Best Lindsay Oakes Podcasts (2025)

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The Alchemy of Acceptance: The Power of Embracing Your Pain 40:29

16d ago40:29

40:29

Send us a text We explore the concept of emotional acceptance and how confronting rather than avoiding difficult feelings is essential to healing from trauma. Transformation happens when we learn to accept our emotions and reframe our relationship with past pain. • Understanding why "you've got to feel it to heal it" • Exploring how trauma physical…

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The Window, The Car, and The Dress: Tales from the Parenting Trenches 27:31

21d ago27:31

27:31

Send us a text Lindsay and Cleveland explore the messy reality of parenting through recent chaotic events in their household, from a crashed car and shattered picture window to prom dress drama and boundary-setting with young adult children. • A car crash in the driveway leads to insurance claims and unexpected Enterprise rental experiences • The Q…

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Why Trusting Your Gut Changes Everything 47:47

1M ago47:47

47:47

Send us a text Most people don't trust themselves, constantly seeking external validation and living unhappy lives despite trying to please everyone around them. • Self-trust means being comfortable with who you are rather than constantly seeking approval • When you don't trust yourself, you give up command of your life and surrender your agency • …

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Are You Together? 50:29

3M ago50:29

50:29

Send us a text Shores of Nevis From the white sands of Nevis, we find ourselves reflecting on a deceptively simple question: What does it mean to truly be together? For us, an interracial couple navigating the rhythms of a blended family, this question surfaces in unexpected places – in the confused looks of airline staff separating us during board…

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Island Escapes and Life Lessons: Finding Paradise in Nevis 30:44

3M ago30:44

30:44

Send us a text What starts as a terrifying moment pre-flight turns into a wake-up call I didn’t know I needed. On our way to Nevis, I fainted on the plane—no warning, just out cold. The timing felt awful... until we found out later that the plane’s computer system failed after we got off. What seemed like bad luck was actually divine intervention, …

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The Gravity of Unspoken Expectations: Why Your Partner Isn't a Mind Reader 58:49

3M ago58:49

58:49

Send us a text Cleveland and Lindsay return after a long break to tackle the frustrating phenomenon of silent scripts in relationships and why expecting your partner to read your mind sets you both up for failure. • Silent scripts are unspoken expectations we have for our partners but never communicate directly • The absurdity of expecting mind-rea…

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The Breath Reset: Breaking Free From Perfectionism 40:59

4M ago40:59

40:59

Send us a text Self-judgment holds us back from authentic growth by triggering stress responses and reinforcing negative beliefs about ourselves. Perfectionism, deeply rooted in childhood experiences and amplified by social media, creates impossible standards that disconnect us from our true selves. • Our brains evolved for survival not happiness, …

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Separate and Unequal: America's School Segregation Crisis 54:00

4M ago54:00

54:00

Send us a text Educational segregation in America has reached crisis levels, with schools more segregated today than in the 1980s, despite Brown v. Board of Education supposedly ending this practice decades ago. We explore how systemic issues including funding disparities, zoning policies, and power structures maintain educational inequality across…

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I Don't Have A Point to Prove: Why Every Argument Isn't Worth the Fight 1:03:40

4M ago1:03:40

1:03:40

Send us a text In this engaging episode, we explore the ramifications of fighting over every point and why it often leads to unnecessary stress and emotional exhaustion. Through candid discussions, we share personal anecdotes that shed light on how the need to be right in our current divisive climate impacts our relationships and overall well-being…

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Do Better Next Time 47:30

6M ago47:30

47:30

Send us a text Our recent episode focuses on empathy and the vital role it plays in countering division in today's world. We highlight Dave Chappelle's (SNL 50) poignant remarks on humanity, trauma, and compassion in the wake of societal upheaval, urging listeners to reflect on how they can elevate empathy in their own lives. • Exploring Chappelle'…

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Accountability is an Inside Job 32:48

6M ago32:48

32:48

Send us a text This episode centers on the theme that accountability is fundamentally an inside job, exploring the connection between personal responsibility and healing through acceptance. We discuss stories of transformation, lessons from experts like Gabor Maté and Mel Robbins, and personal experiences that highlight the challenges of taking own…

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Creating Calm Amid Life's Unexpected Twists 58:30

6M ago58:30

58:30

Send us a text This episode navigates the complexities of emotional fatigue and the overwhelming nature of modern life. Through personal stories and discussions on societal expectations, we explore acceptance, the dangers of information overload, and the importance of living authentically. • Discussing the challenge of accepting unexpected returns …

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Building Connection Through Chaos: Finding Community in Unexpected Places 1:01:00

8M ago1:01:00

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Send us a text What happens when you blend the chaos of a kitchen flood with the warmth of a vegan Friendsgiving? Join us as we share our latest escapades, from Cleveland's ponderings of a PhD amidst his return to the office grind to Lindsay's unwavering resolve to steer clear of academia. Our Thanksgiving tales range from serene home-cooked vegan …

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Navigating Life's Chaos: Embracing Connection in the Land of Confusion 1:04:44

8M ago1:04:44

1:04:44

Send us a text What happens when two therapists, bound by marriage, tackle life's chaos together? From home renovations that never seem to end to tales of a high-tech toilet that's more intelligent than we'd like to admit, our lives have been anything but dull. We've celebrated our daughter's 17th birthday and navigated the frustrating saga of our …

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The Work Happens Between the Sessions: Taking Ownership of Your Healing Journey 1:04:20

9M ago1:04:20

1:04:20

Send us a text What if you could take control of your healing journey and transform your life beyond therapy sessions? Join us as we uncover the often overlooked aspects of personal growth, inspired by the biblical verse Philippians 2:12. Through engaging stories—including a humorous mishap with an abandoned kitten named Arugula—we illustrate the u…

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60% In: The Struggle with Partial Commitments, Investing in Self Worth for Healthier Connections 1:03:36

10M ago1:03:36

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Send us a text Ever wondered why partial commitments can feel like a full-time strain? Join us as we crack open the emotional rollercoaster of half-hearted investments in relationships and the unique challenges faced by house husbands. Cleveland shares his candid experiences of maintaining a clean home while Lindsay spills the tea on her binge-wort…

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Embracing Self-Awareness: The Power of Looking Inward for True Fulfillment 1:03:20

10M ago1:03:20

1:03:20

Send us a text Ever wondered why some people seem genuinely content while others constantly chase external approval? We kick off this episode reflecting on a quote from a silent retreat: "Who looks inside awakens, who looks outside dreams." This sets the stage for a profound exploration of the importance of internal validation, especially as social…

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Mindful Living: Letting Go of Rehearsing and Rehashing by Embracing the Present 1:14:08

10M ago1:14:08

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Send us a text What happens when unsuspecting guests discover they’re at a vegan B&B? Find out as we recount our delightful stay at the Black Sheep Inn and Spa, complete with two-hour vegan breakfasts and the warm hospitality of Simon and Miranda. Plus, we give a shout-out to our loyal listener Kim, whose heartfelt note made our day, and share our …

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Finding Freedom in Solitude: Lessons from Buffett and Twain (Bonus Episode) 3:26

10M ago3:26

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Send us a text What if embracing your loneliness could be the key to true freedom? In this bonus episode, I steal Lindsay's microphone and take inspiration from the legendary Jimmy Buffett and the timeless wisdom of Mark Twain to explore the profound connection between solitude, authenticity, and personal liberation. Reflecting on Twain’s contempla…

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Inner Narratives: The Art of Rewriting Your Life 43:21

11M ago43:21

43:21

Send us a text We explore seeing one's life as a story that can be rewritten, encouraging listeners to reflect on who is authoring their personal narrative. The conversation navigates the differences between living passively versus proactively, emphasizing how active control can reshape one's life story into something more authentic and fulfilling.…

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Stop Lying to Yourself: A Journey to Self-Honesty and Compassion 42:27

11M ago42:27

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Send us a text What happens when you blend the magic of live music with the liberating feeling of breaking free from societal pressures? Join us as we recount our unforgettable summer adventures, starting with a thrilling trip to Nashville. Our escapades were legendary, from rocking out at a Zac Brown Band and Kenny Chesney concert to sharing laugh…

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Cultivating Authentic Happiness: Practical Pathways to a Balanced Life 1:02:57

11M ago1:02:57

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Send us a text Discover the secrets to a happier and more balanced life with Colleen Jednak, a personal trainer, life coach, and "happiness trainer." In this episode, Colleen shares her transformative journey from the corporate grind to creating her own fitness programs like Stroller Mamas and Strong Mamas. Learn how physical activity can be a gate…

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By the Time I Get to Anegada: Finding Joy in Simplicity 1:00:15

12M ago1:00:15

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Send us a text Celebrating life’s simple pleasures, we recount our heartfelt adventure in the British Virgin Islands and beyond. From a memorable 50th birthday bash in the Finger Lakes to meeting new friends on the peaceful island of Anegada, we share how these experiences have deepened our appreciation for uncomplicated, joyful living. Join us as …

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Winding Roads and The Complexities of Growing Up 48:51

12M ago48:51

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Send us a text Imagine navigating the winding, guardrail-less roads of Tortola, the landscape as thrilling as it is breathtaking. In this episode of "The Devil You Do Not Know," we share our exhilarating Caribbean adventure, from Cleveland's keen interest in U.S. politics to Lindsay's delightful exploration of local cuisine and literature. The jour…

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Escaping the Rat Race: A Perspective on True Freedom 31:00

12M ago31:00

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Send us a text What if true freedom isn't about financial success or material wealth? Join us as we reflect on our recent journey to the British Virgin Islands, where we found ourselves inspired by the contrasting lifestyles we encountered. We explore the illusion of freedom in American society and ponder what it truly means to live autonomously, f…

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Don't Worry About Tomorrow 58:08

1y ago58:08

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Send us a text Have you ever wondered how a simple island life could hold the key to managing anxiety in our hectic modern world? Join us as we share our unforgettable experience at the Elm Beach Bar and Suites in Cane Garden Bay, British Virgin Islands, where we met the delightful Elvett and uncovered his intriguing connection to Jimmy Buffett's C…

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From the Ashes: Embracing Failure for Growth 55:12

1y ago55:12

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Send us a text What if failure wasn't something to fear, but something to celebrate? Discover how embracing failure can be the key to unlocking success in both your personal and professional life. Join us as we share inspiring stories, including Lindsay’s triumphant journey to becoming a licensed psychotherapist and our adventurous escapade in the …

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Pathways to Inner Strength Finding Balance with Compassionate Inquiry 56:00

1y ago56:00

56:00

Send us a text Ever wondered how your childhood experiences influence your resilience today? We tackle the tough questions, looking at how modern pressures may have left us feeling 'abandoned' and how trauma disconnects us from our true selves. But there's hope – through stories of suffering, growth, and the healing process, we uncover the silver l…

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The Quiet Revolution: Embracing Silence in a Noisy World 45:40

1y ago45:40

45:40

Send us a text Ever feel bombarded by the relentless noise of the world, even when you're craving just a whisper of peace? Strap in and get personal with us as we unravel the underestimated power of silence amidst our daily chaos. We discuss the tangible impact of constant clamor on our mental health and why finding those serene moments isn't a lux…

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Who Did You Talk To? The Importance of Being an Approachable Parent Part Two 49:05

1y ago49:05

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Send us a text As the delicate strains of Cat's in the Cradle echo in our minds, we're reminded of the fleeting nature of time and its impact on our roles as parents. Our latest episode peels back the layers of approachability, unearthing the barriers that often keep us at arm's length from our children. We share heartfelt stories, from my father's…

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Who Did You Talk To? The Importance of Being an Approachable Parent Part One 59:06

1y ago59:06

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Send us a text Now, let's be honest: who hasn't had a good chuckle over a family mishap? We share a few of our own. You'll discover why an open-door policy does wonders and how setting healthy boundaries can be the secret sauce to nurturing well-rounded individuals. Plus, we don't skirt around the tricky bits – the dreaded empty nest syndrome and n…

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Beyond the Horizon: Unpacking the Transformative Power of Vacation 54:47

1y ago54:47

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Send us a text Ever wondered how a week of basking under the Barbadian sun could rejuvenate your soul? Cleveland and I, Lindsay, are back from our indulgent escape to the Sugar Cane Club, ready to share how sinking our toes into the sandy beaches and savoring vegan delights helped us unwind and unplug. From the secluded luxury of our resort to the …

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If You Don't Believe It Why Are You Crying? 1:03:50

1y ago1:03:50

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Send us a text Ever brushed off a cutting remark with a quick smile, only to feel the sting hours later? This episode peels back the layers of that age-old saying about sticks, stones, and words to reveal the surprising heft words carry in our emotional lives. Cleveland and I dissect why many, especially men, don the armor of indifference against v…

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Keeping Your Side of the Street Clean: The Art of Minding Your Own Business 1:07:30

1+ y ago1:07:30

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Send us a text Have you ever been caught in the tangled web of nosiness on the giving or receiving end? In our latest episode, we traverse the journey from self-examination to establishing personal boundaries and how these principles cultivate more authentic connections and life bursting with intention. Navigating the thin line between curiosity an…

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Unlocking Mental Wellness: The Power of Self-Awareness 1:04:40

1+ y ago1:04:40

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Send us a text Have you ever stared into the mirror, picking apart every flaw, and wondered how that may affect your mental well-being? This week, join Lindsay and me as we tackle the thorny issue of self-awareness, its profound impact on mental health, and how it differs from the self-criticism that often leads us into a downward spiral. We're pul…

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Navigating the Quagmire: Triumphing Over Toxic Work Cultures and Their Echoes in Life 1:07:44

1+ y ago1:07:44

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Send us a text As Cleveland and I sank our teeth into the spicy gochujang tofu at Archie's, little did we realize this culinary delight would be the perfect segue into our latest podcast episode. With the wisdom of Gabor Maté's Compassionate Inquiry ringing in our ears, our conversation unravels the hidden impact of our childhood 'holes' on profess…

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That's Amare! Crafting Harmony Between Hearts and Ambitions 1:04:07

1+ y ago1:04:07

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Send us a text When you mix the spice of entrepreneurship with the sweetness of a genuine partnership, you bake a recipe not just for a thriving business but for a love that endures the test of time and trial. Jed Blumenfeld and Rebecca Sadek, our guests and guiding stars, exemplify this blend as they open up about the tightrope walk of managing a …

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Redefining Strength: Overcoming The Nice Guy Syndrome and Embracing Authentic Assertiveness 52:00

1+ y ago52:00

52:00

Send us a text Ever catch yourself being too nice for your own good? We're dissecting the "Nice Guy Syndrome," unraveling the mystery behind those acts of kindness we use as currency for approval and acceptance. You'll come away from our conversation with fresh perspectives on how to be authentic and assertive and why setting boundaries isn't just …

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The Art of Self-Mastery Overcoming the Victimhood Mindset 44:00

1+ y ago44:00

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Send us a text Hey there, Cleveland and Lindsay, checking in! Ready to pivot from feeling like the world's punching bag to becoming the heavyweight champ of your own life? Do you ever get that nagging feeling that someone's just shirking responsibility and pawning it off as a perpetual victim? We've been there, and we're spilling the tea on how muc…

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Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Depths of Intimacy and Connection 51:40

1+ y ago51:40

51:40

Send us a text It’s not all about the physical union, although that’s a part of our discussion. From emotional to spiritual, we dissect what builds a connection that withstands the ebb and flow of life. We ponder why kissing can be the first thing to go when troubles brew in paradise. We also share tales from the therapy couch that reveal the raw v…

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Beyond the Playground: Navigating Adult Friendships 53:35

1+ y ago53:35

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Send us a text Celebrating a milestone birthday for our dear friend Dafne, we couldn't help but marvel at the intricacies woven into the tapestry of adult friendships. We raise a glass to the connections that sustain us through the rollercoaster of life. Dafne's 50th bash echoes the significance of inclusivity and sets the stage for us to unpack th…

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Heartache and Healing: Embracing Grief, Accepting Death, and Finding Joy After Loss 48:22

1+ y ago48:22

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Send us a text The table was set with jackfruit nachos, an unexpected yet delightful twist in our health-conscious journey when the conversation took a profound turn. This week's episode is a heartfelt exploration of grief prompted by the personal story of my father's passing from COVID-19. Together, we traverse the emotional landscape of loss, fro…

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Harmony in Tune: The Art of Nurturing Relationships 55:38

1+ y ago55:38

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Send us a text Have you ever felt like walking between being a supportive partner and sounding like a broken record? Cleveland and I unpack this problem, sprinkling in our two cents on the importance of affirmation, validation, and the power of backing your significant other without tipping into the nagging zone. Through laughter and earnest reflec…

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Learning to Let Go: Weathering the Emotional Storms Together 56:46

1+ y ago56:46

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Send us a text Have you ever been in a heated debate over something inconsequential as dish liquid? Cleveland and I sure have, which led us to a profound understanding of the art of letting go in relationships. Please tune in to our heart-to-heart, where we unpack the everyday irritations that build into destructive habits, the importance of pickin…

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Weaving Tapestries of Tales: Laurie Ulster on Storytelling, Star Trek, and the Fabric of Life 1:11:54

1+ y ago1:11:54

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Send us a text Ever find yourself wrapped in soft pants, settled in for a night of nostalgic TV, only to ponder life's great questions? That's where we landed with Laurie Ulster, a writer and producer who cut her teeth as a creative force producing fan content for Star Trek and now entices us with tales from Brooklyn 99 Confidential Case Files, a c…

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New Year, New You: Finding Authenticity in Resolutions 44:00

1+ y ago44:00

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Send us a text Life's a wild ride, and sometimes it takes a girls' trip to Key West or a cozy night in with video games to remind us of that. Our latest adventures serve as a backdrop to a deeper conversation about the importance of authenticity in our social lives and how genuine relationships can impact our resolve. In this episode, we're tacklin…

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Nurturing the Luminous Spark of Hope through the Reel of Life 51:39

1+ y ago51:39

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Send us a text Have you ever felt a stirring of hope while watching a beloved film or found inspiration from an unexpected encounter? This episode takes you on an intimate expedition into the essence of hope in our lives and its profound presence in entertainment. Flying solo without Lindsay, I'm joined by the insightful Kurt Davis from Black Daddi…

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Embracing the Power of Forgiveness: Finding Balance, Harmony, and Healing 35:00

1+ y ago35:00

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Send us a text As we wade through the tides of judgment and rush to conclusions, the recent public scrutiny of Jonathan Majors brings to light the pressing need for patience and forgiveness in our culture. My co-host Cleveland and I offer a candid reflection on this, intertwined with personal battles against disappointment and the pursuit of work-l…

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From Trigger to Transformation: Unpacking the Complexity of Anger 41:20

1+ y ago41:20

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Send us a text Can you pinpoint what makes you angry? Our rollercoaster ride of emotions often has us labeling ourselves as angry, but isn't it something deeper we're feeling? In our discussion today, Lindsay and I, Cleveland, delve into the heart of anger, peeling back the layers to reveal what's truly at its core. Lindsay's unique perspective on …

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Unleashing Potential: The Power of Challenging Limiting Beliefs 41:40

1+ y ago41:40

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Send us a text Have you ever felt like invisible chains are holding you back? This week, we pull back the curtain on those barriers: limiting beliefs and authenticity. We start with amusing tales from our week - the highs and lows of a black bean sweet potato chili and the elusive art of cooking the perfect rice. We tackle the tough topics: breakin…

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