#172: 10 Signs You're Moving From Anxious to Secure Attachment

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How healing is not linear and why everyone's journey looks different
The mindset shifts that show you're stepping out of fear and insecurity
Emotional and relational changes that signal you're building self-worth and self-trust
Learning to let go of control and embrace uncertainty
Practical insights to keep you motivated as you continue your journey

Whether you're just beginning to explore attachment healing or you're deep in the process, this episode offers validation and encouragement to help you stay the course.
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#172: 10 Signs You're Moving From Anxious to Secure Attachment

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published about a year ago

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How healing is not linear and why everyone's journey looks different
The mindset shifts that show you're stepping out of fear and insecurity
Emotional and relational changes that signal you're building self-worth and self-trust
Learning to let go of control and embrace uncertainty
Practical insights to keep you motivated as you continue your journey

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#Society #Relationship #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Stephanie Rigg

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#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships 19:08

5 days ago19:08

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If you deeply fear abandonment, there’s a good chance you’ve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways. In today’s episode, we’re exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonment — especially for those with anxious attachment. We’ll look at why this happens, how it shows up in your relationships, and what it actually costs you when you disconnect from your truth just to stay connected to someone else. You’ll learn: Why self-abandonment is often a survival strategy rooted in early attachment wounds What self-abandonment looks like in dating and relationships The trade-off between authenticity and connection Why the work must begin with us Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#195: Two Simple Principles for a Healthy Nervous System 11:04

12 days ago11:04

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing two key principles for building a truly resilient, balanced nervous system — and why one without the other tends to keep us stuck. We’ll explore: Why nervous system health isn’t about being relaxed all the time The importance of deliberate stress exposure to build capacity and resilience The equally vital need to resource and nourish ourselves through rest, pleasure, and co-regulation How to work with the natural ebb and flow of activation and recovery A simple metaphor to help you reflect on how you’re currently supporting your system Whether you’re feeling burnt out, dysregulated, or just curious about how to better support your emotional wellbeing, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate reframe of what nervous system care can look like. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#194: When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship 18:49

19 days ago18:49

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If you often feel like you're fighting for a place in your partner’s life—like you’re always waiting to be chosen or noticed—this episode is for you. This is one of the most common experiences for people with anxious attachment: that persistent, painful feeling of being sidelined. Of giving so much, while wondering if you even matter to the person you love. And when that becomes a pattern, it can quietly erode your sense of self-worth. In this episode, I’m unpacking: Why anxiously attached people are so sensitive to feeling deprioritised How this dynamic often plays out in anxious-avoidant relationships The emotional cost of constantly striving to be chosen What you can focus on to reclaim your power and stop abandoning yourself in the process Whether you’re currently in a relationship or reflecting on a past one, this conversation will help you make sense of what’s happening and offer practical ways to move forward with more clarity, dignity, and self-trust. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment 12:15

26 days ago12:15

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While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate with anxious attachment can become powerful strengths in our relationships and our lives. I’ll be exploring: Why it’s important to move beyond pathologising anxious attachment The qualities that often develop through lived experience with this pattern How your sensitivity, attunement, and relational depth can become assets The difference between operating from fear vs. secure self-expression How to start embracing your relational gifts without losing yourself Whether you're in the thick of healing or just starting to understand your patterns, I hope this episode leaves you feeling acknowledged for all that is beautiful about you! Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#192: Boundaries vs. Ultimatums 20:39

5 weeks ago20:39

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In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the subtle (but important) differences between requests, boundaries, ultimatums, and dealbreakers. While these words are often used interchangeably, they carry different energies — and understanding those differences can help you communicate more clearly, hold your ground with integrity, and honour your needs without falling into patterns of control, people-pleasing, or collapse. We’ll explore: Why the energy behind your words matters more than the words themselves What makes an ultimatum different from a boundary or dealbreaker The common trap of over-explaining instead of taking aligned action Why communication problems can't be solved in isolation Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#191: Pleasure, Rest, & Feeling Good in a Culture of Chronic Stress 21:16

6 weeks ago21:16

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In this episode, we're exploring why so many of us struggle to access pleasure, rest, and a felt sense of wellbeing — especially in a culture that glorifies productivity, self-sacrifice, and chronic stress. If you've ever felt like slowing down or doing something just because it feels good triggers guilt, anxiety, or even restlessness… you're not alone. We'll look at: How chronic stress and hypervigilance disrupt our ability to feel good Why pleasure and rest often feel unsafe or unearned The role of the nervous system in receiving nourishment and joy How burnout and self-worth issues intersect Small, everyday ways to start rebuilding your capacity for pleasure and ease This episode is a gentle invitation to notice the forces that have pulled you away from yourself — and to begin reclaiming the parts of you that long to feel good. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#190: How to Stop the Anxious Spiral 20:25

7 weeks ago20:25

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If you find yourself spiralling into anxiety — overanalysing a text, catastrophising worst-case scenarios, or feeling like your nervous system is in overdrive — this episode is for you. Today we’re talking about how to stop the anxious spiral before it takes over. I’ll walk you through what actually happens in your body and mind during a spiral, why it makes so much sense if you struggle with anxious attachment, and what you can do to interrupt that cycle in the moment. I’ll also share some longer-term strategies for building resilience and emotional regulation so these spirals become less frequent and less intense over time. We’ll cover: What triggers the anxious spiral and how it gains momentum Simple tools to calm your system and regain perspective Why nervous system regulation is essential to breaking the pattern How self-worth plays a role in stopping spirals before they start Whether you’re in the thick of anxiety right now or want to feel more in control next time it hits, I hope this episode leaves you feeling more grounded, compassionate, and empowered. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#189: Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Jealousy 20:59

7 weeks ago20:59

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Jealousy is one of the most common—and most shamed—experiences for people with anxious attachment. In this episode, we’re exploring where jealousy really comes from, how it manifests in relationships, and why it makes so much sense through the lens of self-worth and attachment wounding. I share personal reflections from my own journey with jealousy, alongside insights to help you understand your patterns with more compassion and clarity. Whether you obsessively compare yourself to others, feel threatened by your partner’s past, or find yourself spinning out when you don’t feel like a priority, this episode will help you start untangling the deeper fears driving those reactions. We’ll cover: Why jealousy is often a symptom of deeper insecurity and low self-worth The difference between jealousy and envy — and why both show up for anxiously attached people Common behaviours (like social media stalking or reassurance-seeking) and why they don’t actually soothe your fears What to do when jealousy arises — and why shame only makes it worse Why building self-worth is the most powerful antidote to chronic jealousy Sign up for the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#188: When Your Relationship Feels Stuck (& What to Do About It) 20:46

8 weeks ago20:46

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Feeling stuck in your relationship? Like things are off, disconnected, or just… heavy? You're not alone. Relationship ruts are common — and they're often more about what's bleeding into the relationship (stress, burnout, life overload) than about the relationship itself. For those in anxious-avoidant dynamics, these ruts can feel especially charged. The anxious partner often wants to fix it, while the avoidant may feel overwhelmed or pressured — leading to even more distance. In this episode, I share 3 powerful shifts to help you move out of a rut and back into connection: Shift your focus to what is working — Appreciation and warmth go further than criticism. Reconnect through something light — Play, fun, and novelty can do what words sometimes can’t. Tend to your own world — Reclaim your centre so the relationship doesn’t carry the full weight of your wellbeing. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#187: Is It Better to Heal While Single or in a Relationship? 24:37

9 weeks ago24:37

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Whether you’re single or partnered, you might find yourself wondering: Am I in the right place to do this work? There’s often an unspoken belief that there’s a “best” time to heal — and that if we’re not doing it in the ideal conditions, we’re doing it wrong. In this episode, I’ll explore: The advantages and limitations of healing while single Why being in a relationship can accelerate your growth (but only under the right conditions) How emotional safety plays a key role in healing Why the question itself might be coming from a place of fear, shame, or comparison How to work with whatever season you're in and meet yourself there Whether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or consciously taking space from romantic connection — this conversation will help you better understand the unique opportunities (and challenges) each path offers. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#186: When Life Hasn't Gone to Plan 21:32

11 weeks ago21:32

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We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan? In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, grief, and disorientation that come when our reality looks nothing like we’d imagined. Whether it’s relationships, career, family, or a more intangible sense of where you “should” be by now — it’s easy to spiral into self-blame, shame, or despair when life veers off course. We’ll explore: Why unmet timelines can stir such deep emotion and shame The hidden comparison traps that make us feel like we’re falling behind How to hold space for grief without collapsing into hopelessness The difference between giving up and gently letting go What it looks like to reimagine your path from a place of self-trust and compassion If you’re navigating a chapter that looks wildly different from what you’d hoped or planned — I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#185: How Caretaking Impacts Our Relationships 21:30

11 weeks ago21:30

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REGISTER FOR MY NEW FREE TRAINING Many of us are taught that taking care of the people we love is the ultimate expression of devotion. But when caring crosses the line into caretaking, it can quietly create deep imbalances in our relationships. Caretaking often stems from anxiety, a need for control, or an old belief that love must be earned through over-functioning — anticipating needs, smoothing over discomfort, managing someone else's feelings or life for them. While it can look like love on the surface, it often leaves both partners stuck: one overextending, the other under-functioning, and both feeling disconnected. In this episode, we explore: The key differences between caring and caretaking How caretaking can create resentment, imbalance, and emotional dependency Why caretaking is often a hidden form of control Signs you might be caught in a caretaking dynamic How to shift towards healthier, more empowering ways of loving and relating Building secure, connected relationships isn't about fixing or rescuing each other — it's about standing alongside each other, with enough trust to let each person take responsibility for themselves. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#184: Understanding the Power Struggle Stage of Relationships 26:45

13 weeks ago26:45

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Most relationships move through a phase where things start to feel harder than they used to. The spark has dimmed, tension is bubbling beneath the surface, and it feels like you’re constantly clashing or misfiring. This is what’s often called the power struggle stage — and while it can be incredibly challenging, it’s also a powerful opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. In today’s episode, we’re talking about: What the power struggle stage is and why it happens How insecure attachment patterns can intensify this dynamic The common traps couples fall into during this phase What to do (and not do) if you want to move through it When the power struggle becomes a sign of misalignment rather than a phase If you’ve found yourself wondering whether you’re growing apart or just navigating something difficult and necessary — this episode is for you. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#183: How to Be a Better Partner 22:19

14 weeks ago22:19

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When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down. But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care. In this episode, we explore: Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationships What it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensiveness How our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising it The importance of meaningful repair after conflict The difference between blame and honest self-reflection Why it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give it These aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space. Free Masterclass: Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#182: What to Do When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Work on Themselves (or the Relationship) 22:38

15 weeks ago22:38

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One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podcasts you love, only to be met with silence, shutdown, or defensiveness. In this episode, we’re exploring what to do when your partner doesn’t seem interested in personal growth or improving the relationship. We’ll talk about why this happens, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to navigate it in a way that honours your own needs without defaulting to blame or control. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or navigating something newer, this conversation will help you feel more grounded and clear in how you show up when things feel one-sided. In this episode, I cover: Why some people resist self-work or relationship growth How attachment styles shape our responses to discomfort and change The difference between inviting vs. demanding growth Why your healing doesn’t depend on your partner's participation What to do when you’ve tried everything and still feel stuck Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop) 26:39

16 weeks ago26:39

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In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it. It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (often those with anxious attachment) to project blame, anger, and sweeping judgments onto those with avoidant attachment styles. But while that instinct may feel validating in the short term, it actually keeps us stuck. This episode is a call for compassion and nuance — not just for others, but for ourselves. Whether you’ve been hurt by someone with avoidant tendencies in the past or are currently struggling with anxious-avoidant dynamics, this conversation will invite you to take a broader, more honest look at the patterns playing out in your relationships and what healing really requires. In this episode, I cover: Why avoidant attachment is so often misunderstood and unfairly vilified How our instinct to blame keeps us stuck in insecure patterns The deeper origins of avoidant attachment — and how understanding this helps build compassion Why anger, blame, and black-and-white thinking won’t help you heal The role of boundaries, discernment, and self-responsibility in moving forward If you're committed to growing into a more secure, grounded version of yourself, this episode is an invitation to pause and reflect on the narratives you’re holding — about others, and about yourself. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#180: 5 Hard Truths About Healing Anxious Attachment 22:39

17 weeks ago22:39

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Healing anxious attachment is a life-changing journey — but it’s not always easy. While moving toward secure attachment can bring more ease, confidence, and healthier relationships, it also requires confronting some uncomfortable truths along the way. In this episode, we’re unpacking five hard truths about healing that will help you set realistic expectations and stay committed to your growth. What We Cover in This Episode: Why healing isn’t always comfortable — and why grief is often part of the process The myth of waking up one day as "fully secure" and what real progress looks like How healing might disrupt your relationships (and why not everyone will like the changes you make) Why you won’t stop getting triggered — but how you can gain more control over your reactions The surprising truth: sometimes you’ll miss your old patterns, even the unhealthy ones Healing doesn’t mean never struggling again. It means showing up differently, practicing new choices, and being compassionate with yourself along the way. If you're in the thick of it, know that you're not alone, and every step forward matters. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust 15:40

18 weeks ago15:40

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Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security. What We Cover in This Episode: Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trust The inverse relationship between trust and control How trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blame A powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your values The biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trust Why building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachment Self-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 💌 Join the VIP List for Healing Anxious Attachment's Birthday Sale 💌 Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#178: When Your Partner Isn't Meeting Your Needs 20:27

19 weeks ago20:27

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It’s painful when you feel like your needs in a relationship aren’t being met. Whether it’s emotional intimacy, quality time, affection, or communication, this can lead to frustration, loneliness, and resentment — especially if you’ve voiced your needs and still don’t see change. In this episode, we’re exploring: Why anxiously attached people so often get stuck around needs What to focus on if you feel stuck in a cycle of unmet needs How to know when it’s a compatibility issue vs. a communication issue If you’ve ever wondered whether your needs are “too much” or felt torn between self-advocacy and keeping the peace, this episode will give you clarity on how to navigate these conversations with confidence and self-respect. Healing Anxious Attachment's 3rd Birthday Sale! Join the VIP list here. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#177: How Social Media Exacerbates Anxious Attachment 23:22

20 weeks ago23:22

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Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media can fuel insecurity, comparison, and even compulsive checking behaviours. In today’s episode, we’re exploring why social media is such a common trigger for people with anxious attachment, the unhealthy patterns it can create, and most importantly, how to navigate it in a way that supports your wellbeing and relationship security. What We Cover in This Episode: Why social media fuels anxiety for anxiously attached people The biggest relationship triggers—who your partner follows, why they won't post about you, and more The comparison trap and how it distorts reality Unhealthy social media behaviours that reinforce insecurity Practical strategies to reduce social media anxiety and feel more secure Link to Episode #165: Why Validation is So Important for Anxiously Attached People Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#176: Conscious Dating: How to Raise Your Standards & Date from Self-Worth 23:32

21 weeks ago23:32

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In today's episode, we're talking all about conscious dating and how you can raise your standards and date from a place of grounded self-confidence and self-worth. Many anxiously attached people struggle a lot with dating, experiencing anxiety, insecurity and self-doubt every step of the way. This can naturally block us from connecting with others in a way that feels healthy and authentic. We'll cover: the importance of dating with intentionality common mindset pitfalls identifying your values, non-negotiables and deal-breakers Resources mentioned Conscious Dating Workshop: Join my Insiders membership on the Premium tier for free access to my Conscious Dating Workshop Higher Love Break-Up Course Secure Together Couples Course Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#175: Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment 18:04

22 weeks ago18:04

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In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection. Key themes covered: The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patterns How perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes) The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonment Why perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closeness How perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacy We discuss practical steps for: Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationships Moving from self-criticism to self-compassion Embracing "good enough" in relationships Building tolerance for imperfection Showing up authentically in relationships Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#174: Anxiety vs. Intuition: How to Tell the Difference 21:07

23 weeks ago21:07

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Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking all about the difference between intuition and anxiety, and sharing some simple tools to know how best to relate to these states and when to listen to the information our body is giving us. We'll cover: anxious attachment and hyperawareness of shifts in people's emotional states trusting our perception but questioning the meaning-making recognising urgency as a key imprint of anxiety treating our anxiety with care and kindness without letting it run the show Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#173: How to Rebuild Self-Worth After a Break-Up 22:17

24 weeks ago22:17

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In today's episode, we're talking about how to rebuild self-worth after a break-up. It's so common, particularly for anxious attachers, to emerge after a break-up feeling incredibly uncertain and lacking in self-worth. We become acutely aware of the extent to which we lost ourselves in the relationship, but often don't know where or how to begin reconnecting with who we are. We'll talk about: why it's so common for self-worth to be damaged after a break-up self-abandonment and self-loss when relationships are under strain deciding to go all in on yourself practical tips for rebuilding self-worth and reconnecting to your authenticity Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#172: 10 Signs You're Moving From Anxious to Secure Attachment 28:38

25 weeks ago28:38

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In today's episode, we’re exploring the key signs that you’re moving from anxious attachment toward greater security. While every healing journey is unique, certain themes consistently emerge as markers of growth. If you're working on healing your anxious attachment style, this episode will help you recognise the shifts happening within you. What We Cover: How healing is not linear and why everyone's journey looks different The mindset shifts that show you're stepping out of fear and insecurity Emotional and relational changes that signal you're building self-worth and self-trust Learning to let go of control and embrace uncertainty Practical insights to keep you motivated as you continue your journey Whether you're just beginning to explore attachment healing or you're deep in the process, this episode offers validation and encouragement to help you stay the course. Join Healing Anxious Attachment to start your journey to secure attachment today! Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#171: How to Transform Your Life 23:36

27 weeks ago23:36

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For our first episode of 2025, we're exploring the journey of creating a life that feels deeply authentic and aligned with who you truly are. Moving beyond societal expectations and the hamster wheel of constant striving, this episode challenges you to embrace courage, honesty, and personal responsibility to make meaningful changes in your life. Key topics covered: Why honesty with yourself is essential for transformation The power of action—and why inaction is a decision too How to reconnect with your deepest desires and yearnings Building capacity for discomfort as a tool for growth Practicing courage and embracing fear as part of the process If you’re ready to step into agency, responsibility, and bravery in 2025, this episode is for you. For those wanting deeper support, I invite you to join me in Homecoming , a six-month mastermind for creating a life filled with joy, freedom, and abundance. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#170: Dating Q&A: Early Dating with Anxious Attachment, Navigating Texting Anxiety, Not Attaching Too Quickly, Prioritising Values Over Chemistry 26:06

30 weeks ago26:06

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In this Q&A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you. We’ll explore: Early dating dynamics: Navigating the vulnerability and uncertainty that comes with getting to know someone new. Not attaching too quickly: Why it happens for those with anxious attachment and how to pace yourself emotionally. Texting anxiety: How to manage the discomfort of waiting for replies and keep yourself grounded. Values over chemistry: Why prioritising what truly matters can help you avoid unhealthy patterns and feel more secure. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#169: Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It & How to Break Free 25:46

31 weeks ago25:46

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In today's episode, we’re diving deep into self-sabotage—those frustrating patterns where we seem to work against our own best interests. Whether it’s procrastination, pushing people away, or avoiding opportunities, self-sabotage can feel like an endless cycle. We cover: What self-sabotage really is : Understanding how it’s often a misguided attempt to keep us safe. Why we get stuck : Exploring the fears, limiting beliefs, and unmet needs that fuel sabotaging behaviour. How to shift these patterns : Where to focus your attention to break the cycle and create new, supportive habits. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#168: How to Support an Avoidant Partner to Open Up 22:16

32 weeks ago22:16

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In this episode of On Attachment , we’re diving into how to support an avoidant partner in opening up emotionally. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by your partner’s emotional distance or found yourself unsure how to help them feel safe in the relationship, this episode is for you. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#167: How to Balance Compassion for Others with Boundaries for Yourself 23:13

33 weeks ago23:13

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In today's episode, we're talking about the delicate balance between compassion for others, and boundaries for ourselves. For those of us who tend towards empathy and curiosity towards others' inner worlds, it's easy to fixate on the "why" behind their behaviours (particularly behaviours we don't like or understand). And while that is an admirable trait, without clear boundaries it can easily veer into self-abandonment. I'll share some thoughts on how to find a balance between compassion and generosity in our interpretation of others' behaviour, while also having clarity and firmness in our self-advocacy and knowing what we can and can't tolerate. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#166: Signs an Avoidant Partner is Deactivating & What to Do About It 26:24

34 weeks ago26:24

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In today's episode, we’re diving into what avoidant partner deactivation looks like and how you can respond to this experience in a way that protects your emotional wellbeing and prevents further spiralling and disconnection. We’ll explore the subtle ways avoidant partners create distance—whether emotionally, physically, or in their communication—and how these behaviours stem from their attachment patterns rather than a lack of care or love. Importantly, we’ll talk about what you can do in these moments to maintain connection without pressuring your partner or compromising your own self-worth. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#165: Why Validation is so Important for Anxiously Attached People 19:59

35 weeks ago19:59

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In today's episode, we're talking all about validation — and specifically, why it is so essential for anxiously attached people in building more security within themselves and in their relationships. Most anxiously attached people are accustomed to feeling chronically invalidated (in part because they tend to do this to themselves), always wondering if they are too much, too needy, too sensitive, too paranoid, and so on. This can lead to over-reliance on a partner or others external to us to determine whether our experience is real and valid. Tune in for a discussion on why validation is so important for anxious attachers, and how we can give ourselves this gift to build more security and self-assuredness. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#164: 5 Unexpected Triggers of the Abandonment Wound 23:19

36 weeks ago23:19

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In today's episode, we're talking all about the abandonment wound — and specifically, five scenarios that might unexpectedly trigger your fears and insecurities around abandonment. When we think about the fear of abandonment, we often imagine scenarios where someone physically leaves us—maybe a breakup or a loved one walking out the door. But the truth is, this fear can manifest in much more subtle and unexpected ways, especially for those of us with anxious attachment patterns. We'll cover: how periods of grief or loss can trigger abandonment fears illness and wanting to be cared for dealing with unexpected life challenges periods of transition or major life changes emotional overwhelm and the need for support Join my new membership, On Attachment Insiders today! Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#163: How to Address a Partner’s Excessive Phone Usage 28:08

37 weeks ago28:08

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In this episode, we dive into the growing issue of phone usage and its impact on relationship satisfaction, especially when one partner feels neglected, ignored and frustrated by the other's screen time. We explore why constant phone use can feel so personal, discuss strategies for approaching the topic constructively, and offer practical ways to set digital boundaries together. If you’re struggling with a partner’s phone habits, this episode will give you tools to foster more connection and understanding. Join my new membership community, On Attachment Insiders 🌎 Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#162: How to Stop Hoping Your Ex Comes Back 13:15

38 weeks ago13:15

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In this episode, we're exploring the common and very human experience of hoping an ex will come back after a break-up, saying they've changed their mind and want to reconcile. Whether you were left unexpectedly or the break-up was a long time coming, the hope that an ex will realise their mistake and come back can be powerful and all-consuming. I'll share some mindset reframes and tools to relate to your hoping differently, so you can validate yourself while still moving forward in a direction that supports your wellbeing and next chapter. Additional Resources Break-up quiz Guided closure meditation Higher Love course (save 50% with coupon code PHOENIX) Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#161: How Fearful Avoidant Attachment Shows Up In Relationships 20:49

39 weeks ago20:49

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In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory. Key points include: Feelings of instability in relationships: Many with fearful avoidant attachment feel fine when single, but painful emotions surface in relationships, often leading to blaming their partner. Impact of partner's attachment style: A hallmark of fearful avoidant attachment is the shift between anxious and avoidant behaviours, which can vary from one partner to the next depending on the attachment combinations. Idealising vs. villainising partners: There’s a tendency to place partners on a pedestal at times, but then quickly villainise them when triggered or threatened. Fear of intimacy vs. longing for connection: Fearful avoidants deeply crave closeness, but a core fear of rejection — often rooted in shame — makes true intimacy feel unsafe. Fear of betrayal and difficulties with trust are also common. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#160: How to Work Through a Trigger 29:32

40 weeks ago29:32

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In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to navigate emotional triggers in a healthy and constructive way. Whether it’s a comment, an argument, or even an unexpected event, triggers can send us into emotional overdrive, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from ourselves. But with the right tools, you can slow down the spiral and regain control over your emotions. I’ll guide you through a simple, four-step process to help you work through triggers in real time. We’ll explore how to pause and ground yourself, tune into what’s happening in your body, examine the story you’re telling yourself about the situation, and identify what you truly need to move forward. If you’ve ever felt hijacked by your emotions and want practical steps to bring more calm and clarity to these moments, this episode is for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why we get triggered and how the body responds to perceived threats The importance of pausing and creating space before reacting How to tune into your body to notice sensations and ground yourself Questions to help you check the story you’re telling yourself about the situation How to discern whether you need to have a conversation or if you can genuinely let it go Identifying what you need to feel empowered and move forward ✨ Download the free cheat sheet on How to Work Through a Trigger here ✨ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#159: 5 Signs You're Ready For a Relationship 17:09

41 weeks ago17:09

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How do you know if you're ready for a relationship? Perhaps you've asked yourself this question — and in today's episode, that's what we're exploring. While I don't believe we ever reach some objective place of being "healed enough" to enter a relationship, I do believe there are certain indicators we can look out for — signs that we're in a strong place mentally and emotionally, which will set us up for the best possible chance at finding and building a healthy partnership. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#158: How to Stop Obsessing About Someone 18:31

42 weeks ago18:31

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In this episode, we’re tackling the challenging topic of obsessive thinking about someone and how to break free from that mental loop that causes suffering. We’ll explore different approaches, including Byron Katie’s The Work as a top-down method for challenging your thoughts, somatic tools to discharge anxiety from the body as a bottom-up approach, as well as the broader work of addressing the insecurities and wounds that often fuel obsessive thinking. By addressing your thoughts, calming your body, and working through your deeper emotional wounds, you can find peace and clarity in your relationships. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#157: 3 Things You'll Notice in Your First Healthy Relationship 16:30

43 weeks ago16:30

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In this episode, we’re exploring three key things you’ll likely notice when you experience your first truly healthy relationship. While healthy relationships are often idealised, they still come with their own challenges. We’ll discuss how they invite vulnerability, reveal where we may have been hiding behind dysfunction, and show us that even secure partners can be imperfect. Finally, we’ll talk about how conflict in a healthy relationship doesn’t disappear, but it feels safer and more productive. Key Points Covered: Vulnerability: When you're in a healthy dynamic, the absence of chaos can feel unfamiliar, and it may expose areas where you’ve avoided vulnerability by leaning on old, dysfunctional patterns. Imperfection in Secure Partners: It’s easy to idealise secure partners as perfect, but it’s important to remember that they, too, are human. The difference is in how they respond to their imperfections and how you both handle those inevitable moments of frustration. Safe Conflict: You’ll realise that disagreements can be handled with mutual respect and a sense of safety, where both partners feel heard and valued, even in moments of tension. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#156: Sex & Attachment: How Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Styles Impact Sexual Dynamics 22:03

44 weeks ago22:03

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In this episode, we’re diving into the how anxious and avoidant attachment styles can influence sexual relationships. Understanding these differences can be crucial for navigating intimacy in your relationship, whether you identify with one of these attachment styles or are in a relationship with someone who does. We’ll cover five key differences in how anxious and avoidant attachment styles experience and approach sex. Emphasis on Emotional vs Physical Intimacy Anxiously attached individuals may place a stronger emphasis on emotional intimacy and connection as a foundation for physical intimacy. In contrast, avoidantly attached individuals might prioritize physical intimacy while keeping emotional vulnerability at arm’s length. Overthinking vs Dissociating When it comes to sex, those with an anxious attachment style may find themselves getting stuck in their heads, overthinking and ruminating on whether they’re pleasing their partner or what their partner might be thinking. Avoidantly attached individuals, however, might struggle to stay present during intimacy, often dissociating or emotionally checking out as a way to manage their discomfort with closeness. Focus on Other vs Focus on Self Anxiously attached individuals often focus heavily on their partner’s needs and feelings during sex, sometimes to the detriment of their own experience. In contrast, avoidant individuals might approach sex with a more self-focused mindset, prioritising their own comfort and boundaries, which can create distance in the sexual connection. Libido / General Openness to Being Intimate Anxious attachment can sometimes lead to a heightened desire for intimacy as a way to secure closeness and reassurance. Avoidantly attached individuals might experience a lower libido or be less open to intimacy, particularly if they feel overwhelmed by emotional closeness. Impact of Relational Tension on Desire for Sex Relational tension can have opposite effects on anxious and avoidant individuals. Those with anxious attachment may seek sex as a way to repair or soothe relational tension, while those with avoidant attachment might withdraw further, seeing sex as a source of pressure rather than connection. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#155: Fearful Avoidant and Anxious Attachment: Key Similarities & Differences 22:14

45 weeks ago22:14

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In today's episode, we're diving into fearful avoidant (AKA disorganised) attachment and how it differs from anxious attachment. We’ll explore how both types are driven by a fear of abandonment and intense emotions, yet differ in their approaches to intimacy, conflict resolution, and communication. Whether you identify with one of these attachment styles or are in a relationship with someone who does, this episode will give you valuable insights into the dynamics at play and how to navigate them for healthier connections. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#154: 4 Reasons You Keep Attracting Situationships 20:56

46 weeks ago20:56

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In today's episode, we’re exploring the common patterns and beliefs that lead people into situationships — those ambiguous, frustrating "almost-relationships" that never quite become something more. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a situationship and wondered why it keeps happening, this episode is for you. We'll dive into four key reasons why you might be attracting these kinds of connections and how to start breaking free from the cycle. Specifically, we'll cover: how a fear of rejection stops you from expressing your desires the saviour complex and trying to change the emotionally unavailable person the tendency to prioritise chemistry over true compatibility and authentic connection tolerating situationships out of a fear that you can't do any better If you’re tired of finding yourself in situationships, this episode will help you identify the underlying beliefs and behaviors contributing to the pattern. You'll learn practical steps to start attracting the kind of relationship you truly want. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#153: 3 Tips for Avoidant Attached People to Experience Healthier Conflict 15:33

47 weeks ago15:33

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This week, we're talking all about how avoidant attached people can experience conflict in a healthier, more productive way. I'll be sharing three tips that will allow you to feel more connected, grounded and in control in the way you approach conflict in your relationship. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#152: 3 Tips for Anxiously Attached People to Experience Healthier Conflict 19:40

48 weeks ago19:40

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In today's episode, I'm sharing three tips for anxiously attached people to improve the way they approach and experience conflict. We cover things like slowing down and saying less, keeping things to one issue, and knowing when to leave the conversation and let things go. Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2 where we cover tips for avoidantly attached people in conflict! Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#136: 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 2) 23:43

1 year ago23:43

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This episode is part two of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns. ⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#135: 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style (Part 1) 23:09

1 year ago23:09

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Today's episode is part one of a two-part series on 20 Traits of the Anxious Attachment Style. I'm going to be running through some of the less obvious expressions of the anxious attachment style, as well as the underlying drivers of these patterns. ⭐️ JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR HEALING ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT ⭐️ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#134: From Conflict to Connection with James "Fish" Gill (@james_fish_gill) 1:10:14

1 year ago1:10:14

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In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by James "Fish" Gill to talk all things conflict and conscious communication. Fish is a coach, teacher and facilitator whose work offers a compassionate paradigm for relating to and transforming moments of conflict in all of our relationships. We cover: why we so easily end up in conflict and opposition with people we love how we unconsciously escalate conflict using compassion and curiosity to understand someone else's perspective holding both positive intention and unintended impact as true reframing defensiveness, withdrawal and other assumed ill-intent... ...and so much more! Learn more about Fish's work: On Instagram: @james_fish_gill Visit his website: leadbyheart.com Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#133: 4 Common Misconceptions About Avoidant Attachment 34:27

1 year ago34:27

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In this week's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're exploring some common misconceptions about avoidant attachment. Avoidant attachment is frequently misunderstood and misrepresented in a lot of online content, and it's so important to me to dispel some of those portrayals and offer something more humanising and more honest about what's going on for avoidant folks. We cover misconceptions around: avoidant people not wanting to be in relationships avoidant people only caring about themselves avoidant people never experiencing anxiety in their relationships avoidant people being unable to change Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#132: Cultivating Secure Love with Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship) 56:09

1 year ago56:09

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In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last. Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including: a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachment key challenges of avoidant attachment negative cycles in anxious-avoidant relationships what to do when one partner doesn't want to go to therapy the importance of validating your partner's emotions (even if you disagree with their position) Julie's tips (as a mum of 6!) for raising secure kids Buy Julie's book Secure Love on Amazon Follow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship Visit Julie's website Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#131: On Getting Back Together with an Ex 26:00

1 year ago26:00

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In today's episode, we're talking all about getting back together with an ex. Facing the prospect of rekindling after a relationship has ended can bring up so many conflicting feelings - longing, optimism and hope, together with fear, worry, self-doubt and anxiety. In helping you navigate the messiness of these situations, I'll be sharing some good reasons and some not-so-good reasons why you might consider getting back together with an ex, and how you can best approach that decision to support yourself and your relationship going forward. ♥️♥️ VALENTINES DAY SALE: SAVE 50% ON HIGHER LOVE AND SECURE TOGETHER WITH CODE "BIGLOVE" ♥️♥️ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self 28:01

1 year ago28:01

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✨ Last chance to join the 28-day Secure Self Challenge ✨ If you've ever come across standard "self-love" advice and it hasn't really landed for you, you're not alone. As great as it would be if we could all click our heels and achieve self-love, the simple reality is that for most of us, that's a far cry from where we're at - and if anything, the pressure to love ourselves can leave us feeling even more broken and hopeless. In today's episode, I'm sharing four pillars of a healthy relationship with self, that go beyond "self-love". These are more concrete, actionable focus areas that you can explore as you build a stronger and more resilient sense of self, and in so doing, reap the rewards in your relationship with others. We'll cover: self-compassion self-care self-respect self-trust Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#129: Building Self-Worth & a Secure Dating Mindset with Dr. Morgan Anderson 52:35

1 year ago52:35

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In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson and we're talking all about building self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence in the context of dating. Dr. Morgan is a licensed clinical psychologist, attachment theory expert, relationship coach, and author of the relationship self-help book, Love Magnet . She is also the host of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. In our conversation, we cover: how insecure attachment styles fuel unhealthy dating patterns how low self-worth and a lack of self-trust impact our dating mindset common shifts that occur as you rewire old patterns and move towards secure attachment practical tools and tips for shifting your dating mindset and building a secure dating persona To connect with Dr. Morgan: Listen to her podcast: Let's Get Vulnerable Find her on Instagram: @drmorgancoaching Visit her website: drmorgancoaching.com Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#128: Why Avoidant People Tend to Struggle with Defensiveness 26:42

1 year ago26:42

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In today's episode, we're talking all about why avoidant partners tend to struggle with defensiveness. While defensiveness is far from being the exclusive domain of avoidant attachment, many people will attest to the fact that avoidant folks are often quick to become defensive in response to relational tension or ruptures - and that this can form a key piece in the negative cycle of many anxious-avoidant relationships. We'll cover: why defensiveness is a natural response to feeling attacked how avoidant partners can perceive relational needs and concerns as personal failings avoidant attachment and emotional expressiveness how you can start to relate to a partner's defensiveness with greater compassion rather than judgment and blame ✨ Click here to join the 28-day Secure Self Challenge ✨ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#127: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others 17:43

1 year ago17:43

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In today's episode, we're talking all about comparison. Comparison is one of those things that we're all susceptible to at some point or another: we compare ourselves based on appearance, personality, success, relationships. It can sometimes seem like there's a neverending list of reasons to feel dissatisfied or inadequate when we look at our lives relative to someone else's. And yet, while comparison is arguably a universal human experience, it's undeniable that some of us struggle with the comparison trap more than others - sometimes to the point where it feels debilitating and destructive to our sense of self. We'll cover: why some people are more susceptible to the comparison trap than others how this tendency interfaces with other struggles like unworthiness, jealousy, anxious attachment, and fear of abandonment how building our self-worth can help us to shift focus away from others and build more genuine self-confidence ⭐️ SIGN UP FOR THE 28-DAY SECURE SELF CHALLENGE ⭐️ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#126: 5 Hard (But Liberating) Truths About Break-Ups 22:12

2 years ago22:12

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In today's episode, we're talking all about break-ups. Break-ups are one of the most challenging and sometimes destabilising emotional experiences we can go through, and there is so much conflicting advice and information on how best to approach the ending of a relationship. In this episode, I'm providing you with some hard (but hopefully liberating) truths about the break-up process, so that you can make the most of the opportunity that your break-up offers to deepen in your self-awareness and your relationship with yourself. DOWNLOAD THE FREE CLOSURE MEDITATION HERE Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#125: How to Live Courageously in 2024 20:54

2 years ago20:54

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For our last episode of the year, I'm sharing my own story about the power of choosing courage over comfort and making bold, scary, uncomfortable choices in the direction of the life that you desire. So many of us cling to familiarity and the known thing, even when it feels draining and deeply at odds with who we want to be and how we want our lives to look and feel. As we say goodbye to 2023 and enter the new year, let us reflect on where we are still hiding or avoiding in our lives, and what might be possible if we embrace a bigger, bolder, braver life that we can truly be proud of. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability 15:11

2 years ago15:11

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts about trust, risk and vulnerability. Many of us would prefer to trust only when we've completely de-risked or have some semblance of certainty that we won't get hurt, but unfortunately this is entirely at odds with the inherent vulnerability of trust. We'll cover: why our fear will always keep us on the lookout for ways in which we might get hurt how trust and vulnerability interface with fear and risk-aversion why we need to let go of trying to control the future how we can start to view trust as a choice rather than a feeling Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#123: 3 Relationship Superpowers 22:51

2 years ago22:51

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In today's episode, we're unpacking three relationship superpowers (which frankly are also life superpowers!). These are the skills and mindset pieces that I wish for everyone to be cultivating as they walk the path of becoming more secure in themselves and in their partnerships. We talk about: discernment and self-trust the importance of humility and curiosity keeping things in perspective Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#122: Why You Should Prioritise Self-Care in a Relationship 19:38

2 years ago19:38

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In today's episode, we're talking all about the importance of self-care in a relationship, and how prioritising self-care can (somewhat counterintuitively) be far more nourishing and constructive for the relationship than being overly focused on the relationship itself. We'll cover: why anxiously attached people tend to obsess over the relationship how neglecting ourselves when the relationship is under strain makes things worse why we should all be prioritising our self-care if we want a thriving relationship with ourselves and our partners Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#121: What is Emotional Availability? 16:00

2 years ago16:00

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In today's episode, we're talking all about emotional availability. Emotional availability is one of those terms that is thrown around a lot on social media - and it seems like everybody is on the lookout for the "emotionally unavailable" people that are to be avoided at all costs. But as always, I think it's important to approach these conversations with nuance and curiosity, before slapping labels on others and declaring them to be the problem. As we discuss in this episode, our focus on others' emotional unavailability can often mask the parts of us that are hiding behind inauthenticity. We cover: what does emotional availability (and unavailability) actually mean why we might be attracted to unavailability in others how emotional unavailability can manifest differently for anxious vs avoidant people how our own unavailability might be impacting our dating patterns Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#120: 10 Tips for Healing an Anxious Attachment Style 29:31

2 years ago29:31

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✨ DOWNLOAD THE FREE PDF GUIDE HERE ✨ In today's episode, I'm sharing 10 tips to start healing your anxious attachment style. While "healing" is not something that really lends itself to a formula or a 10-step plan, having guided thousands of students through the process of healing their anxious attachment I can certainly attest to the key growth areas for most folks with anxious attachment patterns. We'll cover things like getting your mindset right, learning about your nervous system, building self-worth, voicing needs and boundaries, how to have healthier conflict, and diversifying your life so you're not solely focused on your relationship. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#119: Am I People-Pleasing or Just Being Nice? 15:49

2 years ago15:49

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In today's episode, we're talking all about people-pleasing: what it is, why we do it, and how it's different to "just being a nice person". For many of us, people pleasing is second nature. We are so accustomed to accommodating others and burying our own feelings and needs that we don't even realise we're doing it. Unfortunately, this typically leads us to feel disconnected, lonely and exhausted - not to mention it usually backfires insofar as building healthy relationships is concerned. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#118: Why Anxious & Avoidant People Are Drawn to Each Other 20:42

2 years ago20:42

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the common question of why those with anxious attachment patterns are typically attracted to those with avoidant attachment patterns (and vice versa). As we know, this is a very common relationship pairing - which can be confusing when you feel like the challenges of that dynamic are at odds with your preferences and desires. As we'll cover, oftentimes this is driven by subconscious patterns that propel us to recreate the familiar in a way that reinforces our core beliefs about ourselves and others. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#117: How to Know When a Relationship is Worth Fighting For 14:43

2 years ago14:43

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In today's episode, I'm answering a listener's question of "How do I know if my relationship is worth fighting for?" This is a big question, and unfortunately it's one of those messy ones that no one can tell you the answer to. What's worth fighting for according to one person, might be simply too hard and too much for another. We'll cover: fear of regret no matter what we choose focusing on what you can control how to do things differently rather than staying stuck in the same loops 🎉 CLICK HERE TO ACCESS PRE-SALE PRICING (40% OFF) FOR MY NEW RELATIONSHIP COURSE, SECURE TOGETHER 🎉 Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#116: 5 Things to Normalise in Long-Term Relationships 22:27

2 years ago22:27

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In today's episode, we're talking all about things that we need to normalise in long-term relationships. So much of the time, our expectations about our relationships - that they should be harmonious 100% of the time, that we should love everything about our partner, that we should never doubt or question our choices - leave us feeling confused and anxious. When really, the problem is not with our relationship - it's with the pressure we've placed on our relationship to meet an unrealistic standard of perfection. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#115: 5 Things Secure Couples Do Well 23:04

2 years ago23:04

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In today's episode, we're talking about 5 things that secure couples do really well to build safety, intimacy and connection in their relationships. We'll cover: raising important issues and knowing when to let things go prioritising connection, play and intimacy validating each other's experience rather than needing to be right balancing togetherness and separateness engaging in meaningful repair when things go awry ⭐️ Get my FREE masterclass, Where Anxious Avoidant Couples Go Wrong ⭐️ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#114: Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Q&A (feat. my partner Joel) 33:25

2 years ago33:25

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In today's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're answering your questions about how we've navigated aspects of the anxious-avoidant dynamic in our relationship. We talk about: doing "the work" individually and as a couple how we've built trust and safety over time how we manage conflict and have hard conversations Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#113: How Stress Impacts Our Relationships 27:11

2 years ago27:11

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In today's episode, we're talking all about stress and the profound impact it can have on our relationships. We live in a world where stress is chronic and constant - and not only does that spell trouble for our health and wellbeing, but it can leave us feeling lonely, resentful and disconnected in our partnerships. We'll cover: how stress can exacerbate existing attachment dynamics why we aren't designed for chronic stress and what it does to us how our nervous system's stress response affects our perception and our stories tips for managing stress more adaptively as an individual and within your relationship Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#112: When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Do The Work 18:19

2 years ago18:19

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In today's episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship. This is an incredibly common dynamic, to have one partner who wants to actively work on things and another partner who is more resistant (which can often overlap with anxious-avoidant dynamics). We'll cover: why your partner might be feeling resistant to doing "the work" how different people make meaning out of needing to work on a relationship ways to dismantle fear stories your partner might have why it's entirely valid to value growth in a partnership Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness 16:33

2 years ago16:33

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In today's episode, we're talking all about trust & trustworthiness. Trust is something that many people struggle with, oftentimes as a direct result of past experiences where trust has been breached. And as we'll discuss in today's conversation, trust is about so much more than honesty. My hope is that you'll walk away from today's episode with greater clarity about why you might struggle with trust, and the steps you can take to remediate this in your relationships. We'll cover: the interplay between trust and trustworthiness the five pillars of trust how self-trust and relational trust are connected building trust through small acts over time Click here for my Building Trust masterclass 💻 Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#110: What Healthy Interdependency Looks Like & How to Cultivate It 20:38

2 years ago20:38

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In today's episode, we're exploring healthy interdependency. Interdependency is often cited as a key trait of secure functioning relationships, and yet many of us lack a clear picture of what healthy interdependency actually looks and feels like - especially if you have a history of insecure attachment patterns. We'll cover: the spectrum from codependency to hyper-independence interdependency as a healthy middle ground how different attachment styles relate to codependency, independence and interdependence signs of healthy interdependency in a relationship JOIN THE WAITLIST FOR MY NEW COURSE ON ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT RELATIONSHIPS Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#109: Anxious Attachment & Open Relationships 12:52

2 years ago12:52

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts around anxious attachment & open relationships. While not being my personal experience, this is an area I receive a lot of requests and questions around, as various non-monogamous relationship structures grow in popularity. We'll cover: common struggles of anxious attachment and how they might show up in an open relationship structure the importance of having a strong relationship to self when exploring open relationships communication, boundaries and self-advocacy why you should never agree to open a relationship just to hold onto someone Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#108: How to Navigate Different Love Languages 16:34

2 years ago16:34

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You've probably heard about the 5 Love Languages as pioneered by Gary Chapman. In this episode, I’ll share how to navigate the very common situation of having different love languages to your partner. We'll also cover how love languages interface with anxious-avoidant dynamics, and offer insights and practical tools on how you can share your love language with your partner so they can understand how to love you the way you want to be loved (and vice versa)! We’ll cover: The 5 love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gift giving, and quality time The benefits of knowing your love language, and your partner's How love languages play out in anxious-avoidant dynamics Find me on my new Youtube channel - https://www.youtube.com/@stephanierigg/ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#107: Q&A: Mismatched Libido & Anxious-Avoidant Sexual Dynamics 16:52

2 years ago16:52

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Mismatched libido in a relationship is a challenge that a lot of couples face. In today’s episode, I’ll be answering a listener's question of how to navigate mismatched libido in a relationship, particularly in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. I’ll guide you on strategies to break the anxious-avoidant spiral, by initiating open dialogue and finding a middle ground between both partners. We’ll cover: Why it's unrealistic to expect your libidos to be in sync all the time How anxious and avoidant attachment styles relate to sex and intimacy Tips for reframing a partner's lack of interest in sex Use the code PODCAST50 for 50% off the Sex and Attachment Masterclass - https://www.stephanierigg.com/sex-attachment Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#151: My 3 Favourite Quotes on Life & Love 13:36

48 weeks ago13:36

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In today's episode, I'm sharing with you some wisdom from three of my favourite writers and teachers on life, love and relationships. These quotes, from authors James Clear, Elizabeth Gilbert, and Brene Brown, have been hugely formative for me in my own journey and I hope you love them as much as I do. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#150: A Hard Truth About Setting Boundaries 15:59

49 weeks ago15:59

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In today's episode, we're talking about boundaries. Boundary setting is one of those areas that we hear about so much in the personal development world, and yet bridging the gap between theory and practice remains a challenge for most of the folks that I work with (particularly those with an anxious attachment style). We'll cover: why boundary setting is so hard for people with insecure attachment patterns how anxious and avoidant attachment styles differ in boundary setting the truth about boundaries in healthy relationships how to navigate a fear that setting boundaries will lead to the relationship falling apart Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#149: 3 Life Lessons I Wish I'd Learned Sooner 14:47

51 weeks ago14:47

14:47

In today's episode, I'm sharing three life lessons that I wish I'd learned sooner. These are around the theme of self-awareness, personal responsibility and consciously creating the life that we want for ourselves. Last chance to join The Secure Self Challenge ! Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#148: How Resentment Impacts Our Relationships 15:02

52 weeks ago15:02

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In today's episode, we're tackling the pervasive issue of resentment in relationships. We explore why resentment occurs, its impact on relationships, and how to address and resolve these feelings. We cover: what resentment signals to us about ourselves why certain people are more prone to resentment the link between resentment and poor boundaries, suppression of needs and avoiding conflict how we can shift out of victimhood and take responsibility for our part in a dynamic Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#147: 5 Traits To Look For in a Partner 16:52

1 year ago16:52

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In today's episode, we're unpacking five traits that everybody should be looking for in a prospective partner. It's so easy when dating to become swept up in a connection and inadvertently overlook some of the fundamental attributes we should all be seeking in a relationship. The five traits we discuss in this episode are: emotional self-awareness integrity and trustworthiness consistency, reliability and dependability humour and playfulness kindness Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#146: How to Reconcile Conflicting Relationship Advice 22:43

1 year ago22:43

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Have you ever found yourself seeking out relationship advice online only to be bombarded with pages of seemingly conflicting and contradictory opinions? If so, you're not alone - and today's episode is for you. I'm going to be sharing 5 examples of contradictory relationship advice that you may have encountered and struggled to make sense of, so that you can understand the nuances and practise discernment in finding the right way forward for you. We cover: going after a life you love AND learning to be content with what you have knowing what you want in a partner AND not being overly prescriptive not dating someone for their potential AND wanting someone you can grow with not changing yourself to earn someone's love AND wanting to be your best self to attract a healthy partner the importance of feeling your feelings AND knowing when it's okay to distract yourself Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#145: 3 Fights Every Anxious-Avoidant Couple Has Had 25:36

1 year ago25:36

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In today's episode, I'm unpacking three common pain points that virtually all anxious-avoidant couples will encounter at some point in their relationship. We'll talk about why these particular fights are so common, and what they're really about - so you can approach them next time with more empathy and understanding, and avoid the disconnection and hurt that comes with the typical anxious-avoidant trap. Secure Together Course (save 50% with code HEYBABY): secure-together.com Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#144: Why You Struggle to Let Go After a Break-Up (Even When They Were "Bad" For You) 16:11

1 year ago16:11

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on why you might struggle to let go of someone after a break-up - especially in circumstances where you logically know that they were "bad" for you. This is such a common experience, particularly for those with anxious attachment - feeling pulled in two different directions between what you know is best vs what your body and attachment system is urging you to do. We cover: the importance of managing expectations after a break-up why it's normal to miss your ex (without it meaning anything) why unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships can be even harder to let go of treating moving on as a choice rather than a feeling\ If you're going through a break-up, check out my Higher Love break-up course (& save 50% with the code HEYBABY). Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#143: Navigating Conflicting Needs for Togetherness & Separateness in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships 15:29

1 year ago15:29

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In today's episode, we're exploring the tension between the conflicting needs for time together and time apart that can so often become a source of friction in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Specifically, I'm sharing a simple but very effective tip that will both reduce separation anxiety for the anxious partner, and increase the avoidant partner's comfort with time spent together, creating a win-win for both partners and reducing the likelihood of repeated ruptures. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#142: 5 Signs You Struggle With Receiving 17:43

1 year ago17:43

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In today's episode, we're talking all about receiving. For many of us, being the giver in our relationships is our comfort zone - which can lead to imbalances, unmet needs, and resentment. But while we may bemoan the lack of reciprocity in our relationships, there is a vulnerability to receiving that many of us are uncomfortable with. We cover: the tendency to consistently end up in imbalanced relationships difficulty directing asking for what you want or need feeling guilty or burdensome when people support or accommodate you struggling to accept compliments or praise discomfort with being the centre of attention Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#141: "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?" 21:47

1 year ago21:47

21:47

In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the listener question of "Is it wrong to hope my partner will change?" Wanting to change a partner is something most of us will relate to in one form or another, but it's essential that we understand where this urge is coming from and what it's trying to tell us about ourselves, our partner, and the relationship. Some of the things we cover: wanting to change little things vs big things how anxious and avoidant attached people differ in wanting to change their partner changes that relate to core relationship needs my advice when you're hoping they'll change without any signs that they want to Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#140: How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relationship 15:58

1 year ago15:58

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Are you someone who tends to go from 0 to 100 at the start of a new relationship? In today's episode, we're exploring how to not lose yourself when you start dating someone new (although the advice also applies to people already in an established relationship who feel they've lost touch with themselves). This dynamic is particularly common among those with an anxious attachment style, who tend to become overly fixated on a connection at the expense of other areas of life. Tune in for tips on how to pace yourself in the early stages of a relationship so that you can deepen into a connection in a balanced, sustainable way that sets you up for long-term security and success. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#139: Reflections on Self-Trust, Control & Surrender 20:35

1 year ago20:35

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some reflections from my recent experience of pregnancy and birth on self-trust, control and surrender. These are themes that most folks with insecure attachment patterns struggle with, and learning to trust in your capacity to navigate life's ups and downs with confidence and agency is a huge step on the path to building secure attachment. For more episodes on building trust, check out: Ep 130: The Pillars of a Healthy Relationship with Self Ep 124: On Trust, Risk & Vulnerability Ep 111: The Pillars of Trust & Trustworthiness Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#138: What to Do When a Partner Pulls Away 24:13

1 year ago24:13

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away. We'll cover: what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating context why we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent how to navigate a partner repeatedly leaving and coming back what to do when a long-term partner is emotionally withdrawn or distant Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#137: Self-Soothing for Anxious Attachment 21:26

1 year ago21:26

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In today's episode, we're talking all about self-soothing and anxious attachment. For most anxiously attached folks, self-soothing and self-regulation can be a real struggle. This typically shows up as an over-reliance on others (often a partner) to be our sole source of safety and reassurance when we experience emotional distress, and an accompanying sense of helplessness and panic if and when they are not available to perform that role. We'll cover: why anxiously attached people struggle to self-regulate how an inability to self-soothe impacts our relationships mindset shifts and practices to start building your self-soothing toolkit ⭐️ Last chance to sign up for Healing Anxious Attachment ⭐️ Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#106: Retroactive Jealousy: Navigating Discomfort With Our Partner's Past 16:19

2 years ago16:19

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Retroactive jealousy is one that focuses on the past, fixating on other partners or stages in your partner's lives and being threatened by it. In today’s conversation, I’ll dive into how such jealousy stirs immense stress, but more importantly, we share insights into building healthier, more resilient relationships. We'll cover: Impacting our self worth Looking for skeletons and reasons to not trust If you should share the jealousy with your partner Keeping yourself in an unhealthy loop Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#105: "How to navigate being newly single in my mid-30s? I feel like I'm out of time." 14:30

2 years ago14:30

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With societal pressures and a ticking clock, being newly single in your mid-30s can be challenging. In today’s episode, I want to share advice on navigating being newly single and the mindset for dating, and honouring the desires you have without feeling hopeless or overwhelmed. We'll cover: Grieving a future you thought you would have The opportunity for reframe Comparisons to other people’s lives Creating a full and vibrant life for yourself Use the code PHOENIX for $150 off the Higher Love Course https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#104: The Importance of Separateness in Relationships 17:51

2 years ago17:51

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As an anxiously attached person, space in a relationship can sometimes feel like the biggest threat. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own experience with this and advice on how you can consciously choose space and separateness to foster greater intimacy in your relationship, especially in a time where you may feel more drawn to stay connected. We'll cover: Wanting to close the gap and be closer Advice for how to reset and nurture separateness Things to do to focus on your own self-trust and security Creating a healthier, more balanced relationship Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#103: How to Help a Partner Struggling with their Mental Health 18:12

2 years ago18:12

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Looking out for someone who you care for that is going through a hard time is a challenge most of us will have to face in our lifetimes. But feelings of threat to the relationship, especially as an anxious attached person may come up in these times, and I want to help you navigate through these while prioritising your wellbeing, and not overstepping. We'll cover: Monitoring your “fixing” the situation Ways to support someone and yourself How you can be a balanced supportive person Nothing changes, unless something changes. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#102: Break-Up Q&A: No-Contact, Reconciling, and Guilt 16:07

2 years ago16:07

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In today's episode, I'm answering your questions on the topic of break-ups. Break-ups are a universally challenging experience, and an area that I receive a lot of questions on. So today I'm answering your questions on: what is a no-contact period and how best to implement it? when is it a good idea to reconcile with an ex? how to deal with guilt around knowing that I need to break up with someone but worrying about hurting them? Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#101: Navigating Long-Distance Relationships: Tips & Pitfalls 21:53

2 years ago21:53

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In today’s episode, we’re exploring long-distance relationships. Despite the old adage of “absence makes the heart grow fonder”, many people tend to really struggle with long-distance relationship structures. We’ll cover: Why it’s normal and natural to struggle with long-distance How attachment dynamics can exacerbate long-distance challenges Tips for maintaining connection while apart Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#100: How to Stop Taking Things So Personally 19:29

2 years ago19:29

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In today’s episode, I’m answering a listener’s question on how to stop taking things so personally. This is something a lot of us struggle with, and can lead us to internalise others’ behaviour in ways that damage our self-esteem and exacerbate our suffering. We’ll cover: Why you might take things personally The link between people pleasing and taking things personally How to approach these situations differently Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#99: Attachment Styles & Break-Ups 23:39

2 years ago23:39

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In today’s episode, we’re talking all about attachment styles and break-ups. While of course, break-ups are messy, personal and far from formulaic, there are undeniably certain themes in how our break-ups feel that can be traced to our attachment patterns. Understanding the ways in which attachment drives can shape how we relate to and experience break-ups is essential in finding greater compassion for our own experience, and depersonalising someone else’s behaviour to the extent that they’re processing the transition differently to us. Use the code PHOENIX to save $150 off Higher Love - https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#98: Ghosting: Why It Happens & How to Process 15:45

2 years ago15:45

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Does ghosting leave you feeling anxious, confused, and questioning your self-worth? If so, you’re not alone. Today, we're diving deep into this all-too-common dating phenomenon. We'll explore why ghosting occurs, the common impacts it has on self-esteem, and how to give yourself the closure and peace you desire. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#97: How a Fear of Abandonment Impacts Our Relationships 18:45

2 years ago18:45

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In today's episode, we're diving deep on the abandonment wound - a fear that lies at the heart of many insecure attachment patterns and relational dynamics. A fear of abandonment can show up in so many ways, and can keep us from experiencing relationships in a way that feels trusting, safe and secure. We'll cover: how it feels to fear abandonment in your relationship different forms of abandonment (physical, emotional) relational behaviours that a fear of abandonment can lead to the link between self-abandonment and a fear of abandonment Last Chance For This Round to Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#96: The Importance of Discomfort in Life & Relationships 23:22

2 years ago23:22

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In today’s episode, we’re talking all about discomfort — specifically, why it’s so essential in any healing journey to reframe the way we approach and relate to getting uncomfortable. Most of us recoil at the first sign of discomfort, preferring to stay squarely within the domain of what we know and can control. But this often means we’re confining ourselves to a very limited experience of what’s possible in our lives. We’ll cover: Why we tend to gravitate towards what is familiar and known How embracing discomfort builds resilience Physical protocols for exploring discomfort Building our emotional capacity for discomfort Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#95: 3 Essential Ingredients to Make a Relationship Work 22:02

2 years ago22:02

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Have you ever wondered why your relationship struggles persist, even when you love each other and have tried and tried to make it work? In today's episode, I'm sharing three essential ingredients to make a relationship work. These are fundamental pillars of healthy, lasting partnership - and yet, for a lot of people, one or more of these puzzle pieces are missing. We'll cover: the importance of structural compatibility (ie, wanting the same thing) being willing to invest in the relationship and the work it takes to make it thrive the issue of capacity and how to know when someone can't give you what you're asking for (despite their best intentions) Join Healing Anxious Attachment here ! 🎉 Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#94: The Path to Healing Anxious Attachment 34:27

2 years ago34:27

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Anxious attachment can be incredibly exhausting - but it doesn't have to govern your future. And in today's episode, I'm going to be laying out the path to healing anxious attachment, walking you through the core pillars of my methodology. We'll discuss the importance of self-regulation and how we can start to build self-trust and safety from within rather than depending solely on a partner to make us feel secure. We'll also delve deep into the core beliefs that drive anxious attachment, and how addressing these stories and wounds can liberate us from the fear of abandonment and feelings of unworthiness. Join My Signature Program, Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#93: Why Are "Toxic" Relationships So Hard to Recover From 22:21

2 years ago22:21

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Have you ever wondered why it can be so challenging to recover from toxic relationships? Why the drama and unpredictability leave you feeling more disoriented and overwhelmed than relieved? In today's episode, I'm here to guide you through this complex terrain. We'll unravel the dynamics of such relationships and expose the confusion, grief, and shame that often accompany them. It's a hard road, but I'm here to help you navigate through it. We'll dig into practical tools to assist you in the recovery process, and learn how to move on in a healthy way. We'll cover: why we can feel more confused than relieved post-break up how shame and isolation that can keep us cut off from our support networks why closure can be particularly elusive after dysfunctional relationships Join the waitlist for Healing Anxious Attachment https://www.stephanierigg.com/healing-anxious-attachment Heal from your break up, build deep self confidence, and find healthy, aligned love https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-love Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website…

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#92: How to Manage Jealousy in Relationships 21:00

2 years ago21:00