these strategies, reminding listeners that rest is not a luxury but a necessity for thriving with ADHD. Stay authentic, take time for each piece of your rest puzzle, and keep shining—even if it means burning the midnight oil sometimes! If today’s episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might benefit and consider leaving a rating & review to help Authentically ADHD grow. Show notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGjTbREIYI/sFGNEj879Ye4x_zWl-W76Q/view?utm_content=DAGjTbREIYI&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h8496660196 Join FOCUSED: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Follow me on all platforms: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Thanks for reading! This post is public so feel free to share it. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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Understanding Anhedonia in ADHD 18:27

5 weeks ago18:27

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Understanding Anhedonia in ADHD Because of the HIGH activity on my post about this, i am releasing this episode EARLY, SURPRISE DOPAMINE; your are welcome :) Introduction Welcome back to Authentically ADHD, where we dive deep into topics that matter to those of us navigating life with ADHD. Today, we're exploring something that many of us can relate to, but we may be unaware of it, or are unable to explain it because its not talked about a ton, I heard about it in my new hyperfocus podcast/book by the ADHD adults UK/Unpacking ADHD by James Brown and Alex Connor & mrs AuDHD: and here it is’ anhedonia. We will talk about what it is, why we struggle and how it's more than just feeling down—it's a significant challenge that affects how we experience pleasure and joy in our daily lives. Segment 2: So, what exactly is anhedonia? According to neuroscience, it involves dysfunctions in the brain's reward system, particularly affecting the mesolimbic dopamine pathway. This pathway is crucial for experiencing pleasure and motivation. In ADHD, these dysfunctions can lead to a diminished ability to derive pleasure or reward from activities that were once enjoyable. This phenomenon can vary from mild to severe, impacting hobbies, social interactions, and even personal achievements. It's like life loses its vibrant hues, leaving everything in shades of gray. Types of Anhedonia: There are two primary types of anhedonia: Social Anhedonia: Difficulty finding pleasure in social interactions, leading to feelings of disconnection and isolation. Physical Anhedonia: Reduced pleasure from physical sensations, such as taste, touch, or sexual experiences Understanding the ADHD Brain Reward System Neuroscience reveals that ADHD is closely linked to dysfunctions in the brain's reward system. Specifically, there's altered activity in the mesolimbic dopamine pathway, which plays a pivotal role in motivation, pleasure, and reinforcement learning. Dopamine, often referred to as the "feel-good" neurotransmitter, is crucial for signaling rewards and motivating behavior. This means that for those of us with ADHD, the experience of pleasure and the motivation to pursue rewarding activities can be fundamentally different. The reward circuits in our brains may not respond as effectively to everyday stimuli, making it challenging to experience and sustain pleasure from tasks and achievements that others find inherently satisfying. ADHD, Alexithymia, and Anhedonia: Exploring the Overlap Let’s quickly explore the intersections of ADHD with another mental health disorder, & the intriguing overlap between ADHD, alexithymia and anhedonia Understanding Alexithymia and Anhedonia Alexithymia refers to difficulties in identifying and expressing emotions. It's common among individuals with ADHD and can complicate emotional experiences, including the ability to recognize and respond to feelings of pleasure—known as anhedonia. Research indicates that these conditions often coexist, influencing how individuals perceive and process both positive and negative emotions. For many of us with ADHD, the combination of alexithymia and anhedonia can create a unique emotional landscape. It may be challenging to articulate our feelings or derive satisfaction from activities that once brought joy. This intersection underscores the complexity of ADHD beyond its core symptoms, impacting our emotional well-being and interpersonal relationships. Neuroscientific Insights [Narration]: Neuroscientific studies suggest that ADHD, alexithymia, and anhedonia share underlying neural mechanisms, particularly involving brain regions associated with emotion regulation and reward processing. Dysfunctions in these areas, such as the prefrontal cortex and limbic system, contribute to difficulties in emotional awareness and the experience of pleasure. [Carmen]: This neural overlap provides a deeper understanding of why individuals with ADHD may struggle with emotional expression and enjoyment. It's not just about behavior—it's rooted in how our brains process and integrate emotional and reward-related information. Impact on Daily Life In practical terms, the overlap of alexithymia and anhedonia can manifest in various ways. It may affect our ability to engage fully in social interactions, maintain meaningful relationships, and pursue personal goals with enthusiasm. Recognizing these challenges can empower individuals with ADHD to seek tailored support and strategies that address both emotional awareness and the capacity for experiencing pleasure. By acknowledging these intersections, we can better navigate the complexities of ADHD and cultivate resilience. Whether you're personally navigating these challenges or supporting someone who is, remember that understanding and empathy are key to fostering a supportive environment. The Impact of a Dysfunctional Reward System Research suggests that individuals with ADHD may exhibit reduced dopamine activity in response to rewards, leading to difficulties in maintaining focus, regulating emotions, and experiencing consistent motivation. This can contribute to symptoms like procrastination, impulsivity, and even anhedonia—the diminished ability to feel pleasure. Imagine trying to stay engaged in tasks that don't offer immediate rewards or struggling to feel motivated even when the task is important. These challenges are part of the daily reality for many of us navigating life with ADHD. It's not just about willpower—it's about how our brains process and respond to rewards. Research Insights and Future Directions Ongoing research aims to deepen our understanding of these neurological processes and explore targeted interventions that could enhance dopamine function in ADHD brains. From behavioral therapies that reinforce positive behaviors to medications that regulate dopamine levels, there's a growing focus on improving the reward system to support better outcomes for individuals with ADHD, and this would be especially useful in the ADHD brain that has strong anhedonia. AD BREAK The Experience of Anhedonia Personally, I've grappled with anhedonia in various ways. It's not just about feeling bored or sad—it's a profound emotional flatness that pervades daily life. I've struggled to find joy in activities I once loved, whether it's painting, reading, or spending time with friends. In social settings, it often feels like I'm going through the motions without truly connecting. Many of you have shared similar experiences, where anhedonia manifests as a loss of interest and pleasure in things that used to bring fulfillment. Let's delve into some real-life experiences to better understand the impact of anhedonia on our lives. Real-Life Struggles Let's delve into a real-life experience that vividly illustrates the challenges of anhedonia in ADHD. Anonymous Listener Story: "There was a time when I loved painting. It was my escape, my passion. But lately, even picking up a brush feels like a chore. It's not that I don't want to paint—I just can't find that spark anymore. It's incredibly frustrating." This listener's story resonates deeply with the effects of anhedonia. Research indicates that individuals with ADHD may experience anhedonia due to alterations in dopamine regulation, which affects how the brain processes pleasure and reward. Activities that once provided fulfillment, such as painting, can become devoid of joy, leaving individuals feeling disconnected from their passions. This emotional flatness isn't limited to hobbies. It extends into everyday interactions and accomplishments, where even achievements can feel hollow without the emotional reward they once provided. It's a poignant example of how anhedonia can cast a shadow over one's life, altering perceptions of pleasure and dampening the vibrant colors of everyday experiences. Understanding these personal narratives helps us grasp the complexity of anhedonia in ADHD. It's more than just a fleeting mood—it's a significant barrier that affects emotional well-being and overall quality of life. Coping Strategies and Insights Research suggests several strategies that can help manage anhedonia. Techniques like mindfulness meditation can potentially stimulate brain regions involved in pleasure and motivation. Additionally, behavioral therapies that focus on goal-setting and gradual exposure to enjoyable activities can help rekindle those moments of joy. Remember, it's about finding what works for you and taking small steps forward. Conclusion Today, we've explored anhedonia through the lens of ADHD, shedding light on a topic that impacts many of us deeply, but is not talked about enough. Whether you're experiencing it firsthand or supporting someone who is, know that you're not alone. Join us next time as we continue to navigate the nuances of life authentically with ADHD. Until next time, stay authentic and we will talk soon. Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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ADHD Connections: Making and Keeping Friends 35:31

6 weeks ago35:31

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In this episode of Authentically ADHD , we dive into the world of friendships and explore how ADHD shapes the way we connect with others. From childhood playdates to adult coffee catch-ups, maintaining friendships can be uniquely challenging — but also deeply rewarding — for those with ADHD. Using insights from "Let Them" by Mel Robbins and Dr. Barkley, we unpack: * How Friendships Develop: Discover how ADHD traits like creativity and spontaneity influence social connections in childhood. * Navigating Adolescence and Adulthood: Learn how impulsivity, rejection sensitivity, and emotional regulation impact friendships as we grow up. * Essential Coping Skills: Find out how mindfulness, communication strategies, and self-awareness can strengthen your social bonds. * 5 Actionable Tips: Get practical advice on maintaining friendships, setting boundaries, and embracing your authentic self. Whether you’re looking to deepen your current connections or build new ones, this episode is packed with compassionate insights and relatable stories to help you thrive socially with ADHD. Tune in and take the next step toward nurturing the friendships that matter most. 👉 Hit play now, and let’s grow together! LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGijO7ruOs/-GKsBUgqMS1iBEut0-owaQ/view?utm_content=DAGijO7ruOs&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h2a27f603f4 JOIN Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Thanks for reading! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

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ADHD and Time Perception: The Struggle with Time Blindness 4:38

6 weeks ago4:38

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Have you ever noticed that your sense of time feels strangely elastic—sometimes minutes drag on endlessly, and other times hours vanish in a blink? If you have ADHD, this experience likely resonates deeply. This phe nomenon, often called "time blindness," significantly impacts everyday life, from managing tasks and deadlines to social interactions and self-care routines. But why exactly is this such a persistent challenge for people with ADHD? Let’s delve into the neuroscience behind time perception, understand why this struggle is more pronounced for ADHDers, and explore evidence-backed strategies and tools to help navigate daily life more effectively. ⏰Understanding Time Blindness In ADHD brains, several neural networks responsible for tracking and managing time are impacted, including the prefrontal cortex, basal ganglia, and cerebellum. These areas are essential for precise time estimation, maintaining attention, and executing planned actions. Neuroimaging studies have shown reduced activity in these regions among individuals with ADHD, leading to significant impairments in accurately perceiving and managing time. Dopamine dysregulation also profoundly impacts time perception. Dopamine is critical for sustaining attention, regulating motivation, and anticipating rewards. In ADHD, irregular dopamine signaling leads the brain to rely excessively on external stimulation to perceive the passing of time, causing difficulties in maintaining an internal sense of timing. 🧠 The Neuroscience Behind ADHD and Time Blindness Time perception relies on multiple interconnected brain systems, including the prefrontal cortex, basal ganglia, cerebellum, and various neurotransmitter systems—particularly dopamine. In ADHD, these areas function differently, leading to difficulties accurately sensing and managing time. Dopamine's Crucial Role Dopamine—a neurotransmitter central to reward, motivation, attention, and executive functioning—is significantly involved in perceiving and estimating time. Research shows that lower dopamine availability in ADHD brains disrupts the internal "clock," leading to inaccuracies when estimating how long tasks will take, when to start them, or how much time has passed. Prefrontal Cortex and Executive Dysfunction The prefrontal cortex (PFC) acts as the brain’s control tower for executive functions such as planning, organizing, prioritizing, and impulse control. In ADHD, underactivity and reduced connectivity in this area contribute to difficulties projecting into the future or learning effectively from past experiences—making accurate time prediction incredibly challenging. The Basal Ganglia and Cerebellum: Timing Centers of the Brain Research indicates that altered functioning in the basal ganglia and cerebellum affects how ADHD brains interpret durations and intervals. The basal ganglia regulate internal pacing, helping estimate intervals of seconds to minutes, whereas the cerebellum fine-tunes movement and timing in relation to tasks. Dysfunction in these regions can distort the sense of elapsed time significantly. This unique combination of neurobiological factors creates a profound experience of time blindness, impacting multiple areas of daily functioning for those with ADHD. Podcast: 🚩 Common Challenges Adults with ADHD Face Due to Time Blindness Let's explore more deeply how these neurological differences manifest in daily life. 1. Chronic Underestimation of Task Duration Neuroscience explains that ADHD brains struggle to accurately recall past task durations, causing chronic underestimation. This leads individuals to believe they can finish tasks more quickly than possible, resulting in constant rushing, stress, and missed deadlines. Example: You promise yourself that preparing a presentation will take just an hour, only to find yourself scrambling after realizing it realistically requires three hours. 2. Difficulty with Task Initiation The brain’s reward system heavily influences motivation. In ADHD, tasks perceived as unrewarding fail to release sufficient dopamine, resulting in avoidance, procrastination, and eventually panic as deadlines approach. Example: You repeatedly postpone filing taxes because the task seems tedious, causing anxiety as the deadline nears. 3. Hyperfocus and Lost Time Awareness Interestingly, while routine tasks lack sufficient dopamine release, stimulating tasks cause dopamine spikes, leading to "hyperfocus." The dopamine-rich environment makes the brain lose track of time entirely, causing hours to disappear unnoticed. Example: A quick break to play your favorite video game suddenly turns into several lost hours, derailing other responsibilities. Podcast: 4. Struggles with Punctuality and Planning Reduced prefrontal cortex function impairs your ability to plan ahead realistically. Making it on time for appointments or accurately predicting when you'll be available becomes a consistent challenge. Example: Despite setting multiple alarms, you consistently arrive late for meetings or social events, feeling frustrated and embarrassed. 5. Persistent Stress and Anxiety Repeated struggles with deadlines and punctuality create chronic stress. The frequent release of cortisol (the stress hormone) negatively affects executive functions further, exacerbating the cycle of poor time management. Example: Constant anxiety about deadlines causes fatigue, burnout, and emotional dysregulation, diminishing overall quality of life. 🚀 Why Do We Need Neuroscience-Informed Coping Skills? Understanding the neuroscience behind time blindness highlights why willpower alone isn't sufficient. Because these issues stem from differences in brain wiring—not character flaws or laziness—targeted strategies that leverage neuroscience are essential. Applying neuroscience-informed coping strategies is not only empowering, it helps build skills, confidence, and self-compassion, transforming how you interact with and perceive time. Podcast: 🌟 7 Neuroscience-Backed Tips and Strategies to Improve Time Management with ADHD 1. Visualize Your Time Because internal time perception is unreliable, externalizing your internal clock is crucial. Neuroscience confirms visual representations engage the brain differently, making time concrete. Real-Life Example: Use visual timers like Time Timer or color-coded calendars that represent tasks visually, giving your brain immediate and clear cues about elapsed and remaining time. 2. Use Structured Time Blocking Structure activates the prefrontal cortex and supports executive function. Research consistently finds that explicit structure helps the ADHD brain manage dopamine levels better, sustaining focus. Real-Life Example: Break your day into structured chunks using planners or digital calendars. Clearly define start and end times for tasks, and build in buffer zones for unexpected interruptions. 3. Dopamine-Boosting Mini-Rewards Incorporate small rewards after completing difficult or mundane tasks. Research shows that frequent rewards stimulate dopamine release, helping maintain motivation and task initiation. Real-Life Example: After finishing household chores, reward yourself with 10 minutes of enjoyable activity—like listening to your favorite music or having a tasty snack. “Physical activity stimulates dopamine and norepinephrine release, significantly boosting executive functions such as attention, planning, and impulse control.” 4. Prioritize Physical Activity Physical activity stimulates dopamine and norepinephrine release, significantly boosting executive functions such as attention, planning, and impulse control. Real-Life Example: Before tackling a challenging work project, go for a short walk, do quick exercises, or stretch for five minutes. The dopamine release improves task initiation and cognitive clarity. 5. Implement Frequent "Checkpoints" Because estimating duration is difficult, regular checkpoints provide immediate feedback, helping recalibrate your time perception. Real-Life Example: Set reminders every 15-30 minutes during extended projects to briefly pause and assess your progress, adjusting your pace if needed. 6. Leverage Body Doubling Having someone nearby while completing tasks can activate mirror neurons, increasing focus and accountability through implicit social cues, effectively helping you maintain attention and time awareness. Real-Life Example: Schedule virtual or in-person co-working sessions with a friend or coworker, creating an environment of shared focus. 7. Mindfulness and Metacognition Practices Mindfulness practice strengthens neural connections in the prefrontal cortex, enhancing self-awareness, time estimation accuracy, and emotional regulation. Real-Life Example: Incorporate brief mindfulness sessions into your day (e.g., 5-minute breathing exercises) to improve overall awareness and your brain’s capacity to handle daily tasks. Podcast: 🌈 Embracing Neurodiversity and Time Blindness ADHD brains experience the world differently. By understanding and addressing the neuroscience behind time blindness, you move beyond frustration toward genuine empowerment. You can't fully "fix" your internal clock, but you can certainly recalibrate it using effective strategies and tools rooted in science and research. Remember, managing ADHD is about embracing your neurodiversity with compassion, curiosity, and a practical toolkit to make time your ally, not your adversary. You’ve absolutely got this—one science-backed strategy at a time! 🌟 Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

Authentically ADHD with Carmen

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How ADHD and Cognitive Flexibility Clash: Navigating Task Switching with a Neurodivergent Brain 31:02

6 weeks ago31:02

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Hey hey, beautiful brains! In this juicy episode of Authentically ADHD , Carmen dives deep into the wild world of cognitive flexibility — that ninja-like mental skill that helps us pivot, adapt, and switch tasks smoothly. Spoiler alert: it’s not something the ADHD brain does easily. And no, you’re not just “being dramatic” — your brain is literally wired to find this hard. Like… juggling flaming torches while switching roller skates midair kind of hard. ✨ We’re breaking down: * What cognitive flexibility actually is (and why it matters) * The neuroscience behind why task switching fries our brains (hello, prefrontal cortex and conflict-monitoring ACC!) * Real-life ADHD chaos scenarios — from boardrooms to spice racks * Why hyperfocus isn’t a superpower (it’s a dopamine trap!) * And how emotional flooding, time blindness, and working memory glitches hijack our ability to “just start the next thing already” 💡 You’ll learn: * Why even small interruptions can send your brain into a spiral * How “switching tasks” is really more like rebooting your entire operating system * ADHD-friendly strategies to soften those transitions — like buffer zones, transition rituals, and brain-friendly switch-prep tools Plus, Carmen brings the research receipts (shoutout to Barkley, Volkow, and the gang) and serves it all with humor, heart, and a whole lot of validation. If you’ve ever felt broken because your brain doesn’t pivot like everyone else’s — this episode is your permission slip to let that shame go. Because guess what? You’re not broken — you’re brilliantly wired for a different rhythm. ✨ Pause. Breathe. Shift gently. ✨ 🎧 Tune in, feel seen, and share with someone who needs to know that “just do it” isn’t a strategy — it’s a misunderstanding of how our brains actually work. Show Notes: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGk7n_MwWw/EfB1myWhGS7Mdex4SNg7ng/view?utm_content=DAGk7n_MwWw&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h72df453386 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carmen_irace Join Focused: https://ihaveadhdllc.ontralink.com/t?orid=29951&opid=1 Get full access to carmen_authenticallyadhd at carmenauthenticallyadhd.substack.com/subscribe…

Authentically ADHD with Carmen

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An Authentic Interview with Robert on Coaching, Growth, and Mental Health 53:15

6 weeks ago53:15