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Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment

Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment

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You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?

In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball.

If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one is for you.

You Get It Logically... So Why Do You Still Feel Stuck & Keep Repeating Patterns?

published about a year ago

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You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?

If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one is for you.

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NON-NEGOTIABLES FOR SELF-WORTH & FEELING GOOD ENOUGH 22:01

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Send us a text We all fall into patterns – but some of them silently chip away at our self-worth. In today’s episode, Carly Ann is uncovering the sneaky habits and thought loops that keep you stuck in low self-esteem and anxiety. These are 3 common patterns that damage your self-worth if left ignored. In this episode you will receive practical, powerful tips to start rebuilding your self worth from the inside out. Plus, stay tuned for a self-worth challenge you can start this week to begin showing up as the most confident, secure version of you. Support the show Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Mid-Year Guided Manifestation: Cut Ties & Call in What You DESIRE 7:57

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Send us a text Ready for a powerful mid-year reset? This guided manifestation meditation is designed to help you get back on track, reconnect with your goals, and start attracting the life you truly desire. It will guide you to cut ties with what does not serve you and call in what you desire Whether you're manifesting love, success, confidence, or a fresh start... this is your chance to pause, reflect, and realign with your highest self. This is the perfect time to raise your vibration and set powerful intentions for the second half of the year. 💫 Manifest your dream life 💫 Mid-year motivation & mindset shift 💫 Get clear on your goals and next steps 💫 Release blocks and build confidence 💫 Step into your most magnetic, secure self Listen now if you're ready to stop holding back and start calling in what’s meant for you. It’s not too late... in fact, this is just the beginning. #GuidedManifestation #MidYearReset #ManifestationMeditation #LawOfAttraction #ManifestingConfidence #AnxiousAttachmentHealing #SelfWorth #MindsetShift #BecomeSecure #ManifestMore Support the show Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Why You Obsess Over the Good Times (Even If a Relationship Wasn’t Good for You) and What to Do Instead 15:31

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Send us a text Do you you keep going back to the good times with someone who’s no longer in your life? Whether that’s an ex, a situationship, or something that never fully got off the ground. In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , Carly Ann (therapist & coach helping you heal anxious attachment) breaks down the real psychological reasons why we play the positives and stay stuck on a loop feeling bad about it all, wishing it was different. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I stop thinking about them and remembering how good it was?” this episode is for you. I do not want you think think you’re not weak for caring. You’re human for remembering. But you don’t have to stay stuck, so let me help you. Support the show Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Holding On to the Good Times? Here is a 6 Step Radical Acceptance Practice for Letting Go 5:44

13 days ago5:44

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Send us a text A Radical Acceptance Practice If you have anxious attachment, you may find yourself stuck in the highlight reel of your relationship - that means replaying the good times over and over, wondering what went wrong, and blaming yourself when the present doesn’t match up This gentle, guided exercise is designed to help you practice radical acceptance - to hold space for the memories and accept the reality of what is, without self-rejection or shame. Through six grounding steps, you’ll learn to calm your nervous system and move forward with more Whether you're navigating a breakup, feeling distant in a current relationship, or just struggling with a sense of loss, this can help Support the show Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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BE PREPARED: This Is Where Your Inner Critic Will Attack You the Most + How to Respond 15:14

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Send us a text Your inner critic knows exactly when to strike, and if you can be ready for it - you can stop it in its tracks! In this episode, Carly Ann shares the common moments where self-criticism hits hardest, especially for those with anxious attachment, low self-worth, or a constant fear of not being good enough. Plus stay tuned because you will because you will get so much value - Carly Ann will guide you through simple steps to notice and start responding to your inner critic. If you’re tired of the same old thought loops and want to finally quiet the inner critic that holds you back in relationships, self-love, and everyday life - this one’s for you. Support the show Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Guided Confidence Boost: Motivational Pep Talk for When You’re Nervous & Overthinking 7:23

20 days ago7:23

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Send us a text A motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost. Carly Ann is here to help if you’ve got something coming up that’s making you nervous. Whether it’s a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It’s for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to convince you to stay small, quiet, or hidden. Carly Ann is speaking directly to that inner critic and guiding you back into your body - back into your power. This pep talk helps you reconnect to the present moment with calm, strength, and self-belief. If you’re done playing small and ready to feel grounded and capable, this is the boost you’ve been waiting for. Support the show Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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4 Powerful Ways to Build Self-Esteem (When You Feel Not Good Enough) 13:07

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Send us a text For Low Self-Esteem Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you’re truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you. In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own experience and the work of psychologist Melanie Fennell. You’ll learn 4 common ways therapists support their clients to create lasting self-worth. If you’re ready to stop believing the worst about yourself and start feeling more secure, capable, and worthy, definitely don’t skip this one. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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6 Minute Self-Esteem Reset Meditation | Build Confidence, Stop Overthinking, & Feel Good Enough 6:14

27 days ago6:14

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Send us a text This self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment. In just 6 minutes, you'll be guided through a calming, healing experience to: Let go of self-doubt and critical inner talk Reconnect with your inner strength and self-belief Start feeling good enough as you are Build confidence from within, not from external validation Heal patterns of low self-worth and emotional insecurity This meditation blends CBT-based tools, guided visualisation, and somatic grounding techniques to help you rewire negative beliefs and feel emotionally safe in your own skin. Whether you’re working on healing after a breakup, navigating anxious attachment, or simply tired of not feeling enough — this is your reset. Listen anytime you feel overwhelmed, unworthy, or in need of calm confidence. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Always Worrying, Catastrophising, & Expecting the worst? Let's Turn Down the Volume on Negative Thinking 16:04

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Send us a text Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short? In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don’t even realise we’re stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it’s fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is draining your energy, confidence, and joy. Plus, I’m giving you reflective questions and a motivational boost to help you shift your focus, feel more grounded, and stop letting fear run the show. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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You Get It Logically... So Why Do You Still Feel Stuck & Keep Repeating Patterns? 4:23

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Send us a text You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head? In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...T hat all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball. If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one is for you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Anxious Attachment: Why You Keep Asking the Same Questions & Seeking Reassurance (+ Why it Doesn't Work) 13:56

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Send us a text Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long? In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe. If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance through asking non-stop questions, this one is for you Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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The Anxious / Disorganised Attachment Trap: Stuck, Lost & Unsure How to Change 10:35

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Send us a text WATCH THE FREE WORKSHOP JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST Everything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost? Or maybe you know you’ve fallen into that pattern again - the overthinking, obsessing, clinging, second-guessing, unsure how to get out. This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it’s the same fog, the same fear, the same cycle. Or you cant seem to stop yourself falling into old, painful cycles. You've had enough! Carly Ann explores feeling stuck and lost with you, what keeps it going, and how to start breaking free - today! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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When You Think You're Being Abandoned & You Become Someone You Don’t Even Recognise | ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT 14:00

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Send us a text WATCH THE FREE WORKSHOP JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST Struggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overthinking, this episode is made for you. Join me as we unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface of anxious attachment, why your panic feels so overwhelming, and, most importantly, how you can start reclaiming your calm and grounded self, even if you don’t believe it’s possible! If you want to finally stop letting fear control your relationships and start coming home to yourself, hit play now. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Struggling with Self-Worth and Relationship Anxiety? These Two Behaviours Only Make it Worse! 18:03

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Send us a text WATCH THE FREE WORKSHOP JOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1ST Struggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self? Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem. If you’re ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode makes it clear how you can start today! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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(WORKSHOP): Break Your Anxious Attachment Cycle Today 56:34

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Send us a text EXAMPLE ANXIOUS CYCLE WATCH THE WORKSHOP JOIN STUCK TO SECURE DOCUMENT WITH TOOLS TO INTERRUPT THE CYCLE If you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline. In this free workshop, I’ll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, in a situationship, or in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsure. Grab a pen and paper, or simply follow along in your mind. This isn’t just something to listen to. It’s a hands-on experience to help you get clear on your patterns, understand what’s really going on underneath, and shift how you respond to your triggers. Expect reflection, real talk, and gentle prompts that go straight to the heart. You don’t have to stay stuck in anxious attachment. Let this be the moment things start to change. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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The Art of Letting Go: How to Detach, Accept, and Stop Obsessive Overthinking 30:47

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Send us a text Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you. When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or clinging to control, it only fuels more anxiety. Feeling secure and peaceful comes from learning to detach.. as you will hear in this episode... that doesn't mean caring less from caring less in fact it's something else entirely. In this episode, Carly Ann explore's: ✨ The Law of Detachment ✨ Radical Acceptance ✨ Retraining Your Attention (a practice to break free from obsessive thinking) This isn’t even just about relationships today, it’s about how you show up in every part of life. Let’s talk about how to stop gripping so hard and start trusting that what’s meant for you will find you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Anxious Attachers - Change Your Type! Stop Chasing Avoidants & Start Attracting Secure Love! 12:35

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Send us a text This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this! Join Carly Ann for practical steps, mindset shifts, and real-talk on how to start choosing secure, healthy love. No overanalyzing - just how you can change your type for good. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Key Psychology Techniques for Healing Anxious Attachment (Becoming Secure) 42:15

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Send us a text Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns? In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment drama cycle and create real, lasting change. If you’ve ever felt stuck in overthinking, emotional highs and lows, or unhealthy relationship patterns, this episode is for you. Carly Ann shares how these tools can help you regain control, build secure attachment, and experience love in a way that feels safe. DOWNLOAD the PDF FOR THIS EP (15) Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Break Free from Your Inner Critic: Two Powerful Steps to Reparent the Voice That Holds You Back & Finally Claim the Self-Love You Deserve 10:37

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Send us a text Is your inner critic running your mood? Be honest, has it been running the show for too long? Usually the inner critic is loud, especially if you have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, Carly Ann explores how this harsh inner voice keeps you stuck, settling for less than you deserve, and holding back from true happiness. She shares a simple but powerful two-step process to start shifting the way you speak to yourself this week, so you can begin reparenting yourself and building a healthier, more loving relationship with you . It really is the time to break free from self-criticism and discover your most compassionate self. You’ve always deserved this and it is important if your serious about becoming secure. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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The Anxious Attachment Drama Cycle - This is the Classic Pattern that QUICKLY Ruins Relationships & Dating 21:48

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Send us a text Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? So, you know that moment when your stomach drops because they took too long to text back? Or when you convince yourself they’re losing interest, even if nothing has actually happened? And then, before you know it, you’re overthinking, checking their socials, or panicking about being left? That’s the anxious attachment drama cycle... and it’s exhausting. In this episode, Carly Ann walks you through 7 key steps of this attachment cycleso you can see exactly where you recognise yourself and where real change can happen. Because if you want to heal anxious attachment and become securely attached , you have to recognise this pattern first. It’s not about blaming yourself (ever) it’s about finally understanding your attachment triggers , breaking free from relationship anxiety , and learning how to feel safe in love. 🎧 Listen now & take another step towards secure attachment Download the PDF for this episode HERE Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Living with Anxious Attachment: Needs, Triggers, & The Best Techniques (with Francesca Olivia) 54:30

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Send us a text In this episode, I’m joined by Frankie Olivia ( @Frankiestherapy ) , a trauma-responsive creative psychotherapist and EMDR psychotherapist, to discuss living with and healing anxious attachment . We explore: ✨ Understanding needs & unmet needs ✨ Separation anxiety and why it feels so intense ✨ The first thing to do when you notice you’re triggered ✨ Techniques to regulate your nervous system ✨ How progress and healing can feel slow ✨ Navigating guilt in the healing process Discussed in this episode: - 54321 Technique - Podcast epsiode on Polyvagal Theory is dated 20th March 2022 If you’re on a journey to becoming more secure, this episode is packed with insights and tools to support you Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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STOP Losing Yourself in Relationships Using This One Principle 26:11

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Send us a text If you always lose yourself in love, put everyone else first, and feel like your happiness depends on someone else...this one is definitely for you today. Carly Ann gives you a key principle from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that will help you stop abandoning yourself in relationships, dating, and even situationships with unavailable partners. This goes beyond just love...because when you keep sacrificing yourself to make others stay, it affects your confidence, mental health, and ability to feel secure in your own skin. It’s time to break free from the cycle of overthinking, people-pleasing, and making someone else your entire world. No matter your relationship status, this is about you. Your self-worth doesn’t come from how much someone loves you or whether they choose you, it comes from within. Carly Ann is here to help you reconnect with who you really are, so you can build relationships without losing yourself. You deserve to feel whole, confident, and free - whether you’re single, dating, or deep in love. DOWNLOAD FREE PDF (13) HERE Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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The Real Journey from Self-Criticism to Self-Love - Where are You?! 13:21

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Send us a text Have an anxious attachment? If you’re stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-doubt, and craving reassurance in love, relationships & dating... your inner critic might be running the show. That harsh voice keeping you small, making you question your worth, and pushing you into relationships where you give more than you get...it’s exhausting and you've probably had enough! In this episode, Carly Ann is bringing you a favourite idea that helped her on her own journey to becoming secure. Hopefully this will also help you recognise how your inner critic is holding you back and, more importantly, how to take a simple step towards self-compassion and secure attachment . She’ll walk you through the three stages of self-love so you can start to break free from toxic patterns and finally believe you are enough. If you’re tired of being mean to yourself and ready to change the way you see yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in now Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Break Free from the Cycle of Worry and "What Ifs" - Use These Practical Techniques Today! 24:41

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Send us a text DOWNLOAD YOUR ACCMPANYING PDF (DOC 12) Do you feel trapped in endless “what if” thoughts, especially in relationships? For anxious attachers, uncertainty can feel unbearable, fueling overthinking and constant worry. In this episode, Carly Ann will explore why uncertainty triggers anxiety and share practical tips to help you break the cycle. Learn how to sit with the unknown, challenge anxious thoughts, and regain control in relationships. If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start feeling more secure, this episode is for you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Trying to Go No Contact? Answer These 3 Questions When it's Hard & You Want to Give In 4:58

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Send us a text Going no contact? Are you feeling torn, uncertain, or even panicky about breaking no contact? As an anxious attacher, it’s easy to feel consumed by the urge to reach out, even when part of you isn’t sure it’s the right thing to do. In this episode, I’m sharing three powerful questions that will help you connect with what you’re really feeling and give you the clarity and guidance you need in this challenging moment. Whether you’re stuck in overthinking or overwhelmed by emotions, this episode is here to support you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Obsessing & Overthinking? This Mindset Shift Helps People Take Back Control of Their Own Thoughts 28:04

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Send us a text DOWNLOAD YOUR ACCMPANYING PDF (DOC 11) Anxious attachment can keep you stuck in obssessing, overthinking and self-doubt. In this episode Carly Ann shares how to shift your perspective on your thoughts so you can approach relationships with confidence, calm, and reduced reactivity. Discover how to zoom out and step back from overwhelming thoughts to create space to respond - helping you build stronger, more secure connections. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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How Journaling and Tapping Help You Process Emotions, Navigate Triggers, & Heal 18:59

25 weeks ago18:59

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Send us a text In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , I’m sharing a sneak peek from the Attachment Recovery Gym with guest expert Holly, also known as Breakups and Love . Holly, an accredited EFT International practitioner combining EFT tapping & journaling to help with stress and life's challenges. You’ll hear why these tools are so powerful and how they can support your healing journey. Plus, I share an inspiring moment about savouring positivity to transform attachment patterns...and you’ll be encouraged to focus on your word of the year or month! Don't forget to join the Attachment Recovery Gym for access to workshops like this and more tools to move toward secure attachment! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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3 Things You Do That Makes Anxiety Worse When You Think They’re Pulling Away...& Techniques to Soothe in the Moment 27:34

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Send us a text Download PDF for Accompanying this Ep (10) Do you have an anxious attachment style? Do you feel panicked when it seems like someone you care about is pulling away? Maybe you start overthinking their messages, checking your phone non-stop, or reacting in ways you wish you hadn’t. You’re not alone, and there’s a way through it. In this episode, Carly Ann dives into the 3 things anxious attachers often do that actually make things worse—and how you can calm yourself instead. She breaks down why these habits feel so hard to stop and shares simple steps to soothe your emotions in the moment. Whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or just working on yourself, this episode will help you feel more secure and in control when anxiety strikes. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Lost Motivation and Hope in Your Healing? This Exercise Will Help You Believe in Change Again 14:44

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Send us a text Have you ever felt like change is impossible? Like no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same patterns? If you’re on a healing journey with anxious attachment, you’ve likely experienced moments of doubt, frustration, and even hopelessness. In this episode, Carly Ann offers a powerful exercise to help you rebuild your belief in yourself and your ability to change. Whether you’re feeling stuck or just need a little motivation to keep going, this episode will remind you that change is possible for you. Carly Ann shares practical steps to restore your hope, get re-inspired, and reignite your journey toward becoming more secure in love and life. If you need to move past self-doubt and reconnect with your healing... this one’s for you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Secure Attachment Starts Here: Let Go of These Anxious Patterns 11:49

26 weeks ago11:49

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Send us a text Do you find yourself overthinking every little thing in your relationships? Like making up reasons to text them, holding back your true thoughts, or even pretending you’re totally fine when deep down, you’re not? Maybe you’ve noticed you’re moulding yourself into what you think they want or making excuses for behaviour you know isn’t OK. Sound familiar? In this episode, Carly Ann is getting into the habits that keep you stuck in anxiety and insecure attachment. If you’re tired of losing yourself in relationships, holding back your needs, or feeling like you’re never fully seen, this one’s for you. It’s time to break free from these patterns and start showing up as the secure, confident version of yourself you’re meant to be. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Anxious Attachment? Then This One Question Matters Most (Especially if You're Healing) 9:43

8 weeks ago9:43

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Send us a text FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there’s a question you need to be asking. In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It’s the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far. If you’re still getting triggered, still chasing reassurance, or still forgetting who you are in love, this episode is a must-listen. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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When You're Scared You've Messed Up & Anxious Attachment Has Ruined Everything 13:35

9 weeks ago13:35

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Send us a text FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP If you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you’ve texted when you said you wouldn’t. Maybe you’re beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!” Before you disappear into shame or start rewriting the story that you’re too much, too needy, or never going to change, listen to me in this ep. Carly Ann shares the one thing you need to hear in this moment. It’s the thing that will help you soften the spiral, reconnect with yourself, and start moving forward again (without pretending it doesn’t hurt). It’s not a quick fix.. but it is a powerful shift, and will certainly help you get back on track. If you’ve ever searched: “Why do I always ruin relationships?” “I feel like I’ve messed up again” “Why do I keep going back?” “How to stop being so needy” …this episode is for you. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Common Anxious Attachment Triggers that Set You Off into Worry, Overthinking, & Acting Out 19:41

9 weeks ago19:41

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Send us a text FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP Feeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down . Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them. Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, exploring their reactions, and ready to feel more secure in relationships. 🎧 Attachment triggers, relationship anxiety, anxious attachment podcast, reacting in relationships, healing attachment wounds. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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When Healing You Anxious Attachment Feels Like It's Not Working (You're Stuck in a Cycle & at Rock Bottom) 10:29

10 weeks ago10:29

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Send us a text Register for the free workshop: Breaking the Cycle of Anxious Attachment You've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working? All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you. Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a familiar loop, or questioning if healing is even possible for you, this episode is going to give you what you need right now. Carly Ann speaks from both professional and personal experience, plus shares expert insight about what these "stuck" moments really mean, and what to do when your attachment wounds flare up despite all the work you've done. If your inner critic is loud right now, if you're caught in anxious spirals or shut down, tune in. This is for your healing heart. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Motivation for Anxious Attachment. Listen When You're Triggered, Overthinking, & Feeling Like You're Not Enough 9:33

11 weeks ago9:33

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Send us a text Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth.. If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you. In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break! Listen when you’re feeling low, hurt, triggered, or just stuck in that familiar spiral of overthinking and self-blame. Or even when you just need a motivational boost. This one’s here to remind you, it’s not you, it’s the pattern...and guess what? it can change. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Ghosting! This is Why People Ghost Instead of Speaking with You 9:44

11 weeks ago9:44

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Send us a text Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment , being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one. In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost. If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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What Is Self-Soothing? A Must-Listen for the Anxiously Attached 13:24

12 weeks ago13:24

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Send us a text If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoidant, or constantly battling your own anxious attachment style, you’ve probably heard the advice: just self-soothe. But what does that actually mean? This episode is your go-to if you’ve been confused about what self-soothing really looks like when your anxious attachment is in overdrive, your thoughts are spiralling, and all you want is reassurance. Hit play if you’re tired of being stuck in anxious spirals and ready to learn what it means to self-soothe Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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TWO CBT Tools to Help with Worry & Uncertainty Around Your Relationships (For Anxiously Attached) 13:45

13 weeks ago13:45

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Send us a text If you find yourself constantly worrying... Why haven’t they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you. When you have an anxious attachment style, waiting and overthinking can take over your whole day. In this episode,Carly Ann is sharing two powerful CBT-based tools to help you cope with uncertainty and worry! You’ll hear real-life examples (including my own!) and learn how to gently shift out of panic mode, no matter what someone else is doing. Whether you’re dating, in a situationship, or navigating your own healing, these simple steps will help you feel more secure, grounded, and in control. DOWNLOAD PDF Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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This is How They Really Feel About Ghosting You 9:32

14 weeks ago9:32

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Send us a text Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything? In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s really going on in the minds of ghosters. Do they feel guilty? Do they regret it? Or do they just move on without a second thought? Spoiler: It’s not as simple as you might think. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Obsessed and Overthinking? Here are 3 Signs of Limerence You Need to Know 9:15

15 weeks ago9:15

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Send us a text Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign? You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crush - it’s an all-consuming obsession that can feel like an addiction to this person. It feels crazy - but I assure you you're not In this episode Carly Ann give 3 major signs of limerence, how it differs from real love, and how people are healing. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of longing and obsession, this one’s for you Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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The Real Reason Your Breakup Feels Worse, Your Heartbreak Is Intense, and You Feel Stuck Compared to Others 9:22

16 weeks ago9:22

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Send us a text If you’re going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on? Well, research suggests there’s a reason for that. And in today’s episode, we’re breaking down exactly what makes a breakup feel so unbearable for some people, and what you can do to start feeling better. Stick with me, because by the end of this episode, you’ll have a whole new perspective on your breakup and the tools to move forward. Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Going Through a Break-Up? Want Your Ex Back? or Struggling to Feel OK? - Listen to this Advice from a Break-Up Coach 49:06

16 weeks ago49:06

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Send us a text In this episode of Lessons in Attachment , we’re joined once again by breakup coach Holly from Break Ups and Love to dive even deeper into the challenges of heartbreak and healing. If you missed her first episode on May 26, 2024 , scroll back to listen - it’s packed with insights on navigating breakups. This time, we’re covering some really helpful and interesting topics to support your healing: The urge to get your ex back Feeling like you can’t cope The non-negotiables for healing Managing overwhelming emotions Tarot for breakups Dealing with triggers and reminders Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Inner Child Work for Healing Childhood Trauma & Attachment Wounds (3 Keys) 17:19

17 weeks ago17:19

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Send us a text Healing your attachment wounds and childhood trauma starts with reconnecting with a very important part of you - your inner child. In this powerful episode, we dive into why inner child work is the key to true healing. Our brilliant guest expert shares three essential keys for practicing inner child work in a way that creates real change and healing. Whether you sare recovering from attachment wounds and/or trauma, this conversation will help you nurture the parts of you that need love, safety, and connection. Stay tuned! Carly Ann shares an exclusive clip from a recent mini-workshop inside the Attachment Recovery Gym , giving you practical tools to start your journey today. Get ready to reconnect with your inner child! Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Breaking Free from Jealousy: Healing Your Wounds & Inner Child 20:18

17 weeks ago20:18

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Send us a text Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night... I'm sure you know exactly how all consuming jealousy can be! In this episode, Carly Ann is diving deep into the jealousy through the lens of attachment theory, inner child healing, and reparenting. We’re unpacking why it feels so all-consuming, how it ties to your past, and most importantly - how you can start to break free from its grip. DOWNLOAD PDF FOR THIS EPISODE HERE Other useful links: FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOP FREE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT BUNDLE Follow Carly Ann on Instagram…

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Motivation for When You're Feeling Stuck in Victim Mentality & Getting Triggered by the Small Things in Life 6:59

18 weeks ago6:59