Breaking Free from the Script: Writing Your Own Life Story

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Are you really “too much”... or are you just stuck in survival-mode self-sabotage?

This final episode of the Rewiring Your Brain series is your no-BS wake-up call. We’re talking real change, not just journaling your feelings, but actually rewiring your neural pathways for the love, success, and emotional freedom you’re starving for.

No more backslides.

No more patterns that feel like plot twists you didn’t ask for.

Let’s make the healed version of you the default setting.

⚡ Break the addiction to chaos.

⚡ Rewire your brain for peace, power, and partnership.

⚡ Make consistency your new love language.

👇 Catch the full episode on: 📺 YouTube: https://youtu.be/4WfLzE_kyDw

🎧 Spotify + Apple Podcasts: Search "Real & Raw Relationships Unfiltered"

🌐 Dive deeper & join the 8-week reset: www.realrawrelationships.com

47 episodes

Breaking Free from the Script: Writing Your Own Life Story

Real and Raw Relationships Unfiltered

published 14 days ago

MP3•Episode home

Are you really “too much”... or are you just stuck in survival-mode self-sabotage?

No more backslides.

No more patterns that feel like plot twists you didn’t ask for.

Let’s make the healed version of you the default setting.

⚡ Break the addiction to chaos.

⚡ Rewire your brain for peace, power, and partnership.

⚡ Make consistency your new love language.

👇 Catch the full episode on: 📺 YouTube: https://youtu.be/4WfLzE_kyDw

🎧 Spotify + Apple Podcasts: Search "Real & Raw Relationships Unfiltered"

🌐 Dive deeper & join the 8-week reset: www.realrawrelationships.com

47 episodes

#Self-Improvement #Angela Spooner #Society #Relationship #Podcasting Education

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🎙️ 26 Years In and Still Dating Like It’s Day One 44:52

8 days ago44:52

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Tom’s been married for 26 years and still shows up for his wife like they just matched on Bumble. Meanwhile, I’ve been with my fiancé Justin for one year, and let me tell you, making a relationship feel fresh takes work. And sometimes window wars at a B&B with screaming guinea hens. In this episode of Real and Raw Relationships Unfiltered, I sit down with Tom, a husband of over two decades, to talk about what it really takes to keep dating your partner long after the honeymoon phase fades. We talk about: ✔ Why “date night” is more than just a calendar notification ✔ The intentional moments that keep relationships from dying of boredom ✔ What men actually need to feel emotionally connected ✔ How Justin and I spent our anniversary learning to be present, vulnerable, and romantic even when the A/C is locked at 75 and you can’t raid the fridge past 10 PM This one is packed with laughs, real stories, and the uncomfortable truths about why so many people stop showing up in their relationships. This episode is for you if: ✔ You’re sick of the roommate energy ✔ You want connection that lasts past year one and year twenty-six ✔ You’re ready to stop expecting magic and start creating it 👀 WATCH it on YouTube 🎧 Or LISTEN on Spotify and Apple Podcasts 💥 Want a relationship reset that doesn’t suck? Check out the Real & Raw Relationship Reset at www.realrawrelationships.com Subscribe, leave a review, and tag us with your biggest takeaway. Now go create something real. No filters, just truth. #relationshipadvice #longtermrelationships #realrawrelationships #datingcoach #emotionalconnection #intentionallove #marriageadvice #relationshipgoals #relationshiptips #real…

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Breaking Free from the Script: Writing Your Own Life Story 34:15

14 days ago34:15

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Are you really “too much”... or are you just stuck in survival-mode self-sabotage? This final episode of the Rewiring Your Brain series is your no-BS wake-up call. We’re talking real change, not just journaling your feelings, but actually rewiring your neural pathways for the love, success, and emotional freedom you’re starving for. No more backslides. No more patterns that feel like plot twists you didn’t ask for. Let’s make the healed version of you the default setting. ⚡ Break the addiction to chaos. ⚡ Rewire your brain for peace, power, and partnership. ⚡ Make consistency your new love language. 👇 Catch the full episode on: 📺 YouTube: https://youtu.be/4WfLzE_kyDw 🎧 Spotify + Apple Podcasts: Search "Real & Raw Relationships Unfiltered" 🌐 Dive deeper & join the 8-week reset: www.realrawrelationships.com…

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🎧 What’s Rotting in Your Fridge? | Rewiring Your Brain Series Pt. 4 33:02

22 days ago33:02

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Is your nervous system stuck in survival mode? Are your triggers running the show? In this episode, Angela Spooner (The No-BS Relationship & Confidence Coach) dives into how trauma is stored in your nervous system like moldy leftovers and why healing feels like emotional withdrawal. We’re calling out the rotting thought patterns, emotional shutdowns, and toxic cycles that keep you stuck in fear, disconnection, and fake strength. This one’s about getting brutally honest with what’s festering under the surface, and finally cleaning out your damn emotional fridge. 💥 If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people... 💥 If you’re addicted to chaos but call it love... 💥 If vulnerability makes you feel like you're dying... This episode is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. 🔥 Topics Covered: What trauma actually does to your nervous system Why breaking patterns can feel physically painful The real reason your relationships feel disconnected How to stop mistaking safety for sabotage 🎥 WATCH FULL EPISODE ON YOUTUBE 📱 LISTEN NOW on Apple Podcasts + Spotify 🌐 Explore more at: https://realrawrelationships.com 🧠 This is Part 4 of the 5-Part Rewiring Your Brain Series Make sure to catch the full series if you're ready to finally break the cycle and stop self-sabotaging in your relationships. 👇 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE if this one hit home. #RealRawRelationships #TraumaHealing #EmotionalTriggers #NervousSystemHealing #BreakingPatterns #RelationshipCoach #AngelaSpooner #EmotionalAvailability #IntimacyAfterTrauma #VulnerabilityIsPower #PodcastSeries #YoutubePodcast…

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Wait, Self-Awareness Isn't Actually The Solution? Why You’re Still Stuck in Toxic Cycles | Rewiring Your Brain (Part 3) 29:06

5 weeks ago29:06

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Self-awareness alone won’t save you. You can analyze your toxic patterns, explain them in perfect detail, and even call yourself out in real-time… but somehow, you still end up doing the same self-sabotaging nonsense. So why the hell does this keep happening? Because knowing better doesn’t mean doing better. Your brain is literally wired to keep you stuck in what’s familiar —even when familiar is the very thing that’s ruining your relationships, confidence, and peace. In Part 3 of this 5-part Rewiring Your Brain series, we’re exposing: ✔️ Why you keep repeating toxic cycles (even though you know better) ✔️ How your brain filters out healthy relationships and craves chaos ✔️ The Mohawk Brain—the real culprit behind your self-sabotage ✔️ How to retrain your brain so you stop choosing what hurts and start choosing what heals If you’ve ever caught yourself mid-sabotage, thinking, “WHY am I doing this again?!” —this episode is for you. 🔥 Listen to Part 1 (STOP Giving Everything & Getting Nothing) 🔥 Listen to Part 2 (You’re Not Stuck, You’re Impatient) 🔔 Follow for the rest of this series + raw, no-BS relationship & confidence coaching. 🎧 Find me on YouTube for video episodes: https://youtu.be/LN64pDhFjJA #RewiringYourBrain #BreakTheCycle #SelfAwareness #ToxicPatterns #SelfSabotage #MindsetShift #MohawkBrain #EmotionalHealing #Relationships #RealRawRelationships…

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You’re Not Stuck, You’re Impatient – Rewiring Your Brain Part 2 19:35

6 weeks ago19:35

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You keep saying you’re stuck. That you’ve done the work, that you see the patterns—so why the hell do you keep falling into the same toxic cycles, making the same self-sabotaging choices, and feeling like nothing is actually changing? Here’s the truth: You’re not stuck. You’re just impatient. Your brain is running the same damn program it’s been running for years, and you’re pissed off that it’s not magically different overnight. That’s not how rewiring works. 🚨 Your brain is LITERALLY designed to fight change. 🚨 Your habits aren’t just habits—they’re neural pathways carved deep into your mind. 🚨 That’s why willpower alone won’t save you—it takes real, strategic rewiring to break free. In this episode, I’m exposing why your brain keeps you in emotional autopilot, why your nervous system freaks out when you try to change, and how to actually hack your own wiring so you can stop repeating the same BS. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN: ✅ Why change feels so damn unnatural (it’s not you, it’s science) ✅ The real reason you “slip back” into toxic patterns ✅ Why “21 days to change a habit” is a damn LIE ✅ How to train your brain to stop sabotaging the change you say you want ✅ The #1 mindset shift that makes rewiring stick 🚨 STOP thinking you’re failing. START understanding your brain. 🚨 📲 Subscribe for more no-BS relationship & mindset shifts Check out my Website at: https://www.realrawrelationships.com/ 💬 Drop a comment below: What’s the #1 habit or pattern you’ve been trying to break? Let’s talk about it. 👉 If you’re tired of playing mental tug-of-war with yourself, THIS is your wake-up call.…

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Rewiring Your Brain (Part 1) – Why You Keep Giving Everything and Getting Screwed 15:47

7 weeks ago15:47

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You keep giving your all—your time, your energy, your love—only to end up feeling drained, unseen, and straight-up screwed over. Why? Because your brain is wired to repeat the same toxic patterns, no matter how badly you want to break free. This isn’t just bad luck or the universe testing you—this is science. In Part 1 of Rewiring Your Brain: The Science of Change , we’re diving deep into why you keep attracting the same unhealthy relationships, why your mind fights against the change you crave, and how to finally break the cycle for good. If you’re sick of caring more than you get back, it’s time to rewire the way you show up in relationships—starting now. 🔥 What You’ll Learn: The brain science behind why you stay stuck in toxic patterns How your nervous system keeps you chasing emotional unavailability The truth about why “stable” love feels boring (and why that’s a lie) A simple but powerful trick to start breaking the cycle TODAY Your brain is playing you—but once you see the pattern, you can break it. 📍 Ready to go deeper? Get personalized support and learn how to fully rewire your relationship patterns. Visit www.realrawrelationships.com for coaching, courses, and free resources. 💬 Let’s Connect: 📩 Email: YourEmail@realrawrelationships.com 📲 Instagram: @realrawrelationships 🎙 More Episodes & Coaching: www.realrawrelationships.com 🚨 Don’t just listen—take action. Hit play, break the cycle, and start showing up differently in your relationships TODAY. #RewiringYourBrain #ToxicRelationships #SelfSabotage #BreakTheCycle #EmotionalHealing…

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I Failed Big… and It Made My Relationship Stronger Than Ever 35:32

8 weeks ago35:32

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I failed—HARD. Like, full meltdown in the shower, questioning-my-life type of failure. But what happened next? It changed everything. Instead of letting it break me, I used it as a chance to coach my fiancé… and what started as a "practice session" turned into one of the most emotionally connected, vulnerable moments in our relationship. In this episode, we get real about failure, emotional availability, and how truly being seen can transform your connection with your partner. If you've ever felt like failure was a dead end, this episode will prove it’s just the beginning. Let’s talk about how to fail forward—into deeper love, stronger trust, and real intimacy. 🚀 Timestamps & Topics: 0:00 - Intro: How I Failed (And Spiraled) 3:42 - The Unexpected Coaching Session with My Fiancé 7:15 - Emotional Availability & Why We Keep Walls Up 12:30 - The Truth About Being Seen in Relationships 18:45 - The Neuroscience of Connection & Trust 24:00 - How to Turn Your Failures into Relationship Strength 🔥 If you’re ready to stop running from vulnerability and actually create deep, lasting intimacy, hit play now! 🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe, like, and comment—what’s one ‘failure’ that changed your life for the better? Let’s talk about it! 💬✨…

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Breaking Free: From Toxic Patterns to True Intimacy 42:37

9 weeks ago42:37

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💥 "She was convinced her husband was out to get her. That no one listened. That she was always under attack. But what if the real problem… was her?" In this bold, no-BS episode, I sit down with Alona, a member of my Real & Raw Relationship Reset Program, who started this journey pointing the finger at everyone else—especially her husband. She truly believed she was unheard, misunderstood, and constantly fighting to be right. But the deeper we dug, the more she realized that her biggest fear wasn’t being hurt—it was letting someone in. We dive into: ✅ The wake-up call that made her see HER role in the cycle ✅ Why admitting she was wrong felt like losing control ✅ How shifting from blame to self-awareness changed everything ✅ What happens when you stop fighting and start actually listening If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, defensive, or trapped in the same relationship struggles over and over again, this episode will hit home. Because healing isn’t about proving a point—it’s about finally letting yourself be seen. 🔥 Tune in for a raw, real, and unfiltered conversation that might just shift everything for you. 📌 Available on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms. 🎧 Listen now: https://youtu.be/ZoAgWmAI_g8 🌎 Want to work with me and break your own cycles? Visit my website at https://www.realrawrelationships.com to learn more about my Real & Raw Relationship Reset Program. #RealRawRelationships #HealingJourney #RelationshipTruths #SelfSabotage #EmotionalWalls #Boundaries #MarriageStruggles #PodcastForWomen #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #NoBSCoaching #BreakTheCycle…

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Why Failure Feels Like the End—But Isn’t (Your Brain is Lying to You) 22:16

10 weeks ago22:16

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💭 Why does failure feel like the end? Why does one rejection send us spiraling into self-doubt? It’s not just in your head—your brain is wired to make failure feel way worse than it actually is. In this episode, I take you inside the neuroscience of failure—why your amygdala freaks out, your hippocampus replays every past mistake, and your logical brain completely shuts down. 🔥 What you’ll learn: ✔️ Why failure feels like a threat to survival ✔️ How your brain traps you in self-doubt loops ✔️ The #1 way to interrupt a failure spiral ✔️ Why rejection is actually proof of success Failure is part of success—but only if you know how to handle it. Let’s talk about how to rewire your mindset and stop spiraling every time you fall short. 💥 Join my 8-Week Real & Raw Relationship Reset and learn how to stop repeating toxic patterns 👉 https://www.realrawrelationships.com/ #Podcast #MindsetShift #Failure #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfSabotage #Resilience #Neuroscience…

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Love, Lust, or Trauma Bond? Science Explained | Valentine’s Day Special 💔🔬 53:35

11 weeks ago53:35

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Is your relationship built on real love or is your nervous system mistaking trauma for passion? In this Valentine’s Day Special, I’m joined by Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) Mat Jeanius, and we’re breaking down the neuroscience of love, lust, and trauma bonds. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep chasing toxic relationships, why passion can feel like an addiction, or how your brain tricks you into thinking someone is "the one" (even when the red flags are waving 🚩🚩), this episode is for you. 🔹 What You’ll Learn: ✔️ How your brain chemistry impacts attraction & relationships ✔️ The difference between love, lust, and trauma bonds ✔️ Why toxic relationships feel so damn addicting ✔️ How to break toxic cycles and build real intimacy 💡 🔥 🚀 Ready to RESET Your Relationships? 🔥 Join my 8-Week Real & Raw Relationship Reset—the program designed to help women heal from trauma, stop repeating toxic cycles, and build healthy, connected relationships with themselves and others. 💣 Let’s C4 this shit! (Confidence, Communication, Connection & Consistency) 💥 Sign Up Here: 👉 https://www.realrawrelationships.com/ 🔔 Subscribe for More Real, Raw & Unfiltered Relationship Talks: 📌 YouTube: https://youtu.be/X2599mFJBdw 📌 Spotify: https://feed.podbean.com/ctjb2wrkr7jkg/feed.xml 📌 Instagram: @realrawrelationships 📌 TikTok: @realrawrelationships #TraumaBonds #RelationshipHealing #LoveVsLust #Neuroscience #ToxicRelationships #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipCoach #ValentinesDay #Podcast…

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🔥 Compatibility vs. Chemistry – Are You Actually Aligned or Just Addicted? 🔥 34:56

12 weeks ago34:56

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Are you confusing chemistry with real compatibility? Just because the attraction is intense doesn’t mean they’re the right person for you. 🚩 Chemistry is instant, but true compatibility is built over time. In this episode, we’re breaking down: ✅ Chemistry vs. Compatibility – Why attraction alone won’t build a lasting relationship. ✅ C.H.A.O.S. – The 5 Pillars of True Compatibility (Connection, Honesty, Alignment, Ownership, Security). ✅ Are you in love or just trauma-bonded? How your past wounds may be choosing your partner for you. ✅ Red Flags You’re Ignoring – How to tell if you’re aligned or just addicted to the emotional high. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in toxic cycles, mistaking emotional highs for love, or wondering why your relationships keep failing, this episode is for you. 🎙️ Stop chasing chemistry and start creating real, stable, healthy love. 🔥 Want to go deeper and transform your relationships? Visit RealRawRelationships.com for coaching, programs, and raw, unfiltered relationship truths. 🎧 Follow the podcast for more bold, no-BS insights on love, dating, and healing. ⭐ Rate & Review if this episode hit home. #Relationships #DatingAdvice #Love #Compatibility #ChemistryVsCompatibility #SelfGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence #Healing #ToxicRelationships #SelfWorth #RedFlags #RealRawRelationships…

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People Pleasing is Ruining Your Life: Why You Can’t Say No & How to Break Free 32:00

13 weeks ago32:00

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You think you’re being “nice,” but let’s be real—you’re exhausted, resentful, and losing yourself in the process. People pleasing isn’t kindness; it’s fear in disguise. 🚨 If you’re constantly saying yes when you want to say no, feeling guilty for putting yourself first, or bending over backward to keep the peace—this episode is your wake-up call. We’re breaking down: ✅ Why you became a people pleaser ✅ The toxic cycle you keep repeating ✅ How to set boundaries without guilt ✅ How to stop betraying yourself for approval This is raw, real, and exactly what you need to finally reclaim your voice. Ready to stop playing small and start choosing YOU? Let’s C4 this sh*t! 🚀 🎧 Listen now and start your people-pleasing detox! #PeoplePleasing #Boundaries #SelfWorth #Healing #PeoplePleaserRecovery #SelfCare #EmotionalGrowth…

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Faking It: Why We Fake Orgasms and Suck at Asking for What We Want 32:19

14 weeks ago32:19

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🎙️ Why do we fake orgasms? Why is asking for what we want in the bedroom so damn scary? And what does it say about how we show up in our relationships? In this unscripted, no-holds-barred episode, my fiancé and I are getting real about intimacy, communication, and why it’s time to stop faking it—inside AND outside the bedroom. 💥 Expect raw confessions, awkward truths, and practical tips for creating real connection and satisfaction (yes, THAT kind of satisfaction). 🔥 Warning: This episode is raw, real, and guaranteed to hit home. Don’t miss it. #OpenRelationships #RelationshipTalks #RealRawRelationships #PodcastLife #ListenNow…

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Raising Resilient Kids: Stop Fighting Their Battles and Heal Yourself First 16:42

15 weeks ago16:42

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Welcome to Real and Raw Relationships , the no-BS podcast for moms and women who are ready to ditch toxic patterns and build stronger connections. Hosted by Angela, this episode is all about raising resilient kids by stopping the overprotective cycle and healing yourself first. In today’s episode, we’ll explore why your insecurities might be the root of your overprotective parenting, how to teach your kids resilience by stepping back, and why setting boundaries with yourself and your kids is a game changer. 👉 Ready to reset your relationships and step into your power? Visit YourWebsite.com and join my 8-Week Real and Raw Relationship Reset program today!…

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Your Ultimate Reset: The Real and Raw Transformation Your Relationships Need 28:59

16 weeks ago28:59