26. When Willpower Isn’t Working: Why Identity Is the Real Secret to Reaching Your Goals

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We’ve turned intuition into a buzzword—flattened it into a slogan, a gut feeling, or a vague whisper we don’t always know how to hear. But what if intuition is so much more? What if it's one of the most powerful tools we have—and we’ve just forgotten how to use it? In this episode, I’m joined by Hrund Gunnsteinsdóttir , Icelandic thought leader, filmmaker, and author of InnSæi: Icelandic Wisdom for Turbulent Times . Hrund has spent over 20 years studying and teaching the science and art of intuition through her TED Talk, Netflix documentary ( InnSæi: The Power of Intuition ), and global work on leadership, innovation, and inner knowing. Together, we explore what intuition really is (hint: not woo-woo), how to cultivate it in a culture obsessed with logic and overthinking, and why your ability to listen to yourself might be the most essential skill you can develop. In This Episode, We Cover: ✅ Why we’ve misunderstood intuition—and how to reclaim it ✅ Practical ways to strengthen your intuitive muscle ✅ What Icelandic wisdom teaches us about inner knowing ✅ How to use intuition during uncertainty and decision-making ✅ Why trusting yourself is an act of rebellion (and power) Intuition isn’t magic—it’s a deep, internal guidance system that already exists inside you. The question is: are you listening? Connect with Hrund: Website: www.hrundgunnsteinsdottir.com TedTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/hrund_gunnsteinsdottir_listen_to_your_intuition_it_can_help_you_navigate_the_future?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare Newsletter: https://hrundgunnsteinsdottir.com/blog/ LI: www.linkedin.com/in/hrundgunnsteinsdottir IG: https://www.instagram.com/hrundgunnsteinsdottir/ Book: InnSæi: Icelandic Wisdom for Turbulent Times Related Podcast Episodes: How To Breathe: Breathwork, Intuition and Flow State with Francesca Sipma | 267 VI4P - Know Who You Are (Chapter 4) Gentleness: Cultivating Compassion for Yourself and Others with Courtney Carver | 282 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

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I hate when the goal I set feels more like a burden than an opportunity. Do you know what I am talking about?

Whether it’s losing weight or building your business, you want the result—but dread doing the work to get there. You’re not alone.

In this episode, I’ll show you why the old way of using willpower and discipline doesn’t work long-term and how shifting your identity is the true key to sustainable success.

We’ll talk about:

Why your brain resist the very things you say you want
How fear (of rejection, restriction, failure) can block progress
Why motivation fades—and what to focus on instead
How to use identity work and Future Self thinking to reframe your goals
How to stop forcing your way to results and start becoming the woman who already has them

If you’ve ever said, “I want the result, but I don’t want to do the work,” this episode will show you a better way—one that’s more enjoyable, aligned, and actually works.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why most goals don’t feel motivating (and what to do instead)
How your fears around rejection or restriction may be sabotaging your success
The role of your Future Self in creating results that stick
The mindset shift that makes your goals feel lighter
How to rewire your identity to align with your vision

Episode Prompts:

What goal are you forcing yourself to achieve right now?
What would your Future Self believe about that goal?
What fear might be blocking you from taking action?

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26. When Willpower Isn’t Working: Why Identity Is the Real Secret to Reaching Your Goals

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I hate when the goal I set feels more like a burden than an opportunity. Do you know what I am talking about?

Whether it’s losing weight or building your business, you want the result—but dread doing the work to get there. You’re not alone.

In this episode, I’ll show you why the old way of using willpower and discipline doesn’t work long-term and how shifting your identity is the true key to sustainable success.

We’ll talk about:

Why your brain resist the very things you say you want
How fear (of rejection, restriction, failure) can block progress
Why motivation fades—and what to focus on instead
How to use identity work and Future Self thinking to reframe your goals
How to stop forcing your way to results and start becoming the woman who already has them

Why most goals don’t feel motivating (and what to do instead)
How your fears around rejection or restriction may be sabotaging your success
The role of your Future Self in creating results that stick
The mindset shift that makes your goals feel lighter
How to rewire your identity to align with your vision

Episode Prompts:

What goal are you forcing yourself to achieve right now?
What would your Future Self believe about that goal?
What fear might be blocking you from taking action?

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28. Rewriting Your Identity One Thought at a Time 23:04

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What if you're not stuck because you're doing something wrong, but because you're believing something outdated about who you are? In this episode, I take you on a powerful journey into the heart of identity work: the foundation of any real, lasting transformation. We’ll explore the two types of identity (essential and changeable), the hidden beliefs shaping your behavior, and how to gently shift the story you tell about yourself. Whether you’ve struggled with procrastination, body image, or not feeling “good enough,” this episode will help you understand that your identity is not a fixed fact — it’s a living story. And you have the power to rewrite it. 🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between your essential (unchangeable) and changeable identity How your roles, labels, and group affiliations shape how you see yourself The three psychological frameworks for understanding identity How to spot limiting identity beliefs—and start shifting them gently Why your new identity begins by noticing small evidence of who you already are ✍️ Episode Prompts: What identity have you been rehearsing that no longer fits you? What new version of yourself are you ready to explore and embody? What’s one small moment of alignment with your Future Self that you can celebrate today? DM me on Instagram @thaisglenncoaching and tell me—I would love to hear your new story begin. 💛 ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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27. You Are Not a Procrastinator 33:47

5 weeks ago33:47

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If you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “I’m just a procrastinator,” this episode is for you. We’re so used to thinking of procrastination as a bad thing—but what if it’s not? What if procrastination isn’t a flaw, but a clue? In this episode, I’m walking you through the identity behind procrastination and how the stories we tell ourselves keep us stuck in patterns we don’t even like. This isn’t about productivity hacks or forcing yourself to do more. It’s about shifting your self-image and reconnecting with who you already are underneath the old story. Let’s stop calling it “just how I am,” and start creating space for who you’re becoming. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between your Essential and Changeable identity Why we cling to negative self-stories (like “I’m a procrastinator”) How guilt keeps the procrastination cycle alive A 3-step process to interrupt procrastination with compassion What it really takes to become the Future You who takes action Episode Prompts: What identity are you still holding onto from the past? How would your day change if your Future Self were in charge? What if procrastination isn’t a flaw—but a clue? ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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26. When Willpower Isn’t Working: Why Identity Is the Real Secret to Reaching Your Goals 24:12

6 weeks ago24:12

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I hate when the goal I set feels more like a burden than an opportunity. Do you know what I am talking about? Whether it’s losing weight or building your business, you want the result—but dread doing the work to get there. You’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll show you why the old way of using willpower and discipline doesn’t work long-term and how shifting your identity is the true key to sustainable success. We’ll talk about: Why your brain resist the very things you say you want How fear (of rejection, restriction, failure) can block progress Why motivation fades—and what to focus on instead How to use identity work and Future Self thinking to reframe your goals How to stop forcing your way to results and start becoming the woman who already has them If you’ve ever said, “I want the result, but I don’t want to do the work,” this episode will show you a better way—one that’s more enjoyable, aligned, and actually works. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why most goals don’t feel motivating (and what to do instead) How your fears around rejection or restriction may be sabotaging your success The role of your Future Self in creating results that stick The mindset shift that makes your goals feel lighter How to rewire your identity to align with your vision Episode Prompts: What goal are you forcing yourself to achieve right now? What would your Future Self believe about that goal? What fear might be blocking you from taking action? ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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25. Coaching vs. Therapy: Respecting the Line with Dr. Natasha Cook 1:48:12

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Natasha Cook, a licensed psychologist and certified professional coach — to explore the nuanced line between therapy and coaching. We discuss what makes each unique, how they can complement each other, and what it looks like to ethically support clients on both sides of the line. Whether you're a coach, therapist, or someone who's been curious about the difference, you're going to love this honest conversation. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The key differences between therapy and life coaching Why coaching isn’t just “repackaged therapy” When coaches should refer clients to therapy (and how to recognize the signs) How to ethically navigate identity work, mindset, and emotional healing Why transformation takes time—and why that’s something to celebrate The role of self-love and future-self visioning in long-term growth What true self-care actually looks like (spoiler: not bubble baths!) Why we need more regulation in the coaching industry (and where we draw the line) Resources Mentioned: International Coaching Federation (ICF): https://coachingfederation.org Life Coach Business Building School with Debbie Shadid: https://www.debbieshadid.com Future-Self Framework™ (More info on my website: www.thaisglenncoaching.com) ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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24. How to Make Your Success Inevitable: The Future-Self Mindset Shift 22:45

9 weeks ago22:45

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Ever felt the fear of setting a big goal and wondering, what if it doesn’t work? That little voice can hold you back from success—whether it's in weight loss, business, or personal growth. In this episode, I want to show you how to shift your mindset from hoping for success to knowing it’s inevitable. 💡 We’ll explore: ✔️ Why your current identity shapes your results more than the goal itself. ✔️ How to become the person who already has the success you want. ✔️ The biggest mindset shift that helped me go from doubting my coaching career to making six figures. ✔️ How to reframe limiting beliefs and fear of failure so they don’t sabotage your progress. ✔️ The real reason weight loss and business success feel harder than they need to be—and how to change that. I also share a personal story about the moment I became a successful coach (before I even hit my income goal) and how embracing discomfort and self-belief made all the difference. 🔔 Subscribe & Review! Loving the podcast? Share it with a friend and leave a review—it helps more people find the show! ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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23. Commitment vs. Vision – The Key to Lasting Change 24:29

10 weeks ago24:29

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Do you feel like you’re constantly setting goals but struggling to stay motivated? You’re not alone. The problem isn’t your goal—it’s how you’re thinking about it. In this episode, we’ll break down why focusing on the goal itself often leads to frustration and failure and why shifting your focus to your vision is the real key to staying committed. Your goals should be stepping stones, not the finish line. When you connect with the vision of who you are becoming, motivation stops being a struggle—it becomes inevitable. Whether you’re trying to lose weight, build a business, or create change in any area of your life, this shift will change everything. 💡 Join My Close Friends List: DM "Close Friends" on Instagram @thaisglenncoaching to get exclusive behind-the-scenes insights and free coaching! What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why focusing on a goal (like a number on the scale or an income target) isn’t enough to stay motivated ✔️ The difference between goal-driven thinking vs. vision-driven thinking ✔️ How your future self should be the driver of your decisions, not your current circumstances ✔️ Why most people rely on willpower (and why it doesn’t work) ✔️ How to make success feel inevitable by shifting your mindset ✔️ How to enjoy the journey instead of waiting for a result to feel good ✔️ The power of reframing your narrative to create excitement instead of dread ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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22. How to Make Your Goals Inevitable (and Actually Enjoy the Journey) 30:34

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Are you tired of setting goals only to feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re constantly failing? In this episode, I’m sharing a completely different way to approach goal setting—one that makes success inevitable and the journey enjoyable. Whether you want to lose weight, build your coaching business, or accomplish any big goal, I’ll show you how to shift from scarcity to abundance, sprinkle curiosity into your process, and develop the mindset that makes achieving your dreams feel natural. Plus, I’m inviting you to join me behind the scenes as I take on my own goal—losing weight—using the exact framework I teach my clients. Let’s do this together! What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why most people approach goal-setting the wrong way (and how to fix it) The mindset shift that makes achieving your goal inevitable How to reframe “I have to” into “I get to” for a more exciting journey Why curiosity is the key to staying motivated and avoiding burnout How to set goals from a place of love and respect for yourself My personal goal-setting process (and how you can join me in real time!) ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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21. A Candid Conversation with Nichole Halmos: Motherhood, Work-Life Balance, and Entrepreneurship 1:37:08

12 weeks ago1:37:08

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I have the best friends—the smartest, funniest, and just coolest people. And every now and then, I have REALLY long conversations with them. But I never thought of recording one—until now. In this episode, I sat down with my former client and good friend Nichole Halmos for a completely open, unfiltered conversation about motherhood, work-life balance, entrepreneurship, and even the dangers of reading for too long in the bathroom (busted!). This is one of those deep, hilarious, and eye-opening conversations that I know you’ll love. Grab your coffee (or tea), or feel free to go for a long walk and hang out with us! What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The real struggles of balancing motherhood and business Why entrepreneurship isn’t just about strategy—it’s about mindset The unexpected moments that shape personal and professional growth The importance of giving yourself grace in every stage of life A behind-the-scenes look at the joys and challenges of coaching Episode Prompts: How do you define work-life balance in your own life? What’s one belief about success that you’re ready to challenge? If you could go back 10 years, what advice would you give yourself? About Nichole: Website: www.SelfC3ntered.com Email: Nichole@SelfC3ntered.com Instagram: @SelfC3ntered ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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20. The Art of Future Self vs. The Law of Attraction 20:22

13 weeks ago20:22

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Have you ever tried manifesting your dream life, creating vision boards, repeating affirmations, and waiting for the universe to deliver… only to feel stuck? You’re not alone. Many women come to me frustrated because they’ve been told that if they just think positively enough, their reality will magically transform. 🚨 But here’s the truth: Visualization without action is just a dream. ✨ “You don’t attract what you want—you create what you believe.” In today’s episode, I’m breaking down: ✔️ The biggest difference between the Law of Attraction and Future Self Work ✔️ Why identity change (not wishful thinking) is the key to real transformation ✔️ The science behind Future Self Work and how it rewires your brain for success ✔️ How to stop waiting and start becoming the person you want to be What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 🔹 Why the Law of Attraction can keep you stuck in passive waiting 🔹 How Future Self Work trains your brain to take aligned action 🔹 The power of the Be-Do-Have Model to create real change 🔹 3 simple steps to start embodying your Future Self today 💡 “The fastest way to change your life is to change your identity first.” If you’re tired of waiting for success, happiness, or confidence, this episode will show you how to step into the Future You—starting right now. 🎧 Tune in now and start creating your future today! Episode Prompts for Reflection: 💭 What’s one small action your Future Self would take today? 💭 What identity shift would help you step into the life you truly want? 💭 Are you waiting for change or actively becoming the person who creates it? ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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19. Unlocking Your Future Self 21:15

14 weeks ago21:15

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What if the key to transforming your life isn’t changing your circumstances—but changing who you are becoming ? In this episode, I dive deep into the science of the Future Self , why this concept is so powerful, and how you can start using it to break out of feeling stuck. I share my personal journey with Future Self work, the identity shifts that led me to success, and practical ways to apply this to your own life today. This is not just about goal-setting or positive thinking—this is a science-backed approach to personal transformation that can completely change the way you make decisions and show up in your life. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What the Future Self concept really is and why it works. The difference between Future Self work and traditional goal setting (and why the latter often fails). How shifting your identity creates lasting transformation. The role of visualization, journaling, and small daily shifts in becoming your Future Self. Practical exercises to start aligning your life with your Future Self today. Episode Prompts: What does your Future Self look like, and how does she act? What would your Future Self do today if she were already living the life you want? What small action can you take to step into that version of yourself right now? Resources Mentioned: Blog Post: Meet Your Future Self James Clear’s Atomic Habits – "Your habits shape your identity, and your identity shapes your habits." Dr. Hal Hershfield’s Research on Future Self ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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18. Why Knowing Isn’t Enough—Turning Self-Help into Lasting Change 18:22

17 weeks ago18:22

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Why Knowing Isn’t Enough: How to Turn Self-Help into Lasting Change Episode Description: Are you stuck in the cycle of consuming self-help content without seeing real transformation? In this episode, I dive into the gap between knowing and doing —and why awareness alone isn’t enough to create lasting change. I share with you how self-help might not be helping your mental health and much more. We explore: The dangers of over-consuming self-help content. How your brain's biology makes change difficult—but not impossible. Why acceptance is the bridge between awareness and transformation. The role of coaching in turning self-awareness into action. If you’re ready to break free from guilt, embrace patience, and create real, sustainable growth, this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why self-help consumption without application keeps you stuck. How to overcome the guilt-shame spiral that blocks progress. The key role of acceptance is in creating long-lasting change. Why coaching can help you bridge the gap between knowing and doing. A simple mindset shift to move from theory to action today. Episode Prompts: How much time are you spending consuming self-help content versus applying it? What’s one small step you can take today to turn knowledge into action? What area of your life would benefit from more acceptance and less self-judgment? Resources Mentioned: Masterclass Announcement: Join me on February 5th at 11:00 AM Eastern Time for my free masterclass on breaking free from the rut and transforming your mindset. Sign up here . Connect with me for coaching: www.thaisglencoaching.com . ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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17. Making the Impossible Possible 28:38

18 weeks ago28:38

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Feeling stuck or uninspired by your goals? In this episode, I’m diving into the concept of Impossible Goals—those big, ambitious dreams that stretch the limits of your imagination and transform your identity in the process. I’ll share why impossible goals are so powerful, how to make the shift from “Impossible” to “Possible” and why focusing on who you need to become is the key to success. Plus, I’ll give you practical strategies for staying on track with your goals through regular evaluation. Whether you’re looking to ignite excitement in your life or redefine what’s possible, this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why setting impossible goals is essential for growth and purpose. How to shift your focus from “how” to “what if” to create belief in your goals. The importance of focusing on who you need to become rather than just what you need to do. How weekly evaluations can keep you on track and help you pivot when necessary. Real-life examples of impossible goals and the transformations they inspire. Episode Prompts: What if your impossible goal is actually achievable? Reflect on what this goal could mean for your life and how it would feel to achieve it. Who do you need to become to make this goal a reality? Identify the habits, skills, and beliefs your future self would have. What’s one impossible goal you’d love to set for yourself? Share it with me on Instagram or email—I’d love to cheer you on! ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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16. The Power of the 1-Page Report 19:51

19 weeks ago19:51

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Welcome to the podcast! In this episode, I’m sharing a transformative concept I learned from my mentor Ben Hardy—the 1-Page Report. This simple yet powerful tool helps you organize your priorities, stay focused, and make progress toward your goals without getting overwhelmed. Whether you’re reflecting on the past, managing the present, or planning for the future, this method ensures you stay aligned with what matters most to you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How the 1-Page Report keeps your goals at the forefront of your mind. The importance of identifying hidden commitments and how they affect your progress. Why focusing on three priorities can transform your productivity and decision-making. How this method helps you adapt to life’s changes while staying aligned with your goals. The power of connecting with your future self to guide your present actions. Episode Prompts: What are your top three priorities right now? Write them down and reflect on whether your daily actions align with them. Think about your hidden commitments—are there any that might be holding you back from achieving your goals? How can you reframe the meaning of your past week to propel you forward into the next? ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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15. 2024 - A Year in Review 21:38

20 weeks ago21:38

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In this episode, I’m sharing my personal year-in-review for 2024—a year that felt like living five years in one. I’ll take you behind the scenes of my biggest accomplishments, lessons learned, and how reflection has shaped my business and personal life. I’ll also walk you through my favorite framework for doing your own year-in-review so you can step into 2025 with clarity, intention, and excitement. I also want to talk about someone who has been a huge part of my journey this year: Debbie Shadid. Debbie is my friend, business coach, and mentor, and I wouldn’t be where I am today without her. She has believed in me when I struggled to believe in myself and saw the entrepreneur in me when I couldn’t see it through the fog of my limiting beliefs. That’s why having a coach, mentor, or partner to guide you through your journey is so incredibly important. This year, I’ve accomplished more than I ever thought possible, and in this episode, I want to share all about it with you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why doing a year-in-review is so important before planning your next year. How I use my phone’s photo gallery to jog my memory and reflect month-by-month. My biggest lessons from 2024, including how self-trust changed everything for me. How Debbie Shadid’s mentorship transformed my mindset and business. How to identify what you want more of in 2025 from an abundant mindset. Key Highlights: [03:00] Why 2024 felt like living five years in one. [07:30] How Debbie Shadid’s mentorship helped me break through limiting beliefs and achieve more than I thought possible. [13:00] My favorite tip: Using your photo gallery to do a month-by-month review. [19:00] My major wins from 2024, including coaching 142 clients and creating 4 courses. [28:00] How reframing challenges (like being sick) helped me stay in alignment. [34:00] Planning for 2025: What I want more of and why intention is key. ❤️ Free Download ❤️ Website ❤️ Instagram…

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14. Designing Your Future Self: Breaking Free from the Rut 12:46

26 weeks ago12:46