50: Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: What to Do When You've Been Hurt

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#Fitness #Mental Health #Dr. Angela Downey

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about a year ago 26:05

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Have you ever felt the quiet pressure to “just get over it” after someone broke your trust?

Maybe they apologized. Maybe they didn’t. But something inside you still feels unsettled.

Trust doesn’t rebuild overnight. It takes consistency, accountability, and the slow return of emotional safety—not just a quick “I’m sorry.”

In this episode, we explore:

Why trust feels like emotional debt, not a switch you can flip
How codependent patterns make rebuilding trust even harder
The difference between true accountability vs. shame spirals
How emotional safety is rebuilt through small, steady moments
Why your healing timeline matters—and why it’s okay to take your time

Whether you’re trying to rebuild trust or deciding if a relationship can be repaired, this episode offers practical guidancefor moving forward in ways that feel right for you.

✨Connect with me on Instagram or Threads @drangeladowney—and don’t forget to share what you’re grateful for today.

Send me a message

You can buy my books now on Amazon.

🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth.

🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time.

If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes.

🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon.

🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon

📘 Reading list

📰 Newsletter

Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com
Social Media links: Here
🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

Chapters

1. Breaking Trust Is Like Emotional Debt (00:00:00)

2. Apologies Are Just The Beginning (00:03:32)

3. Owning Your Part Without Shame (00:06:52)

4. Rebuilding Emotional Safety Is Key (00:10:12)

5. Your Healing Timeline Matters (00:14:35)

6. Repairing Together, Not Separately (00:19:05)

7. Shared Gratitude For Small Things (00:23:25)

8. Episode Closing (00:27:34)

54 episodes

50: Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: What to Do When You've Been Hurt

Codependent Doctor

published about a year ago

MP3•Episode home

Have you ever felt the quiet pressure to “just get over it” after someone broke your trust?

Maybe they apologized. Maybe they didn’t. But something inside you still feels unsettled.

Trust doesn’t rebuild overnight. It takes consistency, accountability, and the slow return of emotional safety—not just a quick “I’m sorry.”

In this episode, we explore:

Why trust feels like emotional debt, not a switch you can flip
How codependent patterns make rebuilding trust even harder
The difference between true accountability vs. shame spirals
How emotional safety is rebuilt through small, steady moments
Why your healing timeline matters—and why it’s okay to take your time

Whether you’re trying to rebuild trust or deciding if a relationship can be repaired, this episode offers practical guidancefor moving forward in ways that feel right for you.

✨Connect with me on Instagram or Threads @drangeladowney—and don’t forget to share what you’re grateful for today.

Send me a message

You can buy my books now on Amazon.

🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time.

If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes.

🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon.

🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon

📘 Reading list

📰 Newsletter

Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com
Social Media links: Here
🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

Chapters

1. Breaking Trust Is Like Emotional Debt (00:00:00)

2. Apologies Are Just The Beginning (00:03:32)

3. Owning Your Part Without Shame (00:06:52)

4. Rebuilding Emotional Safety Is Key (00:10:12)

5. Your Healing Timeline Matters (00:14:35)

6. Repairing Together, Not Separately (00:19:05)

7. Shared Gratitude For Small Things (00:23:25)

8. Episode Closing (00:27:34)

54 episodes

#Fitness #Mental Health #Dr. Angela Downey

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53: Breakups & Codependency: Why It's So Hard To Walk Away 29:24

14 days ago29:24

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Breakups hurt! In this episode, Dr. Downey unpacks why heartbreak can feel like withdrawal, especially for those with codependent tendencies. When your identity is wrapped up in caring for someone else, losing the relationship often means losing your sense of self. From the brain chemistry behind those late-night texts to the quiet signs it’s time to leave a draining relationship, this episode is a deep dive into the real pain of letting go—and how to begin healing for real. You’ll learn why grief is necessary, why rushed advice doesn’t help, and how to reconnect with yourself after love ends. If you’re wondering how to move forward after a breakup, this one’s for you. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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52: The 3-Second Authenticity Pause: How to Stop People Pleasing and Start Listening to Yourself 26:49

28 days ago26:49

26:49

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor , I introduce the powerful yet simple tool that’s helped me stop people-pleasing on autopilot: the three-second authenticity pause. Through personal stories and practical tips, we explore how this tiny moment of mindfulness can help you reconnect with your body’s wisdom, set boundaries without guilt, and honor your truth—because real self-care starts with choosing yourself. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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51: When 'They Did Their Best' Wasn't Enough: Healing From Childhood Emotional Neglect and Parenting Challenges 30:28

6 weeks ago30:28

30:28

Have you ever thought, “My parents really tried their best… but I still got hurt”? This episode dives into that exact truth—the emotional complexity of being raised by loving parents who lacked the tools to meet all your needs. Dr. Angela Downey shares her story from both sides: As a child with unmet emotional needs And as a mother navigating burnout while trying to give her kids everything We explore how: Childhood coping becomes adult codependency “Being the good child” often means losing your voice The most liberating truth? Healing doesn’t require your parents’ permission. You don’t have to wait for them to become the parent you needed—you can become that safe place for yourself now. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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50: Rebuilding Trust in Relationships: What to Do When You've Been Hurt 26:05

7 weeks ago26:05

26:05

Have you ever felt the quiet pressure to “just get over it” after someone broke your trust? Maybe they apologized. Maybe they didn’t. But something inside you still feels unsettled. Trust doesn’t rebuild overnight. It takes consistency, accountability, and the slow return of emotional safety—not just a quick “I’m sorry.” In this episode, we explore: Why trust feels like emotional debt, not a switch you can flip How codependent patterns make rebuilding trust even harder The difference between true accountability vs. shame spirals How emotional safety is rebuilt through small, steady moments Why your healing timeline matters—and why it’s okay to take your time Whether you’re trying to rebuild trust or deciding if a relationship can be repaired, this episode offers practical guidance for moving forward in ways that feel right for you. ✨Connect with me on Instagram or Threads @drangeladowney —and don’t forget to share what you’re grateful for today. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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E49: How to Deal With Father's Day When You Had an Emotionally Absent Father 27:07

8 weeks ago27:07

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Do Father’s Day celebrations leave you feeling hollow instead of happy? You’re not alone. In this raw, candid conversation, we explore the grief that comes with having a father who was physically present but emotionally absent—a special kind of loss that often goes unspoken. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The lasting impact of emotional neglect on self-worth and relationships How we internalize the absence of emotional warmth as “something is wrong with me” The burden of generational silence and narrow definitions of masculinity A new vision of fatherhood: presence > perfection Permission to grieve what you never had—and to redefine Father’s Day on your own terms Practical ways to honor yourself: letters, rituals, boundaries, or simply skipping the day Your healing matters. Whether you’re ready to rewrite your relationship with Father’s Day or simply want to feel seen—this conversation will meet you where you are. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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48: Friendship or Relationship? Understanding Emotional Intimacy and Codependency 26:20

9 weeks ago26:20

26:20

Codependency doesn't just affect romantic relationships—it can appear in our friendships too, creating anxiety, over-functioning, and emotional entanglement that feels just as intense without the relationship label. Emotional intimacy is emotional intimacy, regardless of whether it's with a friend or partner, and our attachment patterns don't discriminate. • Friendships lack the clear definitions and expectations that romantic relationships have—there's no "define the relationship" talk or breakup script • Unspoken friendship rules create confusion, especially for those with codependent tendencies who overfunction to maintain connections • Friendship grief is just as valid as romantic heartbreak, though society rarely acknowledges it in the same way • Jealousy and fear can emerge when friends develop new relationships or life changes, triggering abandonment wounds • Notice which friendships feel genuinely safe versus which ones just feel familiar due to shared history Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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47: Codependency & Mental Health: How People-Pleasing, Guilt, and Burnout Are All Connected 13:12

10 weeks ago13:12

13:12

Mental health and codependency intersect in profound ways that affect how we treat ourselves, not just our relationships with others. We explore four key patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of burnout, guilt, and emotional exhaustion while providing practical steps toward healing. We will explore how: • People-pleasing isn't just politeness but a nervous system survival response developed in childhood • Self-abandonment occurs when we consistently put others first regardless of the cost to ourselves • Chronic guilt and shame keep us stuck in patterns of overgiving even when it's harming our wellbeing • Emotional over-responsibility leads to burnout when we take ownership of others' feelings and problems Whether you're deep into your healing journey or just beginning to wonder why you're so tired all the time, this episode offers both validation and practical steps forward. Because you don't need to set yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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46: Five Truths I Wish Everyone Knew About Maintaining Good Mental Health 15:21

11 weeks ago15:21

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In this bonus episode for Mental Health Awareness Month, Dr. Angela Downey shares five powerful mindset shifts that challenge how we think about healing and self-care: Healing isn’t linear — Growth often looks messy, not perfect. You can struggle and still be strong — Vulnerability is courage, not weakness. Feeling your feelings isn’t weakness — Emotions are messengers, not problems to fix. Rest is productive — You don’t need to earn your downtime. Boundaries protect your peace — Limits aren’t selfish, they’re essential. This episode is for anyone navigating burnout, people-pleasing, codependency, or just feeling overwhelmed by mental health advice that doesn’t reflect real life. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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45: Emotional Neglect: The Hidden Wound Behind Codependency 28:34

11 weeks ago28:34

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If you’ve always been “the strong one,” this episode on emotional neglect may explain why relationships still feel hard. Emotional neglect isn’t about what happened , but what didn’t. Your needs were likely invisible You learned to be low-maintenance to feel loved You felt “too much” for having emotions This early conditioning creates: Codependency People-pleasing Attraction to emotionally unavailable partners At the root is a quiet belief: “If I had just been better, they would have loved me.” Healing begins when you stop trying to be chosen—and start choosing yourself. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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44: High-Functioning But Struggling: The Hidden Signs of Mental Burnout 8:31

12 weeks ago8:31

8:31

Ever say “it’s not that bad” while feeling overwhelmed or exhausted? This Mental Health Awareness Month bonus episode explores high-functioning distress —when you seem fine on the outside but feel drained inside. Dr. Angela Downey shares personal insights on why codependents, people pleasers, and overachievers often downplay their struggles. She reminds us that functioning isn’t thriving, and you don’t need to hit rock bottom to deserve support. Mental health care should be preventative, not just reactive. Sometimes healing begins with a whisper of honesty and one small act of self-respect. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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43: From Love Bomb to Heartbreak: Understanding Toxic Relationships 29:37

12 weeks ago29:37

29:37

In this episode, I unpack love bombing —those intense early displays of affection that can feel amazing but often mask emotional manipulation. I share a personal story (yes, I introduced someone to my family after one date!) to show how easy it is to confuse intensity with connection. We explore: What love bombing looks like Why it’s so effective (especially for those with unmet emotional needs) Red flags like pressure, overwhelm, and mismatched words vs. actions Healthy love respects your pace. This episode will help you spot manipulation and protect your heart. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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42: Six Tiny Mindset Shifts That Changed My Mental Health 13:57

13 weeks ago13:57

13:57

We often think healing requires big life changes—but the most powerful mental health shifts often come from small, consistent habits. In this Mental Health Awareness Month bonus episode, I share six mindset shifts that helped me heal from codependency and burnout. Pausing before saying yes Speaking to myself with more kindness Setting quiet boundaries Embracing rest without guilt These aren’t dramatic changes—they’re small, sustainable practices that help you show up for yourself day by day. Healing starts with one small habit. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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41: When they Stop Talking: The Emotional Toll of the Silent Treatment 27:45

13 weeks ago27:45

27:45

In this episode, I explore the silent treatment—why it’s used, how it hurts, and how to recognize it as emotional withdrawal, not healthy conflict resolution. We cover: How the silent treatment triggers shame, anxiety, and confusion Why some people use it (control, immaturity, learned behavior) The lasting damage it causes in relationships I share personal stories and offer tools to: Set boundaries Recognize your worth Reflect on your own conflict patterns Silence shouldn’t be used as a weapon. Healthier communication is possible. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. If you're interested in a list of books that I recommend to help you on your journey you can request it by clicking on the link in my show notes. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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40: The Everyday Practice of Mental Wellness: Beyond Diagnosis 10:38

14 weeks ago10:38

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What does mental health care look like between therapy sessions and diagnoses? In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, I explore the daily habits that support emotional well-being—especially for those of us with codependent tendencies. We cover: Why your “lizard brain” still jumps to worst-case scenarios How asking “what do I need today?” can feel hard but healing Small practices that build resilience: saying no, resting early, and pausing to breathe Mental health isn’t about being “fixed.” It’s about showing up for yourself daily—with compassion, not crisis. Send me a message You can buy my books now on Amazon. 🦋 Enough As I Am - A healing workbook for anyone navigating people-pleasing, guilt, or self-abandonment. It’s filled with practical tools to help you build boundaries and reclaim your self-worth. 🖋️ Enough As I Grow - A 365-day journal with daily prompts to guide you through your healing journey one day at a time. 🦋 Enough As I Am Workbook on Amazon. 🖋️ Enough as I Grow 365 day Guided Journal on Amazon 📘 R eading list 📰 Newsletter Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.com Social Media links: Here 🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement…

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39: Losing Yourself in a Role: How to Find Your Identity Beyond Your Job Title or Being ‘The Mom’ 22:53

14 weeks ago22:53