Your Practices Are Your Power: Why Square One Is Just an Illusion

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#Self-Improvement #Wendy O'Beirne (The Completion Coach #Podcasting Education #Self Development #Spiritual Beings #Growth #Manifest #Business Strategy

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Square one doesn't really exist when we're aware and intentional about our actions, but it can feel very real when we're coasting through life unintentionally. Our daily practices don't create perfection but provide valuable data about our current state, allowing us to make decisions aligned with our capacity and intentions.
• The holiday travel analogy: focusing on the difficult parts makes us miss the present moment
• Square one only exists when we're unaware and unintentional
• Practices create awareness, not perfection
• Awareness of our state gives us better data for decision-making
• Intentional actions lead to intentional outcomes
• When we drop our practices, our strongest unresolved conditioning takes over
• Emotional and cognitive agility come from consistent practice
• Self-regulation happens through intention and awareness
If you think this would be helpful to somebody else, please share it. And if you want to leave a review, that's always welcome. You can reach me on Instagram at thecompletioncoach or email me at wendy@thecompletioncoach.co.uk.
If you've enjoyed this episode, please leave me a review and subscribe! And if you want to learn more from me, come and say hello on Instagram @thecompletioncoach or via email at wendy@thecompletioncoach.co.uk or find out more about working with me on my website, thecompletioncoach.co.uk.

Chapters

1. The Holiday Travel Analogy (00:00:00)

2. Square One: Myth or Reality? (00:01:27)

3. Practices for Your Best State (00:03:02)

4. Intention and Awareness in Daily Life (00:05:33)

5. Breaking Free from Default Patterns (00:09:05)

6. Questions to Consider and Closing (00:12:22)

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Your Practices Are Your Power: Why Square One Is Just an Illusion

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published 11 days ago

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Chapters

1. The Holiday Travel Analogy (00:00:00)

2. Square One: Myth or Reality? (00:01:27)

3. Practices for Your Best State (00:03:02)

4. Intention and Awareness in Daily Life (00:05:33)

5. Breaking Free from Default Patterns (00:09:05)

6. Questions to Consider and Closing (00:12:22)

89 episodes

#Self-Improvement #Wendy O'Beirne (The Completion Coach #Podcasting Education #Self Development #Spiritual Beings #Growth #Manifest #Business Strategy

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